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AAkasha -> RE: advice! (6/11/2010 9:33:08 AM)
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ORIGINAL: cuckold4femme
Can anyone recommdend a how to site that i can recommend to my girlfriend. I want to introduce her to female supremacy, but i dont want to scare her. are there any sites you would suggest that i could pass on to her to show what my interests are and how to achieve this lifestyle?
Do you want to introduce her to "female supremacy" or to BDSM/femdom/kink, which are totally different things? Do you want to introduce her to a "female led relationship" - or to some spicy fun and kink in the bedroom only? The first thing you need to figure out is what you are seeking.
The first thing I tell men who are trying to introduce their girlfriend or wife to kink is they have to throw all their fantasies and expectations out the window - for a time - to allow the woman time to explore on her own and at her own pace. I have a section on my web site (see my sig) with a popular series of articles including "Enjoying female dominance" and "the Good Girls Guide to Domination" -- both of them take a different approach than than the typical "how to" articles which focus on the kinky acts or some very ethereal idea of magically turning your relationship into a femdom fantasy land.
My articles are more about how a woman can learn to enjoy and lust for female domination, so the rest follows appropriately and at her pace. I break down what excites many women about having control over her man - not just the 'benefits' (other articles take the approach, "look at what you can get out of having a man submit to you - being pampered and spoiled, having an attentive husband, etc.) - but what is sexy and exciting. I think a great many women can go through the motions of domination and just do it to get to the other end (a husband to leave her alone and stop nagging, a clean house, a bedroom free of drama and turmoil) -- but what I am more into is showing a woman how she can enjoy female dominance and bdsm for HER pleasure.
My theory is that while most sub men want and envision a very kinky lady doing all kinds of erotic acts, most of them would be willing to tone down their wishlist in exchange for a woman that honestly, in her blood, was getting off on his submission. If the couple can meet in the middle that way, she has more chance of learning to enjoy more acts at her own pace, rather than her trying to suffer through the least disgusting acts (in her opinion) to get him to leave her alone.
Akasha
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