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Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Change: Transcending BDSM (7/8/2010 11:58:51 AM)
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I have changed Daddy from a reckless spend thrift, to someone who thinks before spending* most times*, because I am normally a careful spender, and have brow beaten, uh I mean, instilled that concept into him.
After a particularly horrible fight that ended extremely badly, I told him that if he wishes to stay with me and continue being in my life he MUST seek therapy for his mental / emotional issues and he agreed it was time for him to get therapy, and therapy has helped a whole lot of his issues, and changed him to some degree. It's helped him be a happier person, well as happy as someone with chronic depression that goes un treated due to lack of health care can be.
Therapy has also helped us communicate better, and when there's an issue we just can not get past on our own, we take it to our therapist, and she works with us on it.
By insisting we both get therapy, it's changed how he handles me when he's crabby or impatient, He hardly ever blows up and just flies off the handle at me, or at situations any more, and if he does, he's quicker to calm down and say he's sorry, he's acting rashly.
Now that one I don't claim was all me, but I was the catalyst that got the change in motion. He might of eventually gotten therapy, but the fall out of that one horrible night, and then my insistence, brought it all home VERY clearly.
I have also gotten him to change from being like my mail is my business you stay out of my mail, to Ok, you want to look at my mail that comes in the mail go ahead, just make sure to give it to me and not forget I got mail.
There's other changes I have effected or help brought about, but I think my list is long enough.
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ORIGINAL: Bravado
Boring preface aside, how have you changed for your partner(s)? Deliberately or naturally, all applies. I'm certain there are some that are quite dramatic.
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