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bdsmnewbie10 -> Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 8:46:49 AM)

background-Master has wife...I have husband, both spouses aware of Master and my relationship.

Is this unusual? Is it more typical that this lifestyle is only between spouses or single individuals?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 9:06:26 AM)

It's not uncommon, I've known at least a dozen situations as this.



Missokyst -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 9:23:29 AM)

ditto what she said



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 9:25:09 AM)

Full disclosure in an open or poly relationship is respected here. Lying and cheating is not.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 9:41:08 AM)

I know more than a few setups like what you are referring to. As long as there is full disclosure, it's fine. I suspect that there are MANY cheating situations, unfortunately.



DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 10:47:24 AM)

I know more than a few couples like this. As LA said full disclosure is one thing lying and cheating is another.



ranja -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 1:57:30 PM)

I personally do not know of any people who manage to pull this off, but i have seen other posters here talking about simular set ups and managing ok apparently...
i do not think it is very common though

also... eventhough i might not consider it very respectful when people cheat or lie to have their special bit on the side... in many situations i have some- or even a lot of understanding and generally am unwilling to judge.



DesFIP -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 2:49:58 PM)

I wouldn't use unusual to mean wrong, but yes, it's less common than single people seeking mates. Most of us are ordinary folks, between work, household upkeep, kids, and so on, we have trouble carving out playtime for us. I can't imagine how you add someone extra into the schedule.

And if you can bottle the extra time you need, you would make a mint!



GraciousLady -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 2:56:20 PM)

As long as no one is lieing or cheating or putting another at risk without consent it's all good.



bdsmnewbie10 -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 10:35:39 PM)

Both spouses know of the relationship and are very comfortable with it. They have their vanilla relationship, Master and I have a bdsm/vanilla relationship. No one is telling lies, cheating or any of that stuff.



GreedyTop -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 10:41:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

Both spouses know of the relationship and are very comfortable with it. They have their vanilla relationship, Master and I have a bdsm/vanilla relationship. No one is telling lies, cheating or any of that stuff.


ok, maybe I am missing something.. or maybe the cold meds are getting to me.. but I am having problems parsing this. 

You and him are in a BDSM relationship.  your respective spouses are enjoying a vanilla relationship between themselves?



MarcEsadrian -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/9/2010 10:55:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

background-Master has wife...I have husband, both spouses aware of Master and my relationship.

Is this unusual? Is it more typical that this lifestyle is only between spouses or single individuals?


That depends upon who you believe are truly "lifestyle". I would say it's fairly unusual for two couples to divide their halves between them and form a D/s hybrid without upset, though it's always impressive all involved in the circle have the open-mindedness to do so.



reynardfox -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/10/2010 12:05:50 AM)

It's not unsual in our case, we play with quite a few couples, some as individuals some as a submissive pair and some where we were dominate either the girl or the guy together with their partner. We prefer them to be open with each other.
I find it much less complicated with a couple. As a Dominant I find great satisfaction in watching a partner's reactions.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/10/2010 3:55:27 AM)

I'm not sure if your last sentence was said with a degree of sadistic glee ? [:D]



DarkSteven -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/10/2010 5:51:58 AM)

While I have no problem with the situation you described, it's pretty complicated and I don't think I could make it work for myself.  But if it works for you, cool!



bdsmnewbie10 -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/10/2010 1:25:43 PM)

Yes



DommeKeliDallas -> RE: Inquiring minds want to know? (6/10/2010 8:44:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

background-Master has wife...I have husband, both spouses aware of Master and my relationship.

Is this unusual? Is it more typical that this lifestyle is only between spouses or single individuals?

Swingers have relationships like this but, I think this is rare for BDSM/D/s people



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