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Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:08:59 PM

johncw1

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This question is for all Dominant men and female and couples who seek to finda slave for a 24/7 situation. What do you expect of need from a slave so he or she can come live with you? I ask this because it is so hard to find dominant couples, men or woman that actually want to have a 24/7 slave, is this reality or fantasy. We live ina strange world and people like me (slaves) who are normal people who work and live a vanilla lifestyle but hide their needs and real feelings because many would call them frieks or crazy and with all that, we cant find real people and real service. I know that maybe i am in the wrong country but i am beginning to loose faith in my feelings and wanting to be a slave for the rest of my life and resign to the idea that i am trap in a vanilla world that can make you suffer more than the life that some people call it hard but slaves and subs call it home.

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:18:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: johncw1

This question is for all Dominant men and female and couples who seek to finda slave for a 24/7 situation. What do you expect of need from a slave so he or she can come live with you? I ask this because it is so hard to find dominant couples, men or woman that actually want to have a 24/7 slave, is this reality or fantasy. We live ina strange world and people like me (slaves) who are normal people who work and live a vanilla lifestyle but hide their needs and real feelings because many would call them frieks or crazy and with all that, we cant find real people and real service. I know that maybe i am in the wrong country but i am beginning to loose faith in my feelings and wanting to be a slave for the rest of my life and resign to the idea that i am trap in a vanilla world that can make you suffer more than the life that some people call it hard but slaves and subs call it home.

Sir and i seek a female slave that will contribute to our household in ALL ways.......if she works, then her money goes to Sir for the household, if she does not work, the she will be required to assist in all household chores......She will be an equal in our home (Only one Alpha in our family and that is Sir).....She will not attempt to play Sir and i against each other, nor will she throw temper tantrums when she does not get her way........All things will be discussed no matter how trivial they may seem to either myself or my sister slave....

Basically all that she has becomes Sir's when she joins our family

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:27:06 PM

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First off most people want someone who fits into their lives in multiple ways.

Also folks live very differently from household to household but still live 24/7 lives -- how are you defining what you want? It might not match with the people you'd turned to. How realistic is what you see as 24/7? How much wiggle room do you have?

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:33:48 PM

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No, it can be a reality. I am seeking a 24/7 slave, and I *personally* know of several Domme's and a Dom or 2 who also have their own slave(s) living with them. All other considerations aside, My slave must work and provide half (or a third, if I have both a male and a female slave) of the regular monthly household budget, as well as medical insurance. Any non-U.S. citizen must already have a green card, as I will be no one's free ticket to America!

Of course, there are many other factors too, when seeking a slave, such as compatibility, and the willingness of the slave to be or do what the Mistress wishes him/her to be and do. Just because one is a Domme and the other a slave, does not automatically make them a match.

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ORIGINAL: johncw1
This question is for all Dominant men and female and couples who seek to finda slave for a 24/7 situation. What do you expect of need from a slave so he or she can come live with you? I ask this because it is so hard to find dominant couples, men or woman that actually want to have a 24/7 slave, is this reality or fantasy.

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:36:12 PM

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If you were female, you wouldn't have as much trouble finding a home. Few m/f couples are looking for a male slave. Even head-of-household dommes who would consider it certainly won't go ahead until they know the slave very well.

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:49:13 PM

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I think your difficulty in finding a couple is unfortunatly due to your being male. Most couples (I said most, not all) who are seeking a slave are seeking a female slave. Is this due to the fact that women being bisexual has become rather socially acceptable (even desirable in high school) and men being bisexual hasn't yet?
In a word...probably.
You are in the minority in that you are a man looking to serve a couple, and that is all there is to it...the couples you want are out there, but they are few and far between, sorry.
Keep looking and good luck.

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:52:15 PM

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The First thing you have to come to terms with in this Lifestyle is that there are more Males,be they Dom or sub/slave than there are Dominas or fem/sub/slaves... I hate it but it's just a fact, so the Law of averages takes affect All I can say is keep looking it's all you can do...

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:57:13 PM

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Ok couples are very hard to find butwhat about Master's, i mean we (male slaves) can do many things around the house, i am experience wearing a chasity belt and I dont mind using one in a house with a Master or in a couples house, being a slave is not about sex but about serving, learning, training and being better each day. i dont want to serve a couple or a woman or a man because i want sex, its not what i want but what my owners or the people that will own me wants and needs. Being from another country is also bad but I do have a private insurrance and also means to work in the US
anyway thank you

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 12:59:13 PM

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Well johncw1, i would agree with all on this forum and especially MasterRenegade77
it is just a case of be polite and patient and hopefully you will eventually find what you are seeking.

Good luck..

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 1:02:37 PM

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juan,

My advice would be to choose a country in which you'd like to live and to go ahead and move there. Those of us from the US tend to be wary of being used as a free ticket. Second, in your profile, speak more about what you can do FOR your Leather family...you speak a little about household chores and such, but mostly, you're telling us about your sexual fantasies. Good Dominants will understand that you have them and will want to know them to see if they match some of their own, but most people I know looking for 24/7 slaves are looking for people who will contribute to their household in a positive way. you moving in and expecting to be taken care of while getting the bulk of the Dominant's attention (paddling morning and night, as you suggest) may be seen as a negative.

If you were petitioning me, I'd want to know what kind of work you do outside the home (yes, you'd be expected to work) and if you had a job already. I'd want to know what kind of non-sexual skills you have (can I trust you with a screwdriver, for instance). I'd want to know your experience level in service, play and sex. I'd also want to know if you have any kind of spirituality in your life. Perhaps you can think about these things and revamp your profile. The idea is to focus on what your Dominant and their family might need and want FIRST, then put forth what you need and want.

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 1:30:23 PM

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Now this is a topic I can definitely comment on! I agree with what Fire has to say, however, I have to make one point. When it comes to moving and living in another country, it is not an easy thing to accomplish. I am a Dominant and married My sub (who is from Austria... W/we met here on collarme, actually) in January of 2005. I decided that W/we would live in Austria instead of States (where I am from) because of three reasons... 1. My sub-hub had a better job here than I did there, 2. I hate the politics in the States (I won't even bother elaborating on this) and 3. I figured it was easier for Me to move to Austria, as opposed to My sub-hub moving to the States.

I was wrong... It was not easy and is still not easy. When I moved here, I had to get insurance right away, before I could even sign up for a Residency Permit... there is social insurance here. The Residency Permit took almost a month to get (after I filled out the necessary paperwork, provided the correct documentation, etc.) to Me and once it did I had to go to another office and get a Meldezettel... this is a form that is requred by the "county" you live in so that they know where to find you (and find Me they did... that later). I had to get a new social security number for Austrian insurance (after I applied for the insurance). I also had to trade in My driver's license for an Austrian one within the first 6 months that I lived here... otherwise you have to take the DL test and that requires that not only know the rules of the road, but that you know the inner and out workings of your car (the test usually takes at least 2 attempts for most people to pass it). Early this year I had a police officer come to My door with paperwork and start demanding things from Me in German (and I don't know that much German yet, but I could tell by his voice that it was a demand). I had to call My husband at work and have him talk to the guy. I apparently needed to prove to the police that I am legal to love here (I had to show him My Residency Permit, My Meldezettel, My passport, My DL and My marriage certificate!). Now I am applying for My 2nd year Residency Permit and Austria changed the laws for it. Now W/we have to make a certain amount of money combined and pay 110 euros... it does not even matter that My husband was born and lived here all his life or that I have been a legal resident here for a year already! Besides all of that, I had to get a job... It is damn difficult to find a job in a country where you don't speak the language fluently. I am still learning German and at this point I am speaking Germglish (the German version of Spanglish).

My advice is that before deciding on a country that you want to live in, is to first learn the language of that country and research what you need to do in order to live in that country. you might find it easier to stay where you are and look for a Dominant in your country.

In regards to petitioning Me, I also agree with Fire on that. On top of what She shared, I have all My submissive candidates (I train submissive men to be slaves now... on top of having a job outside the home) fill out an Application that I have created. That is just the 1st Phase... I require 10 Phases for a sub to train with Me.

I wish you the best in finding your Dominant.

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RE: Question for owners seeking slaves - 4/12/2006 1:52:07 PM

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Thank you very much MasterFireMaam and LadyMedhbh for your advise, i will change my priofile with something more real and also things i do and whom i am but mostly how can i contribute to a household or to a relation with future owners. A slave must be able to give a plus to a reltion so that relation can be a productive and a learning experience as for what i have read, a owner also wants to learn from their slaves. Thank you again and hope someday we can meet or at least be friends as people like you are hard to find this days.
thank you again and happy easter.
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