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Glasgow -> Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 3:59:26 PM)
Alright. I've had this argument a few times now, and I can't quite get over it. I say that obtaining a prenup is a good idea in any marriage, because going through a divorce is a stressful enough process without arguing (and by arguing, I probably mean suing) over who gets what. My family (who, incidentally, is very religious) says that getting a prenup means you expect your marriage will fail, so you should not get one at all. They also argue that unless you are very wealthy, getting a prenup is pointless. What are your opinions on this?

rulemylife -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 4:02:20 PM)
Having been through one divorce I would never marry again without a pre-nup.

pahunkboy -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 4:39:54 PM)
I can see it having a practical side.

willbeurdaddy -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 5:54:45 PM)
the title is a false dichotomy. It is a good idea BECAUSE it anticipates failure.

Jeffff -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 5:56:39 PM)
Yup.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 6:00:15 PM)
Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary.

rulemylife -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 6:13:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary. No? Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are.

KatyLied -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 6:41:39 PM)
It is a good idea, especially if you have assets and want to safeguard your assets for yourself and/or children. I would not consider marriage without a prenup,

TheHeretic -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 7:25:12 PM)
I guess it depends on what is being brought in to the marriage. Two people who come together with pretty much nothing are going to have a hard time figuring out how to divvy it up.

vincentML -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 8:40:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rulemylife Having been through one divorce I would never marry again without a pre-nup. Having been through two divorces I would never marry again....

juliaoceania -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 8:44:20 PM)
Seriously, I think it depends... If you are both young, starting out together, making a life together, well it would be fair to split assets equally in the event of a divorce.... if that is not the case, think about one, but prenups are not set in stone anyways

littlewonder -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 10:24:17 PM)
I personally wouldn't have one because I stayed single for many many many years because I wanted to be sure of the man I wanted to be with, a man I could trust completely and would do so with every fiber of my being. Besides what's he going to take? half of nothing? LOL

Brain -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 11:42:25 PM)
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juliaoceania -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 11:44:14 PM)
I wonder, is that site funded by lawyers? I am not saying it is, but I always wonder things like that....

LaserKitty -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/21/2010 11:47:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rulemylife quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary. No? Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are. False. when I got divorced, there was NO battle over anything. we agreed that we were ill-suited, and that we would leave the marriage with what we had come into it with. .All else was to be sold/divided equitably, proceeds split.

juliaoceania -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/22/2010 12:02:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaserKitty quote: ORIGINAL: rulemylife quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary. No? Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are. False. when I got divorced, there was NO battle over anything. we agreed that we were ill-suited, and that we would leave the marriage with what we had come into it with. .All else was to be sold/divided equitably, proceeds split. Ditto.... this was my experience.....

RCdc -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/22/2010 1:21:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: LaserKitty quote: ORIGINAL: rulemylife quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary. No? Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are. False. when I got divorced, there was NO battle over anything. we agreed that we were ill-suited, and that we would leave the marriage with what we had come into it with. .All else was to be sold/divided equitably, proceeds split. Ditto.... this was my experience..... I'll add myself to that line. the.dark.

RCdc -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/22/2010 1:24:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow Alright. I've had this argument a few times now, and I can't quite get over it. I say that obtaining a prenup is a good idea in any marriage, because going through a divorce is a stressful enough process without arguing (and by arguing, I probably mean suing) over who gets what. My family (who, incidentally, is very religious) says that getting a prenup means you expect your marriage will fail, so you should not get one at all. They also argue that unless you are very wealthy, getting a prenup is pointless. What are your opinions on this? It really does depend on the people and what they have before entering the marriage. I do not see the point of one if everything is earnt equally. I don't believe that wealth is a factor though because something does not have to cost much to be of value. the.dark.

Level -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/22/2010 3:05:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied It is a good idea, especially if you have assets and want to safeguard your assets for yourself and/or children. I would not consider marriage without a prenup, Ditto.

RCdc -> RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? (6/22/2010 3:31:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied It is a good idea, especially if you have assets and want to safeguard your assets for yourself and/or children. I would not consider marriage without a prenup, Ditto. When you say this are you being specific? What I mean is are you talking about children concieved during the marriage, or those that are already there? Or both? the.dark.

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