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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Defining "Lifestyle" (6/21/2010 1:59:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TheLadyIsADomme
So, in that vein, I *don't* define myself as a "lifestyle" domme. But is there a third category, or am I putting too fne a microscope on the whole issue? How do you define yourself, or your relationship, in the context of the "lifestyle"?
There is a lot of debate about the use of the term "lifestyle". For me, my "lifestyle" is the way that I choose to live my life -- including the fact that I like authority-based relationships as a part of that way of life. I have a -lot- of relationships in my life, as I am part of an extended poly household -- however, not everyone in our household has anything to do with authority-based dynamics, so it certainly isn't the most pervasive feature of our home. However, for me, the authority dynamics are part of my "lifestyle" -- they're part of the way that I choose to live, and the things that I choose to do. It seemed to me that this was the definition in which the question about pro or lifestyle applied -- if you participated in activities as a job, you fit on one side... if you participated in activities because it was just the way you lived your life, you fit into the "lifestyle" side. In truth, most of the pros I've known have also been "lifestylers", so it's a bit of a redundancy IMO, but I think that was sort of the direction it was meant.
That being said, I don't think that there is any real concrete, all-encompassing M/s, D/s, K/s, BDSM, etc., "lifestyle" -- as in "one way of living that everyone in that group aspires to". So in that sense, it's just a life -- with all its bits and pieces and parts.
Calla
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