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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

I wonder about your wording...why would there be disappointment or shame about being a submissive male?  We are just as powerful, strong, and capable as the Dominant Women are.  As powerful, strong, and capable as -we- choose to be. 

"Submissive" does not equal "weak".

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

Your "permutation" of reaction gave an impression of your position on submission vs. domination.  I questioned the wording because it was liable to garner reactions just like the one I had to it.

And it's an open forum - anyone here with a thought is likely gonna respond.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I want my children to be happy. I could care less whether they are kinky. Actually, their sex lives are none of my business.

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

I wonder about your wording...why would there be disappointment or shame about being a submissive male?  We are just as powerful, strong, and capable as the Dominant Women are.  As powerful, strong, and capable as -we- choose to be. 

"Submissive" does not equal "weak".

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

I've rolled with this Op before... But on this I get what he is asking it is pretty cut and dry.

As a Dominant Male, there is a possibility that I would be upset if my son became a submissive Male. If I had a Daughter knowing the kind of Bullshit that some Dominant Men call being Dominant I may not want her to be a submissive Female for fear that she may end up in a relationship where she is in fact abused rather than Dominated.

It is the same question as would you be upset if your child grew up and stated that they were Gay, I get the social stigma that the Op is discussing.

I do not believe that the Op thinks submissive means weak, he himself is submissive and although rough around the edges seems to be able to stick up for himself even when doing so gets him Moderated because of the way he chooses to do so.

All this being said, I am sure there are people who when it comes to the choices they made for themselves and the journey it took to get where they are if their offspring sought to choose a similar path they might not want to see them go through what they went through.

Personally I do not want my son to grow up and become a submissive Male, I don't WANT him to grow up as a Homosexual Male either, If he did I would accept him but I would have an internal issue with the decision he chose.

Personally I would Love it if my son stayed away from this lifestyle completely, that really isn't likely considering how involved his mother and I are in it. I would love to be able to save him the frustration, and the possible lonelyness that comes from having a reduced selection pool when it comes to having a partner, I would also want to save him from the social stigma that comes from being involved in an alternative lifestyle. The having to hide some part of who you are, the not being able to be accepted for the way you choose to express your love and desire to interact with your partner.

So in the end I get what the Op is asking, and althought I would accept my son no matter what choice he makes I would not like him to make certain decisions. I will not try to program him to make certain decisions, I won't try to create an overly masculine testosterone laden life just in hopes he won't be Gay, I don't believe it would work anyway cause if he is going to be gay he will be gay, Just like I won't push for him to controling of others, I will do my best to teach him self control, but his decisions will be his own.

This is actually a good question. Thanks Op for the Mental Journey.

QSM

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ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I want my children to be happy. I could care less whether they are kinky. Actually, their sex lives are none of my business.

Short, sweet and to the point :)

As long as my child grows up to be happy, healthy and safe what she does with her personal life is none of my never mind.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Except..........no one chooses to be gay and no one chooses to be submissive.

It's just one of those things you either are or not. If my son were gay or submissive I would want him to live a life in which he chose to live his authentic life. Not pretending to be straight or dominant because he thought I, or anyone else, expected that of him. Or god forbid, that he thought I would be disappointed in him or think less of him!

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ORIGINAL: submissivemale22

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Except..........no one chooses to be gay and no one chooses to be submissive.

It's just one of those things you either are or not. If my son were gay or submissive I would want him to live a life in which he chose to live his authentic life. Not pretending to be straight or dominant because he thought I, or anyone else, expected that of him. Or god forbid, that he thought I would be disappointed in him or think less of him!

You need not be disappointed in him to be disappointed for him.

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ORIGINAL: submissivemale22

im curious as to what kind of emotional response would be evoked if, upon reaching the age of maturity*, your child became interested in d/s?

would your sentiment in anyway vary based on factors such as gender/orientation (by this i mean, would you be more disappointed/ashamed in a submissive boy than, say, a dominant girl?

I realize that the majority of users will feel that their love is unconditional, that they just want happiness for their child, etc.... but im more interested in hearing from any dominant females who have alternative opinions. I'm not asking if you would love your child any less, or blame them in any way... im just curious how you would view it.

*Just to clarify... im talking about children 18+ arriving at the decision independent of any parental influence.