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Sothisisnew -> Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 9:41:11 PM)

I admit I'm inexperienced in this lifestyle in fact I have no experience lol. And I'm new to this site as well. But as i look through these profiles for a potential dom I cant seem to find one that is a real person and isn't just someone faking.... can anyone give me advice on finding a real female dom and not some random person trying to get me to make a account on a website?

All comments and help is appreciated.



tazzygirl -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 9:45:55 PM)

Just looking at your profile, im curious about something.

You admit to no experience. How does someone prove they are real to you?



Sothisisnew -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 9:52:18 PM)

There are several ways of proving there real. Examples can be like a picture with something specifically requested in it. Webcam etc etc


But honestly never made it that far. Every person I get in contact wants me to "come view there page" in reality they are trying to get me to pay to use a site.



sirsholly -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 9:56:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

. How does someone prove they are real to you?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sothisisnew

. Webcam

i saw this coming.





Sothisisnew -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 9:56:56 PM)

Yea but its a very easy way to confirm you are who you claim to be is it not?



tazzygirl -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 9:57:13 PM)

There are a few rules to posting threads here. If i remember correctly, the Moderators dont like identical threads posted on different boards. Maybe they changed that rule. Dont be surprised if one disappears though.

As far as pictures go, they can be photoshopped. I also am not a woman, though i do associate with being a slave, who will toss photos of myself around just to "prove" who i am. I tend to prefer to get to know someone first, as friends, before diving into the M/s type of relationship.. or even D/s.

Not everyone will jump through your hoops to prove who they are to you. And some will. I do wish you luck in your search. But, if it doesnt happen overnight, dont get discouraged. Some here have searched for years, and still are.



Sothisisnew -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:01:21 PM)

Thanks for the advice /help, and Yes i wasn't sure if posting twice was allowed and i apologize I should have checked.

Its because I posted here first and thought posting in a different category mite have been more appropriate.



TheLadyIsADomme -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:04:41 PM)

Assuming you found someone who was willing to "prove" herself to you, all a webcam does is show you a woman. How is that going to demonstrate "real domliness"?



LadyPact -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:08:33 PM)

I was responding on the other thread, but it seems to have been pulled.

Why not meet people at the local munch?  BDSM club?  Discussion group?  National event?

Btw, I don't get on webcam for random strangers.  I've met, in person, over a hundred people from this site.  If that's not good enough to 'prove' that I really exist, that's nothing that a webcam is going to fix.



Sothisisnew -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:10:40 PM)

well we would go from there.

What I'm concerned with is just proof that they are the person shown on there profile, Becausefor all i know I'm actually talking to a man that is claiming to be a woman.



Also I cant find to find anyone "local" or with in a reasonable distance of where I live.



tazzygirl -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:19:03 PM)

I dont know how many of these links are still valid, but you may find something a bit more local on this site.

http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgsmichigan.html

Im sure some of the other posters can provide you with more links in your area.

Being new and all, this may be a better way for you to meet lifestyle Dommes. At least you would be able to actually see them, see how they interact with others, and maybe even get feedback from other submissives and Dominants.



Sothisisnew -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:22:48 PM)

Thanks Ill check it out! if anyone else has advice or links like about let me know!

Again thank you.



AAkasha -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 10:33:14 PM)


you listed MMORPGs in your profile; if you play WOW, there are quite a few kinky guilds that are active, email me for more info.  After talking on vent, hanging out, getting to know kinky people in game, you realize they are for real of course.  I actually met one of my current boytoys via the femdom guild I started; we talk daily and have met once and are meeting again soon.  He has no doubts I am real :)

Akasha



VideoAdminRho -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/4/2010 11:12:36 PM)

quote:

If i remember correctly, the Moderators dont like identical threads posted on different boards. Maybe they changed that rule. Dont be surprised if one disappears though.

Quite correct. Apologies to LP and anyone else who answered the other thread.



Missokyst -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/5/2010 6:42:08 AM)

I will point out that just because they have a paysite does not make them less real. They serve a purpose for many people who want to engage in ds and are not seeking a full out relationship. Pay does not mean not real, it just means pay.

If that is not what you are looking for the answer is simple. Don't follow a link to a website, or do not pay when you get there.
Few women are going to jump onto a webcam to prove to you they are female. I know some trannies that could easily pass as a woman in person, and female in look does not mean someone is really a female. Basically with female dominants as with male dominants, they are not just hanging off a tree like ripe fruit waiting to fall in your lap.

Summing up:
Don't go to website links
It isn't easy finding anyone

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sothisisnew

I admit I'm inexperienced in this lifestyle in fact I have no experience lol. And I'm new to this site as well. But as i look through these profiles for a potential dom I cant seem to find one that is a real person and isn't just someone faking.... can anyone give me advice on finding a real female dom and not some random person trying to get me to make a account on a website?

All comments and help is appreciated.





DarkSteven -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/5/2010 6:55:39 AM)

I'll give you a hint.  The first paragraph of your profile will deter anyone real from having anything to do with you, and the second one doesn't help. You are essentially walking into a dating situation and shouting that you want nothing to do with fakes.  Who would stick around after that?

Instead of that, describe YOU.  What do you want - a few dates, a LTR, etc.?  What would a woman get from spending a day or two with you?

Also, note that your profile says that you spend a lot of time online.  You will likely appeal to a gamer at this point.  If that's not what you wish, try a group such as the ones in tazzy's link.



ourmsbetty -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/5/2010 6:56:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

As far as pictures go, they can be photoshopped. I also am not a woman, though i do associate with being a slave, who will toss photos of myself around just to "prove" who i am. I tend to prefer to get to know someone first, as friends, before diving into the M/s type of relationship.. or even D/s.

Not everyone will jump through your hoops to prove who they are to you.


Exactly right.

As I was going to say, I am very real and very un-new, do not now and never have had a webcam and I don't run around taking pics on demand for people I do not know.




ourmsbetty -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/5/2010 7:05:07 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sothisisnew

well we would go from there.

What I'm concerned with is just proof that they are the person shown on there profile, Becausefor all i know I'm actually talking to a man that is claiming to be a woman.



Also I cant find to find anyone "local" or with in a reasonable distance of where I live.


"real" cannot be seen with the eyes. It takes interaction and conversation. Or at least the willingness to read carefully.

My suggestion would be to educate yourself as much as possible about BDSM in general.  Once you know a bit yourself it will be much easier to sort out those who know the difference between a burro and a putting green.

Then it simply becomes a matter of reading profiles and seeing how well they match the picture.  Given a few minutes and a bit of common sense the fakes are pretty obvious.







DesFIP -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/5/2010 7:22:23 AM)

Try dating and if there's a spark of chemistry, you then explain what you're looking for in a relationship. If she feels the same, then explore it. If not, wish each other good luck and move on.

And if what you mean by dominant is someone willing to do you the way you want to be done, then you're not submissive, you're a bottom. Which is fine if you're honest about it. But dominants who are looking for people to submit get shirty when given a script to follow.



OttersSwim -> RE: Any real female doms? (7/5/2010 8:07:44 AM)

nevermind...



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