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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 11:18:00 AM

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I am female, born that way, and I could do without oral sex. Perform it on a guy or gal, love it, having it done to me? Forget it. If you want to pleasure me, finger me, suck on my nipples, kiss on my neck.

Oral sex doesn't hold the keys to my kingdom. If someone enjoys doing it, I'll allow it, it feels good, it simply won't get me off. No, it's not the "way the person is doing it", it feels good, but unless the person is fingering me at the same time, I'm not going to orgasm.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 11:28:12 AM

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Tell it, LDVixen!! Never fails to amuse me how folks INSIST that we are all wired the same. Oral sex? Only if I can watch tv at the sametime!

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 1:56:58 PM

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Not a huge fan of receiving oral sex either. When I'm not overly sensitive and ticklish it can be a turn-on, but I can't get off from it. I demand hard cock and lots of it.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 2:51:24 PM

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This thread made me remember that I wanted to get some wing tattoos! Thanks!

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 3:20:14 PM

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For me, plain old oral sex is ok sometimes but queening isn't about the oral sex, at least for me. Its about forcing someone to pleasure me, its about putting him/her in a compromising position, its about my power over him.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 3:23:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
I demand hard cock and lots of it.

Just had an image of you walking around the town centre with that on a placard.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 3:37:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
I demand hard cock and lots of it.

Just had an image of you walking around the town centre with that on a placard.

That's one demo I have to see.

"WHAT DO WE WANT?!"

"HARD COCK!"

"WHEN DO WE WANT IT?"

"WHEN IT'S CONVENIENT TO US, WHICH IS TO SAY WHEN THERE'S NOTHING GOOD ON TELE, OR WHEN WE'RE A BIT BORED!"

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 6:46:06 PM

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Some Women don't like Queening?

They must be doing it wrong! (lol)

I'm glad I've never been with one of these strange Women. All my partners have enjoyed it... a LOT.

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For me, plain old oral sex is ok sometimes but queening isn't about the oral sex, at least for me. Its about forcing someone to pleasure me, its about putting him/her in a compromising position, its about my power over him.

I can relate to that too.
If a Lady lies on her back and spreads her legs, I'll lick it but it dosn't really turn me on. But if I'm on my back with her on top, it's like the greatest thing in the world. I f**king LOVE IT!!! There's nowhere I'd rather be but at the same time it's forced on me (literally).
I like to be smothered too. I guess that's part of that 'auto-erotic asphyxiation' business.
I like it when they get right into it and start riding my face and nose too.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 7:25:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

Not a huge fan of receiving oral sex either. When I'm not overly sensitive and ticklish it can be a turn-on, but I can't get off from it. I demand hard cock and lots of it.

LNT,
I think queening will pretty much get you all the hard cock you are seeking. I know it make me hard. LOL!

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 8:33:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Need4Squeeze
If a Lady lies on her back and spreads her legs, I'll lick it but it dosn't really turn me on. But if I'm on my back with her on top, it's like the greatest thing in the world. I f**king LOVE IT!!! There's nowhere I'd rather be but at the same time it's forced on me (literally).
I like to be smothered too. I guess that's part of that 'auto-erotic asphyxiation' business.
I like it when they get right into it and start riding my face and nose too.

For me, the sensation is much more likely to be ticklish and unpleasant or neutral to mildly pleasant at best if I am in the position you describe. I don't entirely know why this is, but the physical sensations make those positions not that much fun for me when it comes to oral sex. Psychologically it can be fun, but since I'm not physiologically wired to get much pleasure from it, I mainly use it as a tool to push erotic buttons in my partner. I get a lot more good sensation from oral sex if I'm physically relaxed and lying back.

My question is that if you knew this about your partner, would you still prefer to be queened rather than to give oral sex in a position that would actually give her more pleasure?

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 8:38:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RapierFugue
That's one demo I have to see.

"WHAT DO WE WANT?!"

"HARD COCK!"

"WHEN DO WE WANT IT?"

"WHEN IT'S CONVENIENT TO US, WHICH IS TO SAY WHEN THERE'S NOTHING GOOD ON TELE, OR WHEN WE'RE A BIT BORED!"

This sounds like a very amusing demonstration, except for the fact that I only want the hard cocks that are attached to my much-loved collared submissives and life partners. I <3 my poly family. Not interested in going outside of it for sex. A nice fantasy though, that I could march up and down the town square and demand that hard cock be offered to me as a tribute by every fellow I saw passing by who caught my fancy. Best kept in fantasy however, as the reality wouldn't work so well. When random strangers actually do this (eg, mail me pics of their wangs), I find it aggressive and annoying, because they aren't actually submitting to my demands so much as shoving it uninvited in my face. It's only fun if I'm the one in absolute control of when the dick comes out.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 9:15:36 PM

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Facesitting is my favorite fetish.Like anything else in life,some people like it and some people dont.Some Women like it and some Women dont.Some Men like it and other men dont.It just depends on the person themselves.I certainly do not view queening as something that is really that far out there.I cant see it as more or less extreme than just about any other fetish that is out there.Common sense certainly does make a major difference.I certainly would not want to be "down under" for too long.Maybe I need to learn to breathe through my hears!

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 9:31:15 PM

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I hope I speak for most of us women and men for that matter who enjoy queening. Most of us are adults and are educated enough to know the dangers of sitting on a strangers face or even the face of a friend who's sexual history is unknown to us. We know that its just as dangerous as bareback sex, unprotected anal, needleplay or hitting someone with the same bloody flogger that's just been used on someone else.
That doesn't mean we shouldn't do queening but what it does mean is, we should take the appropriate precautions. If people don't then its their risk. ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

THIS
Plus I have to say... its a MUST for me, non negotiable, a dealbreaker, luckily its never lost me a decent chap:)

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RE: QUEENING - 1/17/2011 9:49:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

For me, the sensation is much more likely to be ticklish and unpleasant or neutral to mildly pleasant at best if I am in the position you describe. I don't entirely know why this is, but the physical sensations make those positions not that much fun for me when it comes to oral sex. Psychologically it can be fun, but since I'm not physiologically wired to get much pleasure from it, I mainly use it as a tool to push erotic buttons in my partner. I get a lot more good sensation from oral sex if I'm physically relaxed and lying back.

My question is that if you knew this about your partner, would you still prefer to be queened rather than to give oral sex in a position that would actually give her more pleasure?

Well, 'I' would rather be Queened. That wouldn't change, however...
First, I would do my best to change her mind. There are many positions: Her sitting, kneeling, squatting, facing forward, facing backwards, lying down in a 69 type position (or a 67 position... whether she reward with a happy ending or not would be her choice). I could lay on a bench or the corner of the bed and she can do it standing up. Then there are different styles of: Kissing, licking, sucking, grinding, humping and sliding.
If we tried every position and every style and she still wasn't getting off... then I guess I'd have to admit defeat.

If I really liked the Lady and we enjoyed a lot of other 'activities' together, then of course I would be happy to lick her pussy, like you describe. I would want to please her and make her happy.
But it would be a compromise. A bit of compromise can be a good thing but too much compromise and I would probably be better off finding someone who enjoys more of the same things. A lot of Women love Queening, so I would be better suited to one of those Women. Then we would be doing something we both enjoy.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/18/2011 5:50:05 AM

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I'm absolutely with Cynthia on this....

Tantriqu, I'm not a guy but random oral sex from casual play partners doesn't work for me, the idea alone is a turn off.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/18/2011 8:33:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
I just love DKs anti oral sex threads. The imagery of a Domme who hates getting licked sorta turns me on . . . in a kidnap her and lick her against her will sorta' way. So I made this sign for DK in memory of her "girls don't like oral sex" thread and other anti tongue in cunt threads and comments I might have missed.

In her defense, the original was posted over six months ago. The usual time frame. Close to the first of the month when she's trying to attract attention to herself, which I think she believes is good for 'business'. Highly doubtful that she garners clients from CM, considering the posting history and how it's viewed by the average forum reader, but that's another subject entirely.

No, in this case, it was just some random wanker who pulled the subject from the back history. Really can't blame her for that one.

God bless the random wanker for pulling this up. . . . I am glad DK doesn't like oral sex. It's an uncommon and unpopular perspective that she presumes we all share her dislike for it. It's very entertaining.

I was gonna’ start a thread called “Blow Jobs Suck!” but ya’ll know me too well for me to pull that off with a straight face.

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RE: QUEENING - 1/18/2011 9:52:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

God bless the random wanker for pulling this up. . . . I am glad DK doesn't like oral sex. It's an uncommon and unpopular perspective that she presumes we all share her dislike for it. It's very entertaining.

I was gonna’ start a thread called “Blow Jobs Suck!” but ya’ll know me too well for me to pull that off with a straight face.

I dunno why it is so difficult to understand that unlike most men, most women don't like oral from just anybody and everybody... I know it's awfully cruel to ruin such popular masturbation fodder for most men, while most of us can top and torture casually, unless you're a fluid bonded partner, the thought of a tongue down there doesn't do anything for me apart from icking me out. Add to that the fact that most guys really don't do it all that well but we've been told to not crush their fragile egos and libidos, so we have to act like they're the greatest ever... In most cases women are a lot better at giving it, as they got the same equipment and know which sensations go on down there, just like gay guys possibly give the best BJs.

While the chance for guys to catch something from a random BJ is also minimal, the risk for women is a lot higher. So can we scratch the myth that each and every woman is just going completely crazy with delight if some dude is going to offer to go down on her...

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RE: QUEENING - 1/18/2011 1:02:06 PM

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I love going down on Women.However,I have to agree,I would prefer to do it with a Lady whom I know.Most of the time I have gone down on Women is when THEY wanted me to go down on them.Theres a few out there that do enjoy it.Like with anything,exercise common sense.

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RE: QUEENING - 2/26/2011 9:20:03 PM

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Ok, I just have to make a note about this. It seems there are some misconceptions about what Queening is really about. It is not simply about 'oral sex'. Rather, it is a power control thing. Sorry, but I just had to say something, as I was shocked to read of so many having no real idea of what the act is really about.

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RE: QUEENING - 2/27/2011 8:10:25 AM

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Forgiveness for contributing to thread bump, but I have a public service announcement. HPV is very common. There are a few strains that cause warts. There are a few strains that, if persistent, will cause cancer. And there are over a hundred more that do, well, nothing as far as we can tell. Most cases of HPV clear up on their own without treatment. HPV can be detected in women via PAP smears. There is no way of testing asymptomatic men for it. I too was... displeased to see the connection to throat cancers (cancerous HPV transmitted via oral sex) but it's still a very small number of cases compared to the number of HPV infections. If you're eligible for the vaccine, go ahead and get it. (Men and women.) I think it only targets 4 strains but it's better than nothing. I suppose condoms and/or dental dams would provide some protection. Not enough to justify the inconvenience in my book. Also, folic acid supplements are a lovely way to keep the cervix happy and will help fight off many HPV strains. I am not a medical professional. This is not medical advice.

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ORIGINAL: iambad69

Ok, I just have to make a note about this. It seems there are some misconceptions about what Queening is really about. It is not simply about 'oral sex'. Rather, it is a power control thing. Sorry, but I just had to say something, as I was shocked to read of so many having no real idea of what the act is really about.

Respectfully disagree. Of course there can be a serious power control element, but in my case it's no more power control than me sitting on top during PIV. But then I don't call it Queening. The appeal of facesitting mystified me until I tried it. Probably because it was presented as this big domination moment and I did worry about how the poor dear would breathe. But on request, I did a little bit of research (thanks xtube!), saw some different styles, chose the one that I was most comfortable and was off to the races. And then I rode that boy's chin/tongue/nose to a thrilling finish. For me, it's just the most spectacularly efficient way to orgasm from oral sex. I suspect many of the men who would refuse to do it would do so on the grounds that it felt like a dangerous loss of control. But when I do it, it feels more like teamwork. I'm the PG and he's the PF.

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