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Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 2:29:46 PM   
tappin


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Status: offline 		Do you Mistress prefer completely obedient subs or subs who have an attitude?

I am actually quite arrogant and ambitious, but I am a sub inside, I want to be controlled, but would a Domme waste time to make me submit or would just say "If you don't submit, then there is no point of having you as a slave" and leave?

*Edit* It's more of an erotic thing I guess. Like if a domme pins down me and says "Are you going to meow like kitty" I would say something like "Only if I get some milk" while a complete sub would be something like "Yes Mistress Mew mew mew". I didn't mean like not obeying any orders. I guess it's a bit hard to explain. >.< Maybe like "Mr and Mrs Smith"?

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 2:37:04 PM   
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but would a Domme waste time to make me submit
the keyword here is waste.

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 2:40:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		i agree with holly. why would i WASTE my time if you would virtually fight me every step of the way? imho, you need to really asses why you still believe you are a submissive even though you insist on being a hard ass with a domme.

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 2:51:54 PM   
tappin


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Status: offline 		Because Dommes like to get things the easy way, I prefer someone who likes a challange. It's more of an erotic thing I guess. Like if a domme pins down me and says "Are you going to meow like kitty" I would say something like "Only if I get some milk" while a sub would be something like "Yes Mistress Mew mew mew". I didn't mean like not obeying any orders, I meant obeying but still being arrogant or confident.

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 3:05:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tappin

Do you Mistress prefer completely obedient subs or subs who have an attitude?

What kind of attitude...negative:  hostile/arrogant...positive:  pleasing/confident...?  I see obedience as a behavior that could co-exist with a number of different attitudes. 
If you're focused more on the negative as opposed to the positive, I would suggest you address your issues before bringing them into a D/s dynamic.

I am actually quite arrogant and ambitious, but I am a sub inside, I want to be controlled, but would a Domme waste time to make me submit or would just say "If you don't submit, then there is no point of having you as a slave" and leave?

Ambition is a good/positive trait, imo.  I wouldn't think that would stop you from participating in a D/s relationship of some kind.   In fact, it would benefit you greatly.
Arrogance, on the other hand..........
 
As to whether or not a dominant woman would "waste" time on you, I had a quick look at your profile and to be honest you give me the "I'll be your slave if you do it my way...but I don't want to sound like I'm bossing you around...but can we just do this my way" vibes.
In other words...why do you identify as submissive and what does that mean to you? 


*edited for spelling

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 3:14:47 PM   
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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 3:21:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		The vast majority of the slaves I have had are bigger taller and stronger than me.  I can't MAKE them do anything. I can encourage and inspire them to push their limits. But I am not fighting a grown man to try to make him do something he has previously said he wanted to do. If you are a submissive it stands to reason you would submit.

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 3:43:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like your idea of "submitting" is not what most of us think of.

There's a saying, "It's power EXCHANGE, not power STRUGGLE." Why fight someone who is not interested?

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/4/2010 3:48:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyCimarron

The vast majority of the slaves I have had are bigger taller and stronger than me.  I can't MAKE them do anything. I can encourage and inspire them to push their limits. But I am not fighting a grown man to try to make him do something he has previously said he wanted to do. If you are a submissive it stands to reason you would submit.


I think that's probably the answer for me. While the whole struggle and conquering thing seems to be the cup of tea for some in the femsub/maledom arena, which can be incredibly hot as "primal" type play. I personally wouldn't engage in it the other way around because it's just physically not all that feasible and kinda silly.

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/6/2010 1:31:09 AM   
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I may be able to get you to obey, but when it comes to submitting, that is your choice. If somewhere down the road you choose to not submit anymore, then our dynamic would be over. Friendship may remain, but as far as my being your Domina, it wouldn't be there anymore. I can not dominate if you are not willing to submit to me.

I like submissives who are obedient, but I also like them fiesty. Notice I do not say rebelious. If you are going to rebel against me, what is the point in being in a D/s dynamic? I want someone who works with me, not against me.

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Edited because I am blind lol

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RE: Rebelious Subs? - 6/6/2010 2:00:22 AM   
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Ahhh, and now we have 'profile not found'. I guess he rebelled his way right off the site - lol.

Wickad

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