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strap on play - 6/6/2010 10:29:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		hi, I live in the west end of Toronto and looking for a woman that loves receiving oral as well as willing to introduce the world of strap on play to me
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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 10:41:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		It might help if you put more in your profile than the fact that you seek strap-on play.

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 12:53:33 PM   
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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 12:57:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, I KNOW this is a dating site, but is it common for folks to just EXPECT that they can advertise for sex acts and get them? I thought that's why there was an "escorts" section in the phone book, right?

Sigh.

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 1:03:26 PM   
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Okay, I KNOW this is a dating site, but is it common for folks to just EXPECT that they can advertise for sex acts and get them? I thought that's why there was an "escorts" section in the phone book, right?

Sigh.

There should be an escort section on these forums for these kinds of posts. I mean, I've been reading here for only like a week, and I'm already annoyed by this board being misused for "requests" like these. Why can't these men introduce themselves as persons, even if only relating to sm, rather than introducing what they want from women...

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 1:07:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Gedienstig, they really do not see women as persons... certainly not dominant women! We are fetish delivery systems at best. It makes me sad, but I'm not the one who can't get a date. We just keep offering our common sense advice, and sometimes one of them takes it.

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 1:10:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Gedienstig, they really do not see women as persons... certainly not dominant women! We are fetish delivery systems at best. It makes me sad, but I'm not the one who can't get a date. We just keep offering our common sense advice, and sometimes one of them takes it.

It makes me sad too, and I AM the one who cannot get a date . I would just like to see this forum being used right. Oh well, I would also like world peace...

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 1:55:20 PM   
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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 3:47:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I get so many e-mails from people as well, looking for strap-on play, without giving much information about themselves, and without making an effort to get more known in their communities, which further isolates them...Tip for getting what you want: network within the community you would like to connect with in real life as well as on-line...go to community events as many people (male and female) will not meet you in private until they get to know you in a group or public setting...also, give many details on your profile, including pictures...hope that helps!

Good luck!

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 4:01:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Gedienstig, they really do not see women as persons... certainly not dominant women! We are fetish delivery systems at best.


This, times a hundred.

Guys who stroll onto adult sites and ask for sex acts right up front from strange women are to laugh at.  They aren't ever going to get anywhere with this approach unless they're willing to pay a professional.  It doesn't work. 

If you want a woman to want to spend personal, intimate time with you, then you need to be interesting and exciting, intelligent and personable, fun to be with, and willing to spend time and energy getting to know her and developing a personal and social relationship.  Lead with your personality and politeness and vanilla interests, not with your dick.  Introduce yourself as a human being with something other than a fetish laundry list of sex acts, and be prepared to treat your potential partners like human beings too.   Unless you are uber-hot, a professional underwear model or a rock star, don't expect to find ladies willing to hook up with you for instant kinky sex.   There's too many other submissive guys out there who are hotter than you and more interesting than you, so unless you really have it on the ball, your chances are roughly zilch of a quick shallow hookup with a dominant lady.

If all this is beyond you and you just want a fetish delivery system for your instant gratification, hire a pro.  Ain't no other way to go about it.  Actually there's a lot of professional dominants who won't see clients who are that crude and demanding either, which would leave an escort or a hooker as your only option. 


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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 4:07:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Gedienstig, they really do not see women as persons... certainly not dominant women! We are fetish delivery systems at best.


This, times a hundred.

Guys who stroll onto adult sites and ask for sex acts right up front from strange women are to laugh at.  They aren't ever going to get anywhere with this approach unless they're willing to pay a professional.  It doesn't work. 

If you want a woman to want to spend personal, intimate time with you, then you need to be interesting and exciting, intelligent and personable, fun to be with, and willing to spend time and energy getting to know her and developing a personal and social relationship.  Lead with your personality and politeness and vanilla interests, not with your dick.  Introduce yourself as a human being with something other than a fetish laundry list of sex acts, and be prepared to treat your potential partners like human beings too.   Unless you are uber-hot, a professional underwear model or a rock star, don't expect to find ladies willing to hook up with you for instant kinky sex.   There's too many other submissive guys out there who are hotter than you and more interesting than you, so unless you really have it on the ball, your chances are roughly zilch of a quick shallow hookup with a dominant lady.

If all this is beyond you and you just want a fetish delivery system for your instant gratification, hire a pro.  Ain't no other way to go about it.  Actually there's a lot of professional dominants who won't see clients who are that crude and demanding either, which would leave an escort or a hooker as your only option. 


Yes, and even us hot and interesting guys have a hard time finding Mistress Right...

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RE: strap on play - 6/6/2010 8:53:03 PM   
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Yes, and even us hot and interesting guys have a hard time finding Mistress Right...

LOL, give it a bit of time, gedienstig. I happened to notice that your profile is blank other than the 'interests' list, and that is mostly kink. Not the best approach. Feel free to check out mine to see the kind of things some of us list when searching. Light on the kink, heavy on giving a good picture of who you are and what you have to offer is the way to go.

I've read your posts and it seems like you are getting it right on that front. Posting on the forums is a very good way to attract "Mistress Right", as we have some really amazing Dommes that hunt....er post here. Get a nice profile up and your chances will greatly increase.


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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 2:23:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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Yes, and even us hot and interesting guys have a hard time finding Mistress Right...

LOL, give it a bit of time, gedienstig. I happened to notice that your profile is blank other than the 'interests' list, and that is mostly kink. Not the best approach. Feel free to check out mine to see the kind of things some of us list when searching. Light on the kink, heavy on giving a good picture of who you are and what you have to offer is the way to go.

I've read your posts and it seems like you are getting it right on that front. Posting on the forums is a very good way to attract "Mistress Right", as we have some really amazing Dommes that hunt....er post here. Get a nice profile up and your chances will greatly increase.


I know the profile is nothing to boast about, but I never really wanted to use it to attract many Dommes. There were two interesting profiles of local Dommes that seemed to get what I thought about S&M I already saw when I first noticed the site, so I sent them a decent mail to introduce myself. One completely ignored me, the other treated me as a human being, and we have some nice chats about both S&M as well as everyday life. But since I never thought I would stick around here for long, some bad experiences with other sites, so I never put much attention in the profile. If I had known that I would stick around, and actually even get on the forums, I would also have chosen a name that doesn't sound like a nasty STD to non-Dutch people...
And you know, I'm not geographically advantaged, all Dommes in my neighbourhood that have logged on for the last year don't take up more than 1 page of searches, and of that one page, only one Domme doesn't come of as a Pro Domme looking for tributes. So yeah, why would I change my entire profile then I thought. It's very nice to get profile views from California Dommes, and an e-mail or two, but it doesn't help me in my search for a real life Domme, although I appreciate talking to everyone on here, don't get me wrong.
Maybe I should update it out of niceness once I have some spare time to waste and perhaps make it international, because even though I'm not looking for Mistresses outside of my country, it just gives a better basic idea of what kind of person you are. 

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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 4:59:15 AM   
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Gedienstig, they really do not see women as persons... certainly not dominant women! We are fetish delivery systems at best. It makes me sad, but I'm not the one who can't get a date. We just keep offering our common sense advice, and sometimes one of them takes it.



I am willing to test out the fetish delivery system that is the Hib.

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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 11:20:27 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 11:29:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Okay, I KNOW this is a dating site, but is it common for folks to just EXPECT that they can advertise for sex acts and get them? I thought that's why there was an "escorts" section in the phone book, right?

Sigh.


I offered to take care of that Georgia kid for free yesterday and he didn't even look at my profile. (sad face!)

I'm thinking about instituting a sincere and standing offer to fuck these silly boys up the ass, with the calm certainty that none of them have the nerve to actually go through with it.

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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 11:33:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh Lucienne, you share my fantasy!! That one day, when some schmoe says OHHHH Mistress please rape me with your biggest strap on! I will say, Come on down, boymeat!!

No, they really don't have the chops for it. And imagine their disappointment in seeing me in a catsuit, with the harness on top? Because I don't want to actually have skin to skin CONTACT with some stranger! Like, EW!

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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 12:10:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Oh Lucienne, you share my fantasy!! That one day, when some schmoe says OHHHH Mistress please rape me with your biggest strap on! I will say, Come on down, boymeat!!

No, they really don't have the chops for it. And imagine their disappointment in seeing me in a catsuit, with the harness on top? Because I don't want to actually have skin to skin CONTACT with some stranger! Like, EW!

I hope you're not surprised men see you as a fetish delivery system


...at best

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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 1:27:14 PM   
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RE: strap on play - 6/7/2010 3:44:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		YAY Hibbie taking it for Team Sunny!!!!!!!!!!

Woo hoo!


Ladies,
I must say though... these kind of folks are the reason we adore the wonderful submissive men that are here. I can't tell you how many times I've wished to be on your side of things based on the amazing and wonderful and smart men that are over here (and hunky, yes those hunky men.... I mean seriously. Have you *seen* peon's photo? And then the fellow who wants to dance for y'all? And those smart men that actually carry on an intelligent conversation. And Lookie's clever humor?) Ohhh I must hush now.

If we are saying what we want, I want a bigger room.

Have a nice day!
sunshine

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