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cariad -> RE: New here (4/12/2006 5:48:58 PM)
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I am new here... I am actually new to BDSM period... Trying to get more information on it... I am kind of shy and I am a submissive. My current Master and I are having problems... He doesn't always want to be my master, and I don't understand alot of things he thinks I should know
Communication, Communication, Communication.....
Communication is the key to any relationship be it D/s, M/s, M/ss, D/ss or "Nilla.": sit with Him and explain your fears, concerns and questions in a way you know He will understand.
girl was also in a M/s relationship where this happened and she had to sit with her now Former Master and speak to Him of her concerns, fears, wishes and dreams to be the best for Him.
if He does not always wish to be your Master, then perhaps sit with Him and ask what you can do to help Him over this hump and see what He says. Most times a Master will NOT do Masterly things and it is because They had a bad day, They're not feeling well or just aren't in the mood to be Master that day. (j.g..o. .... just girls opinion).
Remember you as the submissive have the responsibility to talk to Him about your fears, concerns, hopes, dreams and aspirations to be the best slave you can for Him and by not speaking to Him of your concerns you are aiding in the relationship not flourishing as it should. again this is just girls opinion.
girl had to explain to her now Former Master about things and when He learned of her fears, etc He was more willing to work with her on things He thought she should know.
go to wizdomme.com and castlerealm.com and read the newbie packages and the Dom's Responsibilites, as well as your responsibilities. also a recommended reading is: SM-101 by Jay Wiseman and the book "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" girl can't remember who wrote the last one but it is a good thing for both of you to read.....
good luck with working things out with Him and please let us know how things go.
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