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I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 1:43:00 PM   
MistressMaxine


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Status: offline 		I am planning a session soon and want to incorporate the things to teach my sub a lesson.  For instance, he is a very messy person so, I once through rice on the ground and he had to kneel on it and pick each piece up as I whipped him (that was a good one!) Any other suggestions for messy, lazy, lateness?
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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 2:09:25 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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Status: offline 		That's a nice scene, but did it cure him or teach him a lesson?
I am of the school that the lesson should be directly related to the fault.  I prefer to have the punishment fit the crime.  It is easy to fall into the trap of not realizing you are actually rewarding and exciting the submissive with your punishment.
If he enjoyed it, then there was no lesson learned, other than that he can get his wants met by messing up in areas that annoy you.
What does he want?  Deny him his wants, until he creates the pleasing habits necessary to earn them.
Messy?  In what ways? 
Drops his clothing on the floor?  Now he has to hand wash, line dry and iron every stitch.  I don't really care if we are talking about cotton jockey shorts. 
Leaves the kitchen sloppy?  No dishwasher use, and here's a toothbrush to clean every corner. 
Doesn't clean the bathroom sink?  A tongue cleaning will often do the trick.
Wants to be naked while he does his chores?  Find the most uncomfortable and restrictive clothing possible and make him do his chores in that.
Always tardy?  Deny the pleasure of your company.  He was late so now he goes home or misses the event or evening plans.  Too bad.


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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 2:19:35 PM   
DiannaVesta


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Status: offline 		I got a good one.. don't give him the time of day until he learns not to be so messy. That will cure him.

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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 2:41:13 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		Banishment is the worst punishment.

Once he realizes that he will get the cold shoulder - he will do anything to change the behavior causing it.

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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 3:05:41 PM   
DiannaVesta


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Banishment is the worst punishment.

Once he realizes that he will get the cold shoulder - he will do anything to change the behavior causing it.



Exactly! If the two of you get off on these games of whippy spanky predent to punish me, that's cool. Whatever floats your boat! If you want to break a bad bahavior in a male and truly dominant him you take away what he longs for the most REALLY then make him beg, grovel and suffer for you. That's what I'm talking about! lol


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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 3:11:58 PM   
MistressMaxine


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your answers...I appreciate them.
I've done banishment and it works...he comes to me like a puppy afterwards and learns his lesson- which is lovely; however, I do enjoy the little games and the physical punishment.
I prefer mental torture just as much as the physical, so to have him do little deeds that correspond to the lesson he needs to learn is what thrills me, and in the end makes him a better sub for it!

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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 3:49:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Another idea:

Make him do "homework". Make him write "I will keep a clean house for my Goddess" 500 times (about an hour), or 1,000 times (about two hours) every night for a week.

The phrase should be something you want burned into the very fabric of his being.

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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 5:53:51 PM   
MizSuz


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Banishment is the worst punishment.

Once he realizes that he will get the cold shoulder - he will do anything to change the behavior causing it.



Indeed.  And it's so easy on the lady's nerves, too.

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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 5:56:01 PM   
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The phrase should be something you want burned into the very fabric of his being.



The phrase is:

"Politeness is to do and say the kindest things in the kindest way."



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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 6:19:53 PM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		Next time he comes over to play and he messes up the place , tell him that  this constant  disrespect for your home  is taking your mind off wanting to be with him.Then go off making a real mess to the point that he sees how angry you are .Go to the dollar store and buy some glass wear so you break it in front of him .Let him see you get out of hand  ...then leave him to clean it up with the promose that if it is not , do not  plan on coming back...

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RE: I need some good "lesson's" - 4/10/2006 6:36:29 PM   
MstrssPassion


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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

I got a good one.. don't give him the time of day until he learns not to be so messy. That will cure him.


ditto

until he has a clean place, don't visit
until he gets off his ass & shows a measure of motivation, don't acknowledge his existence
if he shows up late, leave & refuse to meet again

I agree with GoddessDustyGold as well. Rice on the floor, cool scene but it obviously did not correct the undesired behavior or you wouldn't be complaining about him being a messy person now.

Playing into this guy... basically rewarding bad behavior is not going to accomplish a thing.

Time for you to step up... are you going to play games or are you going to take control of the situation. No wrong choice here, but the choice is yours.

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