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Control ? - 6/26/2010 11:11:25 AM   
subtlebottomgirl


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Can you share your opinion of yes or no, and why ?
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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 12:05:56 PM   
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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 12:08:06 PM   
Jeffff


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Does it require control?

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 12:11:44 PM   
myotherself


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I don't need or want control. That implies (to me, anyway) some form of force or coercion.

I want someone so wonderful, so inspirational that I have no choice in my heart but to follow.

That's my take on it anyway - I'm sure you'll get at least a hundred different opinions

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 1:43:46 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Ultimately, everyone controls their own thoughts, feelings and actions.

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 1:48:28 PM   
bluefireeyez


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For me, no. He has the control of major decisions in my life, and I gave Him the option to control certain aspects of my life.

But, it is true He can not control my thoughts or feelings. My actions; however, he does. Unless, of course I want to be punished...but he controls even that.

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 2:06:40 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Unless he is actually physically restraining you so that you are unable to perform certain actions, or physically forcing you (such as by brute strength) to do things or have things done to you....

YOU are controlling yourself on his behalf.





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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 2:08:35 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		When I agreed to be his slave I surrendered all to him. If he has the authority and the power and if he wants to control something in my life that's his choice. There are certain things he controls, there are certain things he has given over control for because I simply am better at that certain thing than him.

For me to no longer surrender that control to him would be me no longer loving and caring for him and that for me just isn't happening anytime soon.

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 2:10:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Unless he is actually physically restraining you so that you are unable to perform certain actions, or physically forcing you (such as by brute strength) to do things or have things done to you....

YOU are controlling yourself on his behalf.






I very much like the way you put this.

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 2:31:01 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Thank you. This is exactly what makes D/s so yummy for my slaveboy and I. His obedience is like an elixer, for us both because it is an active decision that he makes every day, to accede to my authority.

YUM. 

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 2:43:35 PM   
WestBaySlave


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ORIGINAL: subtlebottomgirl

Is it an illusion ? 


It's mostly an illusion interspersed with ways and moments it's not. For example, bondage you can't escape from, unfavorable prenuptial agreements, and so forth can be real control to a degree, but most of it is this:

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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

YOU are controlling yourself on his behalf.



I've yet to figure out just why controlling myself on someone else's behalf tends to be more enjoyable than controlling myself on my own behalf, though. Go figure.



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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 2:52:02 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 3:15:15 PM   
Nineveh


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WestBaySlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlebottomgirl

Is it an illusion ? 


It's mostly an illusion interspersed with ways and moments it's not. For example, bondage you can't escape from, unfavorable prenuptial agreements, and so forth can be real control to a degree, but most of it is this:

quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

YOU are controlling yourself on his behalf.



I've yet to figure out just why controlling myself on someone else's behalf tends to be more enjoyable than controlling myself on my own behalf, though. Go figure.





And the mirror question, why it is so much more satisfying to me to have someone else control herself on my behalf than it is for me to control myself on my behalf.

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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 4:04:26 PM   
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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 4:48:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

YOU are controlling yourself on his behalf.


Dreamer,

I have no idea what you look like at all. In my head you are basically a blue fluffy cloud made intelligence and awesomeness.

You've hit the nail on the head


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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 4:56:50 PM   
sunshinemiss


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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 4:59:44 PM   
VaguelyCurious


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Status: offline 		You mean she's...not a blue fluffy cloud?

A beautiful woman is definitely better than a cloud, but you're messing with my perception of reality here sunny...


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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 5:09:20 PM   
sunshinemiss


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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 5:17:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

*pssst... She's seriously.... HAWT... I mean turn-me-into-a-lesbian-hawt.


I confirm and second this


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RE: Control ? - 6/26/2010 7:22:53 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

*pssst... She's seriously.... HAWT... I mean turn-me-into-a-lesbian-hawt.


I confirm and second this




*perk*

Huh??? 

*blushes furiously*

Well shucks ladies, I think y'all got me beat in the looks department- but thank you!


I did get a makeover recently....
 

 





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