Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: How come sometimes when you're royally pissed off your entire body shakes? (7/2/2010 8:46:31 AM)
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There are times he wouldn't get out of my space and I removed myself. I remember one time we were arguing and shouting and it was getting so out of hand, and I told him leave me alone, and he said no, we're going to talk this out, and I walked into the house locked the door behind me, went pee* since that was where I was heading in the first place finished up* And I sat down on the couch and calmed down until I was ready to be a reasonable human being again then I got up, unlocked the back door and THEN we worked it out, and calmly no less. .quote:
ORIGINAL: sirsholly It is good that you recognize this, but you are not assuming control of yourself by telling HIM to stay away. What if he doesn't? What is he is just as angry as you are and will not back down? In fact, not only will he not back down, but he actually does invade your space? Would you feel it was his fault that you hauled off and clobbered him? I hate to tell you it would NOT be his fault...it would be yours. It would be you that lost control, and you that would face charges if the police became involved. It is commendable that you recognize you might lose control, but i really think you need to be pro-active in stopping any potential violence by being the one to walk away. From what you wrote, your self-control is dictated by HIS actions, and that is not good. Raising your hand to someone in anger is not acceptable, and you know that, so by being the one to walk away you will be sure it does not happen.
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