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ORIGINAL: lonewolf05
am i just plain stupidly ignorant or did i miss something in that story from the link? it made absolutely NO sense to me.

what was the supposed to be message i was to get from it?

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This quiet grove is offered as a safe haven in the BDSM world. It's a place for submissives and dominants to reflect on, celebrate, and consider the submissive life. You'll find sexuality and spirituality in deep measure, though rarely what the common masses seek.

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ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM


I wonder if it could be said that 90% of all male dominants are not really dominants at all, just horny guys who want to orgasm in an (insert description of preference) manner, and once they do they don't give a damn about anyone but themselves?

I would extend that possibility to many dominants who are in perfectly functioning relationships with submissives. I would do that because there is, as far as I see it, a 'get out' for dominants (putting myself in the firing line here!)... in the fact that there is an assumption that a dominant, as long as he's pleasing himself, is doing it RIGHT. If the sub doesn't like what he's doing, how he's dominating her (or not) in the rest of her life, that's ok, because it's deemed to be his style of domination.

What I'm trying to point out is, that perhaps the very same number of males in dominant positions MAY be just as "self-serving", but they're not despised or outed in anywhere near the numbers, or to anything like the extent, as those in submissive roles are.


~ Elektra