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RE: Crying? - 6/29/2010 12:45:42 PM

HisEvelyn

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There are most certainly times when reaching the climax of a very intense session with Master that I will break out into sobs. Most often it is when he takes me truly deep into my subspace. I reach a point where I am just lost in the experience, and then I lose every inhibition. I just start sobbing. It's freeing and cathartic and powerfully moving. I am also exceedingly at peace and comfortable for quite a while afterwards. I am able to simply be myself without any worry or doubt. He is there, and he soothes me until I am able to get back on my own emotional two feet.

It's only happened a few times, and is most likely to happen when I've been under stress in my life. But I love it. It's so incredibly powerful.

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RE: Crying? - 6/29/2010 6:52:19 PM

Andalusite

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For me, crying tends to be more sensory overload. One time, I was fine with being caned, cropped, and so forth. I asked for a drink of water, and he poured it over my back, and I just burst into tears! I don't have any negative emotions about water, or bad experiences, it just took me by surprise and kind of shocked my system.

Singletails don't hurt more than other kinds of pain exactly, and I don't feel emotionally bad about them, but I tend to sob my eyes out. It feels good, kind of cleansing, and it's good pain at the time I'm experiencing it, I just feel a little overwhelmed. Face slapping can have a similar "overwhelm/shock" feel to it, even though I haven't cried from it so far. It's a very intriguing headspace to be in.

I'd suggest you discuss things with your Dom, as much as you can about what you felt at the time and afterward. The two of you might decide to hold off on it, or you may find you love the tears it brings. There's no wrong answer, just what works for both of you!

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RE: Crying? - 7/24/2010 4:15:59 AM

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I am a crier...and that IS my subspace... it took Master a little bit to understand that. While playing... and after sex a lot... (even vanilla style sex). At play parties I used to "freak out" people with how hard I would cry... (sobbing crying) to the point where they would come over and ask "is she ok?" And the response was "it's just her" LOL. For me it is just things that go through my mind while I am in subspace... no, not things like work and the kids... but "please don't ever let me go" or just thoughts about how much I love him.... he has gotten good at controlling it too... he found that, well, if you stick something in my mouth (like a dick LOL) I will stop... and if he wants me in that place and he sees me fighting it (because I fight it a lot when I can't stop) he will grab a fistful of hair and put me back into the uncontrolable tears. Part of it is the release for me... especially if there is something stressful going on in my life... but the fall into subspace ALWAYS starts it... and thoughts of him and what we share keep me there.

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RE: Crying? - 7/24/2010 5:07:22 PM

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You're OK girl, and it sounds like you have a very good relationship :)

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RE: Crying? - 7/24/2010 10:27:49 PM

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It sounds like what your describing is something called subdrop. Its common when emotional bonds are formed between M/s and is largely unknown or ignored. this does not only happen to subs. doms (myself included) can experience the same sort of thing. called Topdrop there are ways to deal with it as long as you know what it is. there are many great articles on the net. just search subdrop