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cloudboy -> RE: Subs as sexists? (4/14/2006 1:17:56 PM)
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FEMDOMs can have issues with Male Doms as well.
Generally, it just seems wrong for a man to beat up on a woman although this is not exactly what happens in BDSM. Also, men have enough advantages already, so giving them even more power and authority over women seems like the wrong way to go. Lastly, I'm sure people cannot help but think of the violence men inflict on women (rapes, batteries, and assaults) when thinking about BDSM.
Blue Velvet explored this netherworld. When Frank Booth (Dennis Hopper) strikes Dorothy Vallens (Isabella Rossellini) and she likes it, responds to it --- one is SHOCKED. It seems twisted. Next when Dorothy Vallens asks the innocent, caring Jeffrey Beaumont (Kyle MacLachlan) to hit her, not only is it hard for him to do, but it hurts him more than it does her (she likes it.) The Frank Booth scenes were particularly violent and scary, and one doesn't get the feeling its exactly consensual --- but Dorothy gets a kind of twisted pleasure out of Frank and somehow relishes her trapped, slavish status.
Its interesting, too, how in The Secretary James Spader's character, although imbued with the power to dispense sadistic corrections of Maggie Gyllenhaal, had qualms of conscience about it and himself --- and like Kyle MacLachlan, its as if he suffered more than his submissive counterpart. His sub actually has to talk him back into role and action.
From a BDSM perspective, Blue Velvet probably drew up the architypal male DOM as a cross between the two male heroes, Frank Booth and Jeffrey Beaumont. Such a man would rest between a suburban, safe man and an antisocial, sociopathic, criminal one --- fusing danger and safety into one being.
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