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BKSir -> RE: Intimidated by your s-type? (6/13/2010 9:35:26 AM)
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ORIGINAL: lally2
moral of the story: if this person wants to be with you, enjoys youre company, sees whatever they see in you as someone worth being with then dont drag the whole thing down with insecurity. believe they are sincere and enjoy youreselves.
I really like this thought and couldn't agree more. However, I wonder if it might not be one of those 'easier said than done' kind of things sometimes / for some people. Maybe not even on a conscious level, but deep down in the psyche I wonder about the insecurities gnawing a bit.
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ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow
I don't question the "why", more the "how". How did I get so lucky? I must have done something pretty amazing in a previous life to end up with someone like him. I tell him so often too. Thankfully he feels the same about me.
Excellent point I think here as well. I guess, sometimes one can get too caught up on the 'why' and even the 'how' to just accept that a simple "I don't know." or "Just because." are perfectly fine answers as well. I think that's something we lose as we get... uh... less young. ;) (I refuse the idea that I get older) Perhaps there are times in our lives that we really do need to look back to the days when we were wee kittens, and "because" was just as valid of a reason as anything else. Wouldn't life really be a lot easier if we did? (hypothetical question, that last part, maybe for another thread) [;)]
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
Awesome people can often be pretty vulnerable-if your primary motive in interacting with them is their happiness (rather than getting them to demonstrate how awesome they are for you) then you're going to be pretty special to them.
I guess I'm in a different category than most, and I'm glad. I know exactly what you mean here, but at the same time I have a difficult time understanding how anyone could possibly be around someone who is that special to them without wishing first and foremost for that persons happiness. One of those, "I know people do it, but, how can they let themselves do that?" kind of things.
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff
In the end, don't we all want someone a little bit, "better" than we are?
Holy hell, the anteater can actually give a serious answer! [;)] Just kidding, you know I lurves ya Jeffff.
Actually, this answer really strikes a chord with me, and is a lot more complex than it seems at first glance. Not to mention, it rings true on many many levels.
Mostly, I think, there's the opposite of the question I originally brought up, which I neglected to consider at the time. The thought of "Why would I want to be around someone whom I need to dumb myself down for?" Why would a person want to be around someone like that, when it would make more sense to be around those 'better' than ones self, and strive to reach their levels in a way, to simply become 'better' as well?
It brings up a whole slew of other possibilities and thoughts. Thank you Jeffff. [:)]
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