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KsCpl -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/10/2010 10:56:59 PM)

DesFIP

I dont need help with anything. I was just looking for others experiences.




juliaoceania -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/10/2010 10:57:02 PM)

You're welcome![:)]




KsCpl -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/10/2010 10:59:20 PM)

littlewonder

thank you for sharing that with me :)




porcelaine -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/10/2010 11:02:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KsCpl

I have recently connected with a Dom but we cant be together 24/7. There are a few ways He has and is controlling me while we are apart. I would love to hear from other submissives or slaves or Dom/mes to know how they are controlled or are controlling in the other's absense. I look forward to any and all responses.


KsCpl,

By connecting, are you suggesting that you've met and interact on a regular basis face to face or has that yet to happen? My answer would largely depend on your response. Thanks.

~porcelaine




KsCpl -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/11/2010 9:46:36 AM)

Porcelaine

Yes by connecting I mean that we have met and interact on a somewhat regular basis, face to face....once a week or sometimes a bit longer between sessions.




porcelaine -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/11/2010 11:37:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: KsCpl

Porcelaine

Yes by connecting I mean that we have met and interact on a somewhat regular basis, face to face....once a week or sometimes a bit longer between sessions.


Kscpl,

Thank you for responding. It really helps me to frame my reply much better when I understand where you're coming from. I'll beginning by noting that I believe the submissive must learn to align herself with the other person's desires. And by that I'm suggesting that your want for control may exceed what he feels is appropriate at present. Oftentimes one of the greatest challenges one must overcome is respecting the dominant's cadence. Desiring to go ahead or lag behind him invites shifts that I don't agree with personally.

In terms of how you can feel his presence, that's very simple. I relate every aspect of my person back to my owner and substantiate how I've served him each day in great detail when attached. When you view yourself as an extension of him and see your deeds as a manifestation of his tether, it reinforces your station and reaffirms the impressions made. I apply that concept to areas where directives exist and those where none were ever given. I consider myself a reflection of him that will offer the unsuspecting eye a pleasing view or something less than such. The latter along with my desire to be obedient are typically enough to inspire me in the appropriate direction.

Some dominants employ heavy controls and utilize a style of management that may result in great tasking. However, I'm of the belief those that deviate offer different nuances that can positively enhance a girl if she's astute and willing. Sometimes the obvious isn't so and one needn't to engage in multiple acts of submission to be cognizant of the yoke one bears. It's all a state of mind in my opinion. Your attitude sets the stage. If you view the time in between as lacking it will become that. If you see it as an opportunity to put his expectations into motion that is what you'll do.

Submission is the tip of the iceberg. The line continues to extend with growth and proficiency. There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground. But it's up to you to remain open to their arrival and recognize that not now is of equal merit as is yes and let's go. Master what you're undergoing before seeking to take on more. When he believes you're ready for such he'll dispense it. Move with him, not against. He's the ebb you're flowing with. Best of luck.

~porcelaine




KsCpl -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/11/2010 9:04:53 PM)

porcelaine

Thank you for your wonderful insight. It is very much appreciated. :)




NymphetamineGirl -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/13/2010 1:59:13 PM)

When I was deeply submitted I craved assignments.  It could have been anything but I was so hungry for dominance I was literally bumping into walls and I'm sure it drove my Master crazy.  He didn't give me what I wanted and I was angry with him for it.  I don't know who was right in that situation, even now, but I can truly sympathize with the OP.  I NEEEEEEEEded to be taken, used, employed, in service.  I was a dam that had broken, at the time, a dam HE broke, and I felt he didn't care enough about me to work with it.  I felt abandoned in the floods of my own emotion, which turned out to be par for the course with him.  I did grow from the experience though.




FlamingRedhead -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/13/2010 2:37:34 PM)

Daddy said I shouldn't smoke in the car with my son, so I don't. He then said I shouldn't smoke in the car at all, so I spent 3 hours washing the car and quit smoking in it. He thinks the salt used to prepare my food should be sufficient for my needs, so I'm trying not to automatically salt everything before I even taste it. He suggested that I start walking for exercise. I haven't done that seeing as how it's like 100 degrees. :p

Most of what he tells me are suggestions rather than commands. If I don't do something, I'm not punished. However, if he continues to make the suggestion, I eventually give it a try.




porcelaine -> RE: Being controlled in His absense (7/13/2010 2:43:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KsCpl

porcelaine

Thank you for your wonderful insight. It is very much appreciated. :)


KsCpl,

You're more than welcome. If others arise feel free to send a note my way. Best of luck to you and yours.

~porcelaine




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