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domiguy -> RE: The Mail of the Species (7/7/2010 6:16:15 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ourmsbetty
I just came home to find the following, wonderful post on My Bottom Smarts a spanking blog I enjoy very much.
http://bottomsmarts.blogspot.com/2010/07/mail-of-species.html
Granted, she's the bottom-y type and this topic gets covered a LOT but I still found her suggestions worth repeating.
Ladies, would you agree?
Pay attention, guys...this is how you do it:
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So if blurting out an ill-conceived one-liner about a woman's physical attributes doesn't get it, what does? Almost anything else would be an improvement. But to be specific, here are some simple guidelines.
- Women are people. Don't treat us like a collection of body parts displayed solely for your titillation
- A good way to begin a conversation is, “Hello, my name is _______ and I'm also interested in _______.”
- Yes, women are sexual beings too, but we are much more. If you want to connect with a female at any level, try first becoming her friend.
- Context is everything. If you know someone well and they feel comfortable around you, you can be blunt when the situation calls for it. Otherwise, it's better to err on the side of caution.
- Don't assume familiarity when none exists. Just because you've read my blog doesn't mean you know me (or that I know you).
- Most submissives I know direct those feelings toward one person. Even if you think you're über-Dom, you're just another guy to me.
- Don't assume that any compliment will be appreciated. Again, consider the context. If you have no relationship with the woman you are complimenting, even well-intended remarks come off as superficial at best.
- If you choose to introduce yourself, you might first see what you can learn about the person (but please skip the whole creepy stalking routine). For example, anyone who spends ten minutes on my blog will know (a) I am straight, happily married, and completely monogamous, (b) I play only with my husband, (c) I'm kinky, but mostly in terms of being spanked, (d) I never switch, and (e) I like meeting spanko friends. Armed with this information, it's pretty easy to strike up a conversation with me.
- Anyone who cannot figure out how to use spell check is perceived as being an idiot. IM-speak is simply annoying. You won't impress me with that.
- Don't think that a woman is stuck-up because she doesn't answer every drooling cretin who sends her mail. Just look at these messages. There's a real person at this end. Many times, it's easier to hit delete than to try to drag these characters one by one out of the stone age.
- Respect and courtesy aren't mandatory, but they are always appreciated. Asking for a favor will get better results than making a demand.
- Very few women want to hear about your personal measurements, especially in an unsolicited e-mail message. Ditto descriptions of your favorite sex acts.
- Be real. If you represent yourself to be someone you're not, you are less likely to find what you seek.
- Keep it light, at least at first. You can send me your life story if you must, and I might even read it, but I would rather hear about a new spanko friend you met or an implement you tried last week.
I don't like much of what is written here and would perceive little of it as being useful.....You want the domiguy recipe for success and how to make choco jesus cookies?
I agree that it is bad form generally to talk about someone's physical attributes....However, if subsusie has a picture of a model plane flying into her cunt I might just have to give her props on her recreation of 9-11. If her twat is spread so wide open that I can see her vocal cords, I just might have to mention something about her labia stretching abilities. Generally speaking these are not the type of profiles I would respond to or more likely actually admit to responding to on this forum...lol.
If you want to find success don't mention to her that you also dig butterflies and have so much in common. I have never thought that the majority of common interests are really all that important, unless they like to gargle poop.. It obviously depends on the absurdity of the interest in question..It's can be really cool to hang out with someone that is totally alien from your own background and interests. There actually can be much more to do or to explore with that type of person. So, fellas, instead of commenting on her nterests mention that you found her profile to be smartly written and that you dig her underlying sense of humor. Cut and paste where she lives and mention that you have an uncle that was killed there. Chicks dig that kind of nonsense. Also I am not trying to become her "friend" My messages are an attempt to discover if we are personality wise compatible and if she is good enough for me.
I don't give a fuck about blogs. no one should. They are self serving for the writer and I could care less what you chose to place there. I enjoy privacy. You keep a blog on the internet. Go fuck yourself....lol.
I do agree that you should try and utilize correct spelling and text speech sucks ass.
other than that...Disregard all that was presented here by the op.
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