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Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 12:32:56 AM

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Ladies i have a question for You. Why would a Woman Domme retire as a Domme in her mid 30s. After all once a Domme always a Domme right or wrong? Is this a lifestyle rather than a career? Why would retiring come into it? You only retire from a career right. And does anyone really talk about a Domme career. They talk about lifestyle. If its lifestyle why would retiring come into it? Just curious
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 12:39:05 AM

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OK - here' some options:

1. Maybe she's a pro-Domme and only does it for a living
2. Maybe she's unwell and doesn't have the energy
3. Maybe she's tired of the endless flood of 'do-me' subs and has gone back to 'nilla
4. Maybe she's fallen in love with someone who doesn't want her to do this any more
5. Maybe she's decided she's done everything she wants to do, and the thrill has gone
6. Maybe she can't find the right sub for her, so she's decided to try a wider pool of candidates
7. Maybe she's given in to family pressure and has abandoned her 'wild' life
8. Maybe she has a child and has decided it's better for her child not to be involved in this lifestyle
9. Maybe she's gone off sex and doesn't see the point of relationships without sex
10. Maybe she has decided to join the Church and has decided to sacrifice her sex life in favour of her faith.

There's ten off the top of my head.

Probably none of them applies to the Domme in question.

Maybe you should ask her?

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 12:44:04 AM

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Another possibility, maybe she's found someone who flips her switch and is now subbing.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 12:50:55 AM

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Is there any reason why she shouldn't?

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 12:52:18 AM

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But why would She not want Her child in the lifestyle and anyway i never think of Dommes as child bearing because on their profiles You never see any of their kids and no Domme would be ashamed enough of Her profession not to allow others to see Her kids, and as for asking Her well i wouldnt its kind of a personal question which is not liked by Ladies or Dommes at all and can lead to dismissal from a job, i should know, i lost my job over some wagon who took badly to being asked was she married i mean come on i was only being conversational i didnt know it was out of order and She didnt make any deal of it just reported me behind my back not very nice, not that i would do it again because of the bitches that populate the work place and who You can t say boo to
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:00:00 AM

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I get the feeling you don't really know any Dommes on a personal level. They're just as likely to have children as any other sort of woman. Some may not mind sharing the lifestyle with their children, some may want to shelter them from it at all costs. That's a personal decision and one it would be wise to respect.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:04:03 AM

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quote:

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But why would She not want Her child in the lifestyle and anyway i never think of Dommes as child bearing because on their profiles You never see any of their kids and no Domme would be ashamed enough of Her profession not to allow others to see Her kids,

As I said in my response, there are potentially thousands of reasons why this woman may not be a Domme any more. Read the boards here and you find people have all kinds of rational and irrational feelings about wiitwd. I threw in the 'children' thing pretty much at random, because you have given no information to work with or to base a response upon.
If she's a Domme in a RELATIONSHIP and she has children, then they are going to be part of that relationship because that's what couples with kids do - they include them. I have no idea even if she has kids - you've told us absolutely bog all about her except her age.

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and as for asking Her well i wouldnt its kind of a personal question which is not liked by Ladies or Dommes at all and can lead to dismissal from a job,

so this woman is your boss, I take it. How do you know she's a domme? Has she told you? Or have you just assumed she is one because she's your superior at work?

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i should know, i lost my job over some wagon who took badly to being asked was she married i mean come on i was only being conversational i didnt know it was out of order and She didnt make any deal of it just reported me behind my back not very nice, not that i would do it again because of the bitches that populate the work place and who You can t say boo to

Maybe you lost your job because of your shitty attitude towards women? I doubt any woman would care enough to report you for asking if she was married - and I doubt her boss would care about it either. There must have been something more to it that she objected to. Maybe you called her a 'wagon' or referred to her as one of 'the bitches' in the workplace. Maybe she just thought you were a prick who was hitting on her inappropriately. If you were dismissed unfairly, then do something about it.

If you're going to ask a random question and provide no information at all, you're going to get random answers.

So I suggest if it's SO important to you, then ask her. If it's none of your business, then forget about it.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:09:43 AM

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i was dismissed unfairly and i have proof. i was offered $50 compensation at an employment hearing which i have rejected as insulting. i want my job back and i intend to fight for it at an employment tribunal
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:11:56 AM

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This has all the makings of a train wreck!!

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:11:56 AM

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i sort of got to know a Domme at a munch a few months back , we talked a little but i left early out of necessity and i havent seen or heard from Her since. i am currently unowned and have been to three other munches since, i was also at a fetish party, i didnt see Her there either, im thinking She has forgotten about me as a potential for a servant and has got a different servant
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:12:13 AM

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fine. Then do that, and good luck.

But this is NOT the place to air your grievances against this woman by using insulting and derogatory terms. It makes you look like a patronising, insulting misogynist...which is not ideal if you're a male sub looking for a domme.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:36:35 AM

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hmmmm...you call me Ma'am in one post and a 'train' in another...

I'd call that smarmy and disingenuous.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:38:13 AM

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And anyway why should it all be about Her, all i get looking at the website here is Domme's saying My needs, My desires , My wants, what about him, what about his needs, his desires, surely it should be at least 65:35 in the Dommes favour not 90:10 as some Dommes want to have it
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 1:44:30 AM

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quote:

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And anyway why should it all be about Her, all i get looking at the website here is Domme's saying My needs, My desires , My wants, what about him, what about his needs, his desires, surely it should be at least 65:35 in the Dommes favour not 90:10 as some Dommes want to have it
kevin

Everyone on here states their needs and desires. That doesn't mean they aren't also interested in fulfiling others needs and desires. It's not a hundred percent that gets carved up between the two though. Ideally it's 100/100 although that is rare.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 2:06:18 AM

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or 50:50
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 2:11:05 AM

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or maybe 50:150 or 150:50 or 20:180 or 80:120 ROFL
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 2:12:24 AM

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or perhaps 180:20

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 2:15:55 AM

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You are doing the same thing where the two sides add up. Where if one is higher that means the other is lower. That's not how it works.

Most of us (dom or sub, male or female) wouldn't settle for 50/50 usually it's gotta be about 75/75. I have seen a few relationships that did look like they were about 90/10 (although that may just be my perception) and I didn't expect them to last long. Sure, sometimes meeting the other person's needs means you are not meeting your own, but ideally you meet your own needs by meeting the other persons. For both Dom and sub.

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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 2:20:02 AM

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Personally i would be prepared to go 90:60 or 85:65 in favour of the Domme if She was agreeable. , i would like to hear the Ladies responses though they are conspicuous by their silence here. Ladies would You be interested in a slave who went 90:60 or 85:65 in your favour. Bear in mind this is a non tributing slave
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RE: Why would a Woman Domme retire in her mid 30s - 7/3/2010 3:14:59 AM

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In my opinion, relationships in general are all about give and take. Sometimes one gives more than the other and sometimes both give equally.

In reference to your original post, I guess I'm just not seeing why you assume the Lady has retired just because you haven't seen her. Life has way too many variables to assume anything without knowing the specifics.

Just my 2 cents.

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