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Phoenixandnika -> RE: Traumatic Pasts-When to tell all? (4/14/2006 10:10:13 AM)
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I personally think it is unrealistic to think I would fully disclose "everything" about my past to someone immediately. I consider myself very lucky, my Master and I where friends long before we were Master / slave. Even then however, there where things that where hard for me to discuss because in truth they where still very much opened wound.
My Master and I used to play this Q & A game . We would take turns asking each other question and no matter what those questions where we had to answer honestly. Now , this was after we had been friends for along time and where exploring the idea of a Master/slave relationship and in truth a life together. Would I give someone who was simply an aquantance that much information about me, my life. NO. There are some things that will NEVER be public knowledge because they are very intimate and personal things. However, the moment I think they may affect how I react in a situation, my safety or someone elses I will ALWAYS be upfront.
That being said I do think there are things should be disclosed upfront when becoming intimately involved with someone period weather lifestyle or not. Those typically are health issue, both mental and physical health issue. Knowing those things - can possibly change the outcome of a situation.
A silly example : My uncle was dating this woman for quiet some time. One night he went to her house for dinner the next thing I knew I was getting a call from the emergency room. She made stuffed bell peppers with shrimp flakes as a seasoning. He is deathy allergic to shrimp it makes his body swell up like a balloon which in turn closes off air ways and such. IF he would have disclosed this to her she would not have used the shrimp flakes in the bell peppers.
Nika{Phoenix}
His gothic deviant
Nika{Phoenix}
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