Hardbutt
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I've been experimenting with chastity for over ten years and agree with ourmsbetty that six weeks is pretty much a limit. Being unable to masturbate has not in any way diminished my desire or ability to perform, nor has it resulted in any serious pain when during orgasms. On the contrary, it has intensified both desires and orgasms for both the KH and the wearer. In my experience (including feedback from partners) the negative effects have been all mental, not physical, but I rarely go locked up more than two weeks at a time and find that three to six days is ideal to have the fantastic experiences that I seek! Anything less than two days is too short to have powerful effects, IMO, unless the teasing is frequent and hits the right buttons in the wearer.
The design and fit of the device is the biggest determination of how a person will do in medium term chastity, say in range of five to 50 days depending on age, normal response to teasing, and nocturnal emissions. There is no real physical need to orgasm (although there are health benefits) but the mental strain of long denial can cause attitude problems, and not just toward the keyholder. In a holistic sense you can't separate the mental and physical. Hormonal desires + learned desires make people do all sorts of fantasy fueled activities, including spending much time on this website! If the device does not cause typical erections to be overly painful and does not cause skin abrasion or edema or rash, then it is very possible to go much longer although I doubt it would be fun. A severely tight chastity that punishes all erections does not seem like a safe choice to me, but I do not have enough experience in those tiny things to have a strong opinion about such devices. I prefer that my KH can see that I am pleased with her!
Chastity that lasts way too long causes hopelessness and that can lead to bad places in the mind. A person in permanent or no boundries chastity with no hope of relief would not really need to put up with an unkind KH, they would not have a reason to endure the abuse as there would be no reward to look forward to earning. This could work for someone that wishes to avoid sex altogether for whatever personal reason they have, but I suspect that while it is a strong fantasy for many that few would be happy with long term denial. Elise Sutton (fem dom author, google her) claims it takes three months of total chastity to break a man from the belief he needs and deserves to cum, an obvious mental shift with lasting effects.
Chastity desires seem to include losing control to someone rather than giving up sex. The wearer has committed to giving only the KH the choice as to when where and how sexual pleasure will be given, and steel is always much stronger than the will of either partner. I have had dommes that struggled with their own desires as they tried to hold off before using the key, sometimes something as simple as leaving the key out in a car trunk can make the job easier of being the dominant one. Temptation can be avoided until the timing is right if you have to get dressed and step outside before getting completely naked.
That could be another topic - Who has a harder time during chastity play, the keyholder or the belted one? Many say it is the KH as they have to power to choose and must suppress desire and use self-control to further the objectives of the scene or relationship. It is true that the submissive is freed from making decisions and for many people that has a strong appeal. The dominant has added responsibility but is rewarded by expecting to show some selfishness.
Too bad female chastity is so difficult in the real world. It would be nice to have a loving submissive who would welcome any chance for sex anyway I wanted even after years of steady relationship. Since I like chastity she would have to like it too! If she could play piano and sing... perfect!
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