When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens?

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SocratesNot -> When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 6:51:57 AM)
How do Dom / Domme couples function? Do they always need to have some submissives? Can it be an egalitarian relationship or is one usually owned by the other, despite being a dominant? In their relationship (not including other people) do they usually switch with each other or stick to vanilla-like dynamics? Any such couples here who could let me know about their experiences first hand?

littlewonder -> RE: When a Dom fall in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:12:55 AM)
Depends The ex Dom was married to a Domme. He had me. She had her own slaves. They eventually divorced though but under amicable terms. Now I know others who are dom/domme and they stay togethter. Some switch with each other. Some have their own slaves. Some share a slave. Some just live like a regular couple and don't do anything at all about it. It just depends....like everything else in life.

IronBear -> RE: When a Dom fall in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:56:28 AM)
SocratesNot old chap, my wife and I are Dom/Domme or to me more correct Master/Mistress., have the right to own our own slaves or share slave who are collared to the home. Out lifestyle (Victorian now but was Gorean) are both lifestyles which is not dependent on slaves and what slaves we may own are service slaves as in domestic service and are referred to as servants or staff. As an addendum, both life styles are not dependant on the normal BDSM activities but bondage is part of what we don at times as is discipline. We were married in September 2001 but had been together for a few years prior to our marriage. AS thorough read of my profile should answer many of your questions as to how we live and work.

DesFIP -> RE: When a Dom fall in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 10:55:41 AM)
Whatever they want to happen and work to make happen.

SocratesNot -> RE: When a Dom fall in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 11:13:42 AM)
quote: Whatever they want to happen and work to make happen. This was extremely useful and quite informative answer.

SocratesNot -> RE: When a Dom fall in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 11:14:50 AM)
quote: SocratesNot old chap, my wife and I are Dom/Domme or to me more correct Master/Mistress., have the right to own our own slaves or share slave who are collared to the home. Out lifestyle (Victorian now but was Gorean) are both lifestyles which is not dependent on slaves and what slaves we may own are service slaves as in domestic service and are referred to as servants or staff. As an addendum, both life styles are not dependant on the normal BDSM activities but bondage is part of what we don at times as is discipline. We were married in September 2001 but had been together for a few years prior to our marriage. AS thorough read of my profile should answer many of your questions as to how we live and work. Thanks IronBear, I'll check your profile for more info.

crazyml -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 11:15:26 AM)
SNot, There is no single "truth" here - Dom/domme couples work things out in a whole range of ways. Some join to share subs ( I would hazard a completely unscientific guess that this is the most common) some maintain their own subs. I'm sure a few constantly vie for dominance and eventually their relationship fails. Others may settle into a relationship that is itself d/s. I had a lovely reln with a girl who was sub to me, but who enjoyed co-domming others, and pro- domming yet others. This stuff isn't math, or even philosophy - the dynamics of relationships defy definition and subjection to frameworks.

blueeyedbbwsub -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 11:22:07 AM)
Yanno what SocNot? They're not labels, they're people, human beings. A relationship is still based on two people, or poly if that's the case, and not on labels. QUIT with the damn labels and trying to make sense of the nonsensical you seem to be so good at coming up with. Again, STEP AWAY FROM THE KEYBOARD. Real life happens between real people, not labels. I really don't know why I keep trying to get this through to you, since you seem unable to graps such a basic concept of life. [>:] O wait, I'm ever hopeful in life. That has to be it, maybe if I tell myself that enough I'll believe it.

leadership527 -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 11:37:03 AM)
No, they don't always need to have submissives. Not all dominants wilt in the absence of someone to fawn over them. Yes, it can and probably must be an egalitarian relationship (that is, if you're using the same definition of dominant that I am). I suppose all things are possible, but we didn't "switch" our D/s roles since neither had a well developed "s" side. Bedroom fun & games were a different story.

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 11:53:52 AM)
The skies open and Odin reclaims the earth. NEVER LET THIS HAPPEN!!! QSM

Jasmineinbloom -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 12:00:13 PM)
I've had a loving relationship with a man who labled himself a dominant. The relationship lasted many years. His dominence (at least towards me) one day.

IronBear -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 3:41:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan The skies open and Odin reclaims the earth. NEVER LET THIS HAPPEN!!! QSM Why? I ask again, why not allow this to happen, it is something I would be happy to see unless I am already seated in Valhalla with my forebears drinking Meade and awaiting Ragnarökk.

gedienstig -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 5:10:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan The skies open and Odin reclaims the earth. NEVER LET THIS HAPPEN!!! QSM Why? I ask again, why not allow this to happen, it is something I would be happy to see unless I am already seated in Valhalla with my forebears drinking Meade and awaiting Ragnarökk. Because if Odin reclaims the earth, all there will be left is cabbage soup, Odin's favourite. And who, besides Odin and that weird alien from Louis de Funes movies, likes cabbage soup?

ShoreBound149 -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:08:37 PM)
It's like when first cousins marry. If they procreate the offspring will look very similiar to the folks waiting at the bus stop on the square in Lancaster, Pa.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:30:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShoreBound149 It's like when first cousins marry. If they procreate the offspring will look very similiar to the folks waiting at the bus stop on the square in Lancaster, Pa. Dude. You're scaring me now. [>:]

Jeffff -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:32:10 PM)
Why.. have you been to Lancaster?... is he right? I think he is too good for Aileen!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:33:29 PM)
You get your sticky brain off Aileeen!! She was sucked up by Twue Lub, you don't stand a chance!

Jeffff -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 7:36:14 PM)
ARe you kidding?...... God KNOWS what ol SHore brought back from termy's place! AIleen is ruined!

Glasgow -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 8:40:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SocratesNot How do Dom / Domme couples function? Do they always need to have some submissives? Can it be an egalitarian relationship or is one usually owned by the other, despite being a dominant? In their relationship (not including other people) do they usually switch with each other or stick to vanilla-like dynamics? Any such couples here who could let me know about their experiences first hand? About as well as the rest of us, no, don't be a retard, they are all definitely 100% vanilla, not I.

DarkSteven -> RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? (6/12/2010 10:25:56 PM)
Then the Domme always converts to become a sub woman. Every time. /Ducks and runs/ [8D]

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