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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 4:38:50 PM

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Does subbytom2 prefer to start threads, and then just forget all about them?

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 4:40:44 PM

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Engage! (back in the DOS days that was my C:prompt)

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 7:30:45 PM

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Oh, yes, I love to chastise my slaves. Funishment scenes are a kink of mine.

Oh, wait.

It's awfully expensive, but then again some people would argue so is a good corset and why the hell do I spend money on more than one? (56-36-52 is why.) To each their own kink.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 7:32:11 PM

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 9:43:43 PM

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i really do not mean to start a thread and forget about it. i read and greatly appreciate all responses. The questions i ask are legitimate inquiries about how Mistresses feel about certain things. i realize that every Mistress has different views. i am just trying to better understand whether or not there is a consensus among Mistresses.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 10:14:33 PM

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Once you have more than 2 people (and on some things, more than one person), the chances of a consensus are slim and getting slimmer the more people you add to the group.

Add me to the group of "if he can't keep his hands off of it without a device, I'm not interested" I prefer to have access, and with a device on our boy, that restricts my access. I haven't seen one that I found asthetically pleasing enough to make up for the loss of access.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/19/2010 10:52:52 PM

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i really do not mean to start a thread and forget about it. i read and greatly appreciate all responses. The questions i ask are legitimate inquiries about how Mistresses feel about certain things. i realize that every Mistress has different views. i am just trying to better understand whether or not there is a consensus among Mistresses.

Welcome back, OP!

If you actively engage in the conversations you start here, that should encourage more people to participate- and those who do may be more forthcoming.

Heck- if you stick around and tell us your own thoughts on the matter, and address some of the comments made thus far- I'll even explain my point of view.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/20/2010 12:18:36 AM

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Same, here. If he's in chastity for a particular duration, then the device serves as nothing more than an annoyance to me. Why would I leave it on there, when it pisses me off to have to bother with unlocking and relocking him each and every time? I'd only be shooting myself in the foot if it were on him for an extended period of time. And unless he's hung like a horse or has a PA to attach the device to, more than likely he is able to pull out and slip back in, anyway. So if he really has issues with hands off, more than likely he's probably pulling out once he's beyond a watchful eye.

I can appreciate that some people really do believe and kink on the idea that begging for release makes him more intent on doing the things that are required in order to receive that release. If this is your schtick, then more power to ya. Rock on.

Personally though, I don't buy into that headgame. I require a more service-oriented approach in a LTR, so in the long run I'd rather have his submission come from his heart, not from his cock.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/20/2010 3:11:01 AM

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Chastise yes, chastity also yes :)

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/20/2010 9:23:05 AM

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/20/2010 9:29:04 AM

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No, I like to fuck the shit out of them, because that's what hot boys are good for.

My primary partner is allowed no other release except what I give him, but trust me on this, he's a busy boy. I'm a bit more flexible with my secondary because his irregular work schedule means we sometimes don't see each other for awhile. With him I'll do a few days at a time of no masturbating allowed so he'll be more ready for me, but that's about it.

Outside my personal relationship, in casual play, I still don't do a lot of chastity since chastity is basically all about sex. When I play with a casual buddy at a play party, I'm not really focusing on his orgasms as he is not a sexual partner and I don't care about them. He may be fun to beat or even fistfuck (I got to do that with a visiting bottom last night, woooo!), but the energy isn't exactly sexual.

I've played with chastity in pro sessions (since I can't and don't have sex with clients anyways, duuuh) and it can be fun, hot energy. Oddly enough it's one of the most sexual forms of nonsexual play for me, since the focus is on sexual energy and how it builds up in denial. It can definitely be an actual sexual turn-on for me to have a client in chastity, and the sexual denial goes both ways. In a paradoxical way, it sometimes makes them more sexually desirable. Weird but true. I still won't fuck them; that's not a good line to cross, and for safety's sake none of us go outside the poly family for actual sex.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/20/2010 9:31:57 AM

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/21/2010 5:40:35 PM

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I have found extended periods of chastity actually have an adverse effect. Medical studies show that the testosterone levels in the male do build but only to a certain point before the body begins to disipate the excess hormone. Since no more is needed by the body, the testicals actually begin to produce less, there by allowing the small amt so estrogen in a male body to raise. Of course this induces more efemenant behaviors.

My personal tastes are not for feminization, sissification or cross dressing in males. I find it repulsive actually. If I wanted a woman, I'd get one. So, I tend to use chasity for punishment.

Besides, I would much rather have them hard as a rock and struggling in their chains while being forced to watch me being pleasured by another in my poly household. I find their emotional pain and suffering to be far more humilating than just not getting to cum.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 5:41:54 AM

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Thanks MsNightShade. i really appreciate your insights and wisdom. Your points seem to be quite excellent and well thought out.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 9:43:17 AM

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I have found extended periods of chastity actually have an adverse effect. Medical studies show that the testosterone levels in the male do build but only to a certain point before the body begins to disipate the excess hormone. Since no more is needed by the body, the testicals actually begin to produce less, there by allowing the small amt so estrogen in a male body to raise. Of course this induces more efemenant behaviors.

My personal tastes are not for feminization, sissification or cross dressing in males. I find it repulsive actually. If I wanted a woman, I'd get one. So, I tend to use chasity for punishment.

Huh?

I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I have noticed that whenever comments about male chastity are posted by women, they usually site some type of "medical studies". Yet the findings don't tend to correlate with the actual experiences of most of the guys that I know who have been kept in forced chastity.

I have LOTS of experience in this area, and i can't say that I have ever felt myself becoming feminized due to estrogen build-up. Moreover, I've never heard any other slave say that he has started feeling feminine. Sure, after a while, your sex drive does decline. During the first 2-3 days in chastity, all I can think about is sex. But after that, it becomes much more manageable. And after a month or more, the impulses are much easier to control.

BTW, I don't mean to imply that the studies that you cite are invalid. I'm just pointing out that women usually have far more concerns, and believe that chastity is far more dangerous, than men who have actually experienced it. I don't know if SlaveKal or Peon are following this thread, but they are male subs that I know have experience with forced chastity. I'd be curious to know if they agree with my assessment (both about chastity NOT causing feminization, and about women being far more concerned about safety than the situation dictates).

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 10:07:57 AM

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I don't know if SlaveKal or Peon are following this thread, but they are male subs that I know have experience with forced chastity. I'd be curious to know if they agree with my assessment (both about chastity NOT causing feminization, and about women being far more concerned about safety than the situation dictates).

I haven't had any experience of forced chastity by a femdom, RS. Yet, like a lot of men, circumstances have forced chastity upon me from time to time. It has no feminising effect whatsoever. What it does do is make me so horny that I end up demented with it. (Though demented in pretty damned good way.)

As for the safety aspects - well, every partner I've ever had has assumed that a man's wedding tackle is a lot more delicate than it really is.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 10:16:56 AM

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As for the safety aspects - well, every partner I've ever had has assumed that a man's wedding tackle is a lot more delicate than it really is.

Yeah, they always seem to think the jewels are so delicate. I guess we have them fooled.

BTW, sorry about thinking that you had been kept in forced chastity. I thought I remembered you participating in a few threads on the topic. My mistake.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 10:22:15 AM

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BTW, sorry about thinking that you had been kept in forced chastity. I thought I remembered you participating in a few threads on the topic. My mistake.

No worries, RS. I certainly have participated in threads on forced chastity, though that's because I find the subject pretty damned horny.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 10:31:05 AM

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Rochsub, I don't have any "studies" on this, just observations. With men Of A Certain Age especially getting and keeping an erection, and having orgasms, can be trained out of them. I know two men personally who had to seriously work to regain their potency after long periods (I mean a year plus) of forced chastity. Sure, it's a mental thing, and yes, it did get turned around, but there really are long term effects for some men.

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RE: Do Mistresses Prefer to Chastise Their Slave(s)\? - 6/22/2010 4:12:09 PM

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With men Of A Certain Age especially getting and keeping an erection, and having orgasms, can be trained out of them. I know two men personally who had to seriously work to regain their potency after long periods (I mean a year plus) of forced chastity. Sure, it's a mental thing, and yes, it did get turned around, but there really are long term effects for some men.

I agree. I can attest from personal experience that the little fella just doesn't stand at attention as quickly or as erectly as he once did. Being a man of a certain age definitely does have its challenges.

As far as being in forced chastity for a year plus, that is excessive (IMO). I can definitely see how being in chastity for that long can have adverse effects.

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