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Glasgow -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/8/2010 8:48:50 PM)
My question is, are you keeping him a secret from women you are trying to attract, or keeping the relationship quiet for other reasons? There is a difference between someone not wearing a wedding ring because he wants to get laid at the club, and someone not wearing his wedding ring so he won't scare off any potential girlfriends, because he and his wife are poly. If it is to dishonestly attract females, then I disagree with your methods. If it is for other (perhaps more benign) reasons, I do not offer any initial condemnation.

laurell3 -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 2:25:04 AM)
You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally. If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 3:15:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: flogger He chased after me on Collarme...Am using him for a chauffeur, slave, toy, how does this really make me look to the fem slaves/sub that my goal is to own a female slave? Have not introduced him to my local dungeon, Domcon. people saw me with him and introduced his as my slave. Does this help me or hurt me as a Master ...is my quesiton in the females point of view? Wait a minute, folks. He says right here that people saw him with this person and introductions were made as them being together. Where is everyone getting the idea that he's hiding something? Did I misread something? To the OP: Knowing some facts to make a decision and knowing one's heart and the ramifications of one's decisions are two very different things. Just a touch of "be careful" here for you. best, sunshine

DesFIP -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 4:56:35 AM)
Post # 10, oh Sunny One. Says he's decided to keep him secret so as not to scare off female types.

Jeffff -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:01:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally. If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying. I got a 32 on my ACT's.

Glasgow -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:22:45 AM)
quote: I got a 32 on my ACT's. Out of 30, I presume.

Jeffff -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:26:13 AM)
36.... I fell apart on the math.

domiguy -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:27:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally. If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying. Closed minded? What does closed minded have to do with being straight? Because I am not wired to accept the dick makes me closed minded to not do so? I like women that are open minded enough to accept me and my staightness. Those few chicks that can actually accept me as I am. Sometimes I wish I was queer. sighssss... Jeffff, pa, dc and myself watching the Wizard of Oz. Sitting in a circle, holding hands around a barrel of AstroGlide. If life were only so simple. Damn you Jesus for not giving me the ability to accept another's cock as if it were my own. I am so closed minded. With these short comings how can I ever be loved?

Jeffff -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:29:12 AM)
I love you.... I just won't suck you cock. Hard to read that, I know, but it had to be said.

domiguy -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:33:38 AM)
Of course it's hard to read...You typed it. "I just won't suck your cock." What about just a taste?

Jeffff -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:39:17 AM)
Only if you clean up my place.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 6:42:17 AM)
quote: I've decided to keep him private, Nothing sexual and he knows it. Just a private slave toy to practice on and drive me around town. It will keep me from being lonely while waiting for a fem slave to kneel at my feet. quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Post # 10, oh Sunny One. Says he's decided to keep him secret so as not to scare off female types. Ahhhh thank you Celeste. Now that does put a whole other spin on things. To the OP: If that is how you see things, then that is fine. Certainly your choice. However, it would make me wonder a few things. 1. What other "dirty little secrets" do you have? 2. How do you treat other people who are "slot fillers"? 3. What happens when Momma comes around (feel free to substitute any other person for "Momma")? 4. How can I trust you? That one actually pretty much sums them all up, though. We have a saying where I come from. Man up. or if you are a man speaking to another man... Man the fuck up. I would not presume to speak for the men, though. Best, sunshine

warlock1935 -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 12:06:20 PM)
quote: Got a boy or boi serving me Hi Flogger, long time no see! I'm with Bear on this. Most subs I know would want to know about him early in the conversations leading up to meeting, but wouldn't have a problem with it since it's non-sexual. DesFip said "And I agree that this boy is desperate and that's why he's agreeing to a less than optimal situation. " Sure, he might be desperate, but he's just as likely doing what Flogger is - having fun and getting needs met while waiting for the One to come along. I don't see anything wrong with that. As to him being used, I see that comment as silly. I frequently growl in my submissive's ears "I'm going to use your little body for my pleasure" and that alone is often nearly enough to cause an orgasm. All the submissives I know LOVE being used in that positive sense, that I get pleasure and they get pleasure too, sometimes just the sheer pleasure of serving. I think what you're referring to is Taking rather than Using. If Flogger was making this guy give him money, for example, that'd be over the line. But serving him? All the submissives I know get unhappy when their Dom gets things for himself, because it deprives them of the pleasure of serving him. And it sounds like that's the boi's motivation here. As it happens, I'm acquainted with Flogger, and I've never seen him of heard of him doing anything unethical. Wanting to be discreet about this seems reasonable to me.

laurell3 -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 1:22:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally. If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying. Closed minded? What does closed minded have to do with being straight? Because I am not wired to accept the dick makes me closed minded to not do so? I like women that are open minded enough to accept me and my staightness. Those few chicks that can actually accept me as I am. Sometimes I wish I was queer. sighssss... Jeffff, pa, dc and myself watching the Wizard of Oz. Sitting in a circle, holding hands around a barrel of AstroGlide. If life were only so simple. Damn you Jesus for not giving me the ability to accept another's cock as if it were my own. I am so closed minded. With these short comings how can I ever be loved? a) why are you posting seriously? It's frightening! b) thanks for the correction, it was just an example, being open-minded period is attractive. c) I can help you and Jeff with that in a forced-bi session, it's hot I promise!

Jeffff -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 1:27:39 PM)
Really?... you can help?.....wooooo hoooooooooo! We shall live in bliss!

GraciousLady -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 1:39:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow My question is, are you keeping him a secret from women you are trying to attract, or keeping the relationship quiet for other reasons? There is a difference between someone not wearing a wedding ring because he wants to get laid at the club, and someone not wearing his wedding ring so he won't scare off any potential girlfriends, because he and his wife are poly. If it is to dishonestly attract females, then I disagree with your methods. If it is for other (perhaps more benign) reasons, I do not offer any initial condemnation. As far as I'm concerned if he tells any potential female sub about this boy or dismisses the boy before his relationship with the female is commited he's ok. However, any lies will make his behaviour wrong.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 1:44:13 PM)
If you're not having sex with the man or woman on woman, you do NOT have to be gay to accept service or top a man. quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum The way I understand it guy =guy =gay girl =girl = gay Time to out yourself dude BadOne

domiguy -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 1:54:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: warlock1935 quote: Got a boy or boi serving me Hi Flogger, long time no see! I'm with Bear on this. Most subs I know would want to know about him early in the conversations leading up to meeting, but wouldn't have a problem with it since it's non-sexual. DesFip said "And I agree that this boy is desperate and that's why he's agreeing to a less than optimal situation. " Sure, he might be desperate, but he's just as likely doing what Flogger is - having fun and getting needs met while waiting for the One to come along. I don't see anything wrong with that. As to him being used, I see that comment as silly. I frequently growl in my submissive's ears "I'm going to use your little body for my pleasure" and that alone is often nearly enough to cause an orgasm. All the submissives I know LOVE being used in that positive sense, that I get pleasure and they get pleasure too, sometimes just the sheer pleasure of serving. I think what you're referring to is Taking rather than Using. If Flogger was making this guy give him money, for example, that'd be over the line. But serving him? All the submissives I know get unhappy when their Dom gets things for himself, because it deprives them of the pleasure of serving him. And it sounds like that's the boi's motivation here. As it happens, I'm acquainted with Flogger, and I've never seen him of heard of him doing anything unethical. Wanting to be discreet about this seems reasonable to me. I am going to take a homophobic stab at this one....In the real world I think there are probably many more woman that would have a serious problem with this than would not. My take is that boi is just waiting for that night when you hit your head or are so over served on vodka where he thinks you just might do him. Again, I am going to take a wild stab at this one, but the majority of folks that engage in this shit tie up some sort of sexual acts in much of what we do. There are people in it only for the service....Few and far between.

domiguy -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 2:07:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom If you're not having sex with the man or woman on woman, you do NOT have to be gay to accept service or top a man. quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum The way I understand it guy =guy =gay girl =girl = gay Time to out yourself dude BadOne Unlike bad one....I rarely agree with anything that you ever think. If we look into the future and we were to line up every single thought you are ever going to have and then to place them in a row......See how the line stretches way out there? It just so happens that your line of thoughts is much shorter than mine even though I am older than you. It might be that you pass on at a young age or maybe I just produce many more original thoughts than you do? Who knows? But anyways, I digress from the matter at hand. ......See how the line stretches way out there?....Now if you look far off into the distance...It's so far in the distance that sky scrapers look like monopoly type of small little houses...See it? Anyways, that so happens to be in the year of 2037 and you just had the thought that salsa is good in scrambled eggs....I agree with you. It's the first or the last time that this event ever occurs. Halley's comet comes along on a more frequent basis. tight lines!!!! domiguy

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Got a boy or boi serving me (6/9/2010 2:14:56 PM)
Having a relationship with someone else, while you were talking to me, and not telling me till he thought we were "commited" would be a huge fuck up with me. I expect honesty right from the beginning, and information about having a boy on the side, may or may not influence my desire to consider that person, so it's a need to know up front, before " being commited" stage. But that's just me. quote: ORIGINAL: GraciousLady As far as I'm concerned if he tells any potential female sub about this boy or dismisses the boy before his relationship with the female is commited he's ok. However, any lies will make his behaviour wrong.

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