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Evanesce -> RE: questions about mentoring (4/12/2006 9:58:02 PM)
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then say youre not what we want and stop talking to him
I have to agree with Feline here. Dump the guy, because even if he, by some weird twist of fate, actually DID try to "help" your boyfriend, it would only be with the ulterior motive of getting into your pants. That's what's driving him - not a desire to actually help someone else.
An ethical mentor isn't going to be waiting outside the door for your man to get a boner and then come join you. An ethical mentor isn't going to be interested in sex with you, with OR without your boyfriend. An ethical mentor is going to be concerned with helping BOTH of you figure out where you are on the BDSM playing field, what your positions are, how your boyfriend can become the Dom you want, and how you can become the submissive or slave you wish to be. They're there to guide you, not f*** you. And anyone who says differently is someone on whom you should not waste your time.
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