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Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 3:30:18 AM

mistressjuanita

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Funny how things happen that you don't expect in life!I met someone over a year ago and at first the relationship started slow enough!But as time went one He gradually change me to what i have become.....a domme!!He has left me now and yes i still and will always love him!!But am finding hard to move on ,cause i certianly can not got back to a vanilla relationship!
Interestingly though he keeps saying he wants back then leaves again and keeps playing with my heart!How does one get over the person who has made you what you have become, To be free to move on with a new sub?
I been trying actively to move!!To learn and explore more of this life!!But he keeps trying to pull me back to him for his convience !!

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 4:25:58 AM

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I'm sorry he left you; I'm sure he's a loser, ne-er do well, perhaps even a shit heel. But I have confidence that you'll move on.

Having said that, this is the "Positive Experiences" section, where you discuss positive meetings with others from this web site.

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 5:25:48 AM

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Juanita, Dommes are in kinda short supply in this lifestyle. Whenever you decide that you're able to move on, you will not have any issues finding a man.

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 8:29:57 AM

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I have met with Mistress Jaunita and she is everything a fella could ask for!!!! Plus she's a Canadian!! Farewell Mistress Jeffff.

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 8:56:53 AM

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I will not miss you.....

You are a do me sub and your tribute sucked!

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 9:00:32 AM

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Welcome to the forums.

Even vanilla men do the back and forth game if a woman allows them. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is the only real resolution.

Good luck !

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 9:44:37 AM

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Welcome, You will do fine,here. My advice if i may is not to allow him to penetrate your defense field anymore,and move on and give Yourself the happiness You deserve ~ jewels

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 11:11:33 AM

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Interestingly though he keeps saying he wants back then leaves again and keeps playing with my heart!How does one get over the person who has made you what you have become, To be free to move on with a new sub?

He did not make you what you are. Perhaps there are some that will act the part of a Domme/sub to please their partner, but the fact that you stayed a Domme tells me it was always inside of you.
If i can't convince you he did not create you as a Domme, don't forget there is a hell of a lot more to you than your orientation. He had nothing to do with forming your personality and all other good things about you.

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I been trying actively to move!!To learn and explore more of this life!!But he keeps trying to pull me back to him for his convience !!

My dear, he will keep using you and hurting you as long as you permit it.
What will it take for you to end this situation? Perhaps realizing that you are so much more than a "convenience"?

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 11:46:37 AM

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Don't allow him to play with you. (I am assuming and it may get me in trouble later) That you are a strong Female. You may not know too much about the lifestyle and that is why your trapped. You may feel that he is your only link to the lifestyle. He isnt!!!!! Go out, go to munches, Meet people, get a mentor! The more out and about you are the faster you will get over this duche.
You are strong, you are a domme, don't let him play with you.

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RE: Lost in a domme world!! - 7/5/2010 4:19:19 PM

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There's a little psychological trick which I've succesfully used in the past to kill off inappropriate/ill advises infatuations. Maybe it will help you with the remaining feelings for this guy. Be advised however it may fuck up any and all positive memory's if applied vigorously.

Perhaps you're familair with aversion therapy? Snapping an elastic band on your wrist when you feel the need to smoke for example? This strategy is quite similar.

Pick the biggest negative thing about him, cheating, dumping you, leaving the toilet seat up ;)
Now, everytime you think of him focus on that. You can even exaggerate it a bit.
When done consistently this tends to work quite well.

While with my fiancée we had a mutual friend whom I met before I met my girl. I really liked her, but she was in a relationship with my best friend at the time (who treated her like shit). My personal principles forbid me from breaking up relationships for my gain so I never acted.

A few years later this girl took me to a concert [HIM] for my bithday, at the other side of the country. My fiancée didn't like the band and stayed home. She even suggested me and the other girl spending the night in a hotel room if the concert ended late! Anyhow, at the concert she kept being jostled by assholes (she's about 90 lbs). So I did the same I did for my girl, bear hug her from behind to keep her safe.

This embrace, her hands on mine and the smell of her hair brought back the feelings from years before. I will NOT cheat on anyone so I immediately started applying this method... with succes :)
Only downside is, everytime I see her now the fault I focussed on is the first thing that pops into my head. ymmv though.

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