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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 4:27:44 AM

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For us also, the needs of the relationship are always paramount.

He is still the person he has always been. One who thinks before he speaks, and one who does not practice casual cruelties on others. He is highly protective of those he loves and I am still grateful to be in that number. 5 years living together, 8 altogether and we're still going strong.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 6:38:42 AM

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That is so sweet and amazing, congratulations! I hope to be close to where you are in the future with my fiance, who is my best friend, who happens to be my Master also.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 7:10:07 AM

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Congratulations, Bita!
I enjoy reading your posts but I must admit this one is my favorite!

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 9:05:15 AM

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Thanks to those of you that took the time to reply to my question. I guess what I was attempting to "get across" and did a really poor job of it is. Happiness comes from within not from externals... If a "new something" <say a car, girl> makes you happy your value system is bankrupt.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 9:31:57 AM

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quote:

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Sir, you still rock my world.

I really love that you still love to beat my ass.

So, those are some of the reasons that our relationship works.

I'm picturing these three lines rendered in Hallmark Edwardian Script, surrounded in gold foil and floral embossing.

But in all seriousness, congratulations, Celeste. It's nice to see examples of relationship longevity on the boards.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 10:02:34 AM

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It's been so good to see you back on the boards, Bita! I had hoped to have a similar story but was only allowed 2 years before my Santa's untimely passing. It's so good to be able to read positive stories. It gives me hope for my future.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 10:09:26 AM

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quote:

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Thanks to those of you that took the time to reply to my question. I guess what I was attempting to "get across" and did a really poor job of it is. Happiness comes from within not from externals... If a "new something" <say a car, girl> makes you happy your value system is bankrupt.

BadOne

While I completly agree that if materialistic goods is where you get your happiness then you've got a problem... and that we should find happiness within ourselves... but, if you can't understand what a loving relationship can contribute to an even greater happiness in life then I think that you're the one who's bankrupt.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 11:38:13 AM

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Yep yep of course im bankrupt sure sure you agree and then disagree HUH... Ppl like objects can enhance your life much like AC on a hot summer day... not wanting to hijack the thread nor rain on this "happy fest" I wont bother explaining however the curious one should perhaps reexamine...

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 11:54:55 AM

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Bita, thank you for taking the time to write that piece and for being willing to share it. I really do love hearing the success stories. Plus, I'm very glad to see you back.

SB, I honestly don't see this as an outside validation. Maybe that's because I have a tendency to enjoy sharing the good stuff. (I share the bad stuff, too, but that's another topic.) It's contagious.

It makes people look at the positives in their lives and appreciate them. We could all use with a little more of that.

Or would you rather have more fantasy threads?

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 12:05:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Thanks to those of you that took the time to reply to my question. I guess what I was attempting to "get across" and did a really poor job of it is. Happiness comes from within not from externals... If a "new something" <say a car, girl> makes you happy your value system is bankrupt.

BadOne

Yeah I disagree as well. For some of us, helping other people, being part of other people's lives is what we are and while maybe self-validation isn't the correct word, it's certainly something that is essential to our being. I also wouldn't agree that a primary love relationship is remotely close to physical belongings and can be an incredibly intregal part of your existence.

I don't come here for self-validation, but I do celebrate the victories and milestones of the people I have grown to care about here, there's a big difference. I also think that your assumption that the boards are the extent of the personal relationships formed here is obviously incorrect. I have a sneaking suspicion you aren't as "bankrupt" as you put out there though SB.

Grats again Celeste, and I wish you many more to come!

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 12:21:23 PM

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Bita,

Thank you for sharing your story. It's heartwarming to know that happiness can be found when the pieces are well matched. I hope the future gives you all you deserve and then some. I wish you and yours continued bliss.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 12:58:52 PM

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In order to continue what might be an interesting topic but leave this thread to it's happy purpose... I've started a post in off topic "Being Happy" sorry I can't paste the link... I'm on a mobile phone.

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 1:35:24 PM

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I believe a good relationship is one in which everyone feels spoiled by the other(s).

We refused to compromise on who we are, in fact I have made him say no to me because it's vital he stays true to himself above anything else. If that fails, we fail.

Luck- I don't deny there's a fair bit of that

I'm too stubborn to quit and he's too pleasing to risk leaving. :)

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RE: Why it works for us... - 6/3/2010 11:19:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Thanks to those of you that took the time to reply to my question. I guess what I was attempting to "get across" and did a really poor job of it is. Happiness comes from within not from externals... If a "new something" <say a car, girl> makes you happy your value system is bankrupt.

BadOne

Well, I wouldn't call a 15 year relationship "new", in this case.

While I agree happiness comes from within, sometimes being with someone who helps us open doors within ourselves, who brings forth from us a freedom of spirit we have not experienced before, and who fully accepts us (no matter what type of relationship dynamic)...well that can certainly add to ones degree of happiness. Otherwise, what's the point in partnership? Or even friendships? Good and healthy relationships enhance our lives for a better experience. The shortcut to that is sometimes, "You make me happy", as opposed to going through the entire explanation.

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