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crouchingtigress -> RE: Being my masters secret (4/16/2006 8:33:17 AM)
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Ditto, I am really bummed that it turns out you are a cheater CG. "In the process of separation" ~laughs~ ya either are or ya ain't, if you are wearing the ring and living with her ya ain't.
To NJ Girl
You call this man a Master, but He either does not know, or has a vested interest in not teaching you what the generally accepted definition of Master is the the BDSM lifestyle community.
A Master:
Has taken on a level of responsibility akin to a husband ,teacher, parent and steward. He has chosen to own you, care for you, protect you, and support your growth in the way that he thinks is best.
He makes decisions that often have himself sacrificing for your best interest, as opposed to only serving himself, ie;sending a girl to college to realize her potential and missing her terribly.
He makes decisions as her steward to help her better herself, keeping her on task, having accountability think: life coach, personal trainer.
He moves through her pain and suffering with a purpose; wondrous healing can happen with a man that passionately loves you and is willing to push past walls but he himself needs to be patient, compassionate and wise.
He is always available to you, not malleable, he is not easily manipulated, but he is always your rock, your base, your safe place.
A master wears so many hats and has to be fairly adept at all of them, steward, parent, demi-god, sadist, therapist, teacher, partner, friend...
Folks that achieve this level of "mastery" have taken a "natural tendency" and honed and refined it conscientiously to a fine point. They have years of lifestyle experience, they read constantly, they interact with other masters, and they follow a deep voice inside themselves that puts the care and well being of their precious submissive first, protects them from harm.
A cheating man is not putting any one first but himself you could get very hurt in all of this but he is not taking that in to concideration.
You can have a "natural tendency" to play piano but you dont master it, with out years of dedication, education and sacrifice.
What you have there is a Top. A sensual sadist who enjoys being in control. A top is generally playing a role, like acting a part in a play, and typically goes back to a vanilla lifestyle.
And I hear you when you say this is "the only guy that ever... ect"..., but now that you know this is a lifestyle, and there are 1000's of forums, web pages and ect You should also know there are local community's, groups, and meet for lunches (munches) that BDSMers attend and you could meet some one there that would have so much more to offer you.
Oops One last thought, I dont know about you but I never had much control over my virginity's, I was raped.
When I found BDSM and like you everything was so NEW and EXCITING, I made the decision that this was a precious virginity, and this time I was going to do it right, I read and learned and chose wisely who it was I was going to give it too, because all the freaky stuff we all do, is the most special the first time, the first bondage, the first serving, the first beating ...ect...
I wish you well and bid you peace thank you for reading...
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