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Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:17:31 AM

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Greetings fellow adventurers! Thought I'd take a moment to introduce myself. I'm a submissive guy (imagine that, ho-hum) in Oklahoma. I love my Lady Love, but she does not enjoy kink to the extent that I do. However, we have a wonderful arrangement; she loans me out from time to time to allow me to satisfy my deeper submission desires, and she is free to do the same, so long as we both know what's going on.

That puts me in a bit of an awkward position on this site, so I'll apologize in advance in case I offend anyone. This site seems to be all about long-term, true D/s matchmaking with subs/slaves serving their owner/domme exclusively, which is something I obviously cannot do. My loyalty, first and foremost, will always be to the love of my life, the crazy woman who consented to marry me and has stuck with me for all these years. However, I can devote myself in submission for limited periods of time, and can sustain a long-term friendship with the right person.

Is my situation wrong for this site? Is there a better (and free) place for me to go? I really have a lot to give; I have been taught what it is to truly submit, no longer topping from below... Heck, even washing dishes can be downright wonderful when I'm submitting (although I will admit some "encouragement" really helps!) I feel like I have a lot to give the right dominant... but I don't want to cause problems and/or offend people right off the bat... If my parameters for encounters are off the mark, I'll just concentrate on building online friendships here instead.

Thanks for reading this!

-oksubby

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:19:21 AM

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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOklahoma where the wind comes sweeping down the plain.

I hope this helps.

I suspect it doesn't.

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:21:35 AM

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No, not so much, Jeffff... but thanks for playing! Unless you're suggesting I'm taking this waaay too seriously, in which case it could be a valuable insight...

Hrm.... *ponder*

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:32:34 AM

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Life's to short to take anything to seriously. But you might find someone here. I don't think everyone is here looking for the long term thing. I think, (may be wrong, I;m still pretty new here myself) as long as when you contact potential play partners you are upfront about the situation you might just find someone.

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:32:46 AM

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It would be a mistake to read too much into most of the things I post.

I just think a young Shirly Jones was pretty fuckable.

Welcome to the boards and good luck!

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:33:17 AM

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quote:

That puts me in a bit of an awkward position on this site, so I'll apologize in advance in case I offend anyone. This site seems to be all about long-term, true D/s matchmaking with subs/slaves serving their owner/domme exclusively, which is something I obviously cannot do. My loyalty, first and foremost, will always be to the love of my life, the crazy woman who consented to marry me and has stuck with me for all these years. However, I can devote myself in submission for limited periods of time, and can sustain a long-term friendship with the right person.

Is my situation wrong for this site? Is there a better (and free) place for me to go? I really have a lot to give; I have been taught what it is to truly submit, no longer topping from below..

I honestly hope you do not leave because of this, as it is not true!

There are many different people here looking for many different types of relationships...certainly CM is not exclusive to long term relationships only.

I could not ascertain if your wife is aware of your kink and knows you are seeing a Domme. If she is and supports you, it is well and good. But it is a safe bet you will not receive a lot of support on the boards with your lifestyle if your wife is not aware of your Domme.

That said...welcome to the nuthouse!!!

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:34:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: oksubby

Is my situation wrong for this site?
-oksubby

It is if it doesn't work for you or someone else. But if everyone's happy, who the heck are we to judge?

Welcome to collarme. And please ignore Jeffff's off key singing.

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:35:47 AM

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*Passes out earplugs*

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 10:36:46 AM

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Yep, she is, and is supportive... at least, she has been in the past, but it has been a while. Don't worry, I won't go playing without permission... my Lady-Love IS my commitment.

Oh, and thank you all for the welcomes!

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 11:56:46 AM

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You've got a better shot at it than someone who doesn't have their wife's permission and consent. Granted, it's going to be harder to find because many folks will only play with singles. It can happen though. My slave has belonged to Me for three years and neither of us is the primary relationship for the other.

I just thought I'd offer that piece of encouragement, along with a welcome.

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RE: Intro/Delurk... and a question - 7/3/2010 12:43:53 PM

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i think if you are as honest on profiel as you are here and make the dominant aware and can verify your wife is okay,you're set to go. Hope you find someone in your area,good luck ~ jewels

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