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wittynamehere -> RE: Are pro dommes really dominant? (6/25/2010 5:20:20 PM)

OP: There are plenty of both kinds.




msnicolesfun -> RE: Are pro dommes really dominant? (6/26/2010 4:52:48 PM)

I was a pro domme at one time...I was sexually attracted after a session, but I never had sex with my submissives.  I had several reoccuring clients that were very good submissives.  I think that they came to me as a pro because in a way they felt like they were serving me in more than one way than the time they spent with me.  And as far as being dominant in my personal life I am the dominant one in my relationship.  I did find the perfect little sub while domming and we fell in love and live the lifestyle when we can.




Nineveh -> RE: Are pro dommes really dominant? (6/26/2010 4:58:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Hmm.  I've just been contemplating one of your earlier points, Lady Hib, and have concluded that you may have been talking bollocks.  I do think it's possible for a sub to enjoy dominating - because, thinking back on it, I did, with those ex GFs who pressured me into topping.  Simple, really - you get vicarious fun.  I'd get 'her' to do whatever it was that *I'd* enjoy if I were in her position.  The only trouble was that I'd become resentful, natch.  However, I'd probably have been a tad less resentful if said ex GFs coughed up some money for my efforts. 


There's also the joy of pleasing, which I know is a huge turn on for a lot of subs.  The fact that you are pleasing by being dominant is sort of an aside.




Nineveh -> RE: Are pro dommes really dominant? (6/26/2010 5:01:32 PM)



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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957


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ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank

From what I've seen, women that work as professional dominatrices often aren't dominant in their personal relationship.  Is this accurate and if so why?

i'm sure Some are and Some aren't. But does that make a difference if They're good at what They do? It's a job, and one is very lucky if they have a job they also love and it pays good (if it does). Are ditch diggers ditch diggers in their personal lives? i'm sure not, but they can still be good ditch diggers and they and ProDommes both work very hard at what they do.

~sweetsub~


IMO the best ProDommes are not "truly" Dominant.  What they are providing is a service, and if they are not allowing the situation to be mostly determined by the desires of the client they are not providing as good of a service.  Doesn't mean they can't be "truly" dominant in their personal lives.  LadyNTrainer is a good example there as I have seen her openly talk about the differences. 




MistressTorture -> RE: Are pro dommes really dominant? (7/2/2010 10:51:37 PM)

Sure they are fake but if someone wants to pay for the service then they will act the part of a Domme.




MadeiraDarling -> RE: Are pro dommes really dominant? (7/3/2010 12:37:00 AM)

I'm a submissive lesbian in my private life, but I fucking love being a domme, for me it's like getting to go to disney world when I go to work. It does nothing for me sexually but I have insane amounts of fun




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