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Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 4:53:36 PM   
KsCpl


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Status: offline 		I have recently connected with a Dom but we cant be together 24/7. There are a few ways He has and is controlling me while we are apart. I would love to hear from other submissives or slaves or Dom/mes to know how they are controlled or are controlling in the other's absense. I look forward to any and all responses.
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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 6:55:52 PM   
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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 7:30:47 PM   
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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 7:46:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KsCpl

I would love to hear from other submissives or slaves or Dom/mes to know how they are controlled or are controlling in the other's absense. I look forward to any and all responses.


I'm an adult. I don't need to be controlled. My desire to please him drives me to behave in a manner which would fall into his perameters of good behavior.

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 8:03:29 PM   
KsCpl


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the comments so far....I wont comment back except to say i would love to hear more responses so keep them coming.

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 8:19:59 PM   
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My first question would be: has your master asked to search this out? If not, then you should ask him, or rather, express your desire for this, and anything else. Ultimately he will decide what is the best way to go about this.



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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 8:40:23 PM   
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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 11:16:22 PM   
KsCpl


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No He didnt ask me to search this out. I was just curious as to what others did or were instructed to do. He does know that I posted this here and yes, ultimately he decides what is the best thing.

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 11:17:54 PM   
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Cairn Terrors and cats?? That intrigues me.

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 11:33:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Two Cairn Terrors (not a misprint) and four cats. That's how he controls me in his absence.



LMAO!!

I have two white fuzzy Terrors and a slightly senile geriatric rabbit with a VERY Dommely streak

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/9/2010 11:39:48 PM   
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xxblushesxx

Cairn Terrors and cats?? That intrigues me.


Three litter boxes, at least nine feedings, walking, and poop scooping every day. (although He generally does poop patrol.) Oh, and did I mention we cook for the little darlings? And half are on some type of medication...and the fuzzy one needs bathing at least a couple of times a week.

They're ...uhm...sweet? though....(you know...when they get their way...)

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 12:35:58 AM   
KsCpl


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Ahhhh I see exactly what you mean....very...uhm...sweet

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 8:19:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KsCpl

I have recently connected with a Dom but we cant be together 24/7. There are a few ways He has and is controlling me while we are apart. I would love to hear from other submissives or slaves or Dom/mes to know how they are controlled or are controlling in the other's absense. I look forward to any and all responses.


I found that my need to feel "controlled" was more acute when I began my first D/s relationship. I wanted to feel in his power all of the time. I now identify that feeling as not being "submissive" in the way I define that term, but I wanted to feel that feeling for my own kink.

When I am in a relationship where I am the person that is the bottom sort with a man that is a top sort, I no longer crave that feeling of being "controlled" all of the time, which to me is tantamount to walking around in a kink mindset. Personally, I can't sustain that, I have bills to pay and stuff needs doing....If I am in a power exchange relationship I do not need multiple daily reminders of this fact. If someone needs to keep me at the edge of that feeling all of the time, it wouldn't be compatible with me...

That is just my experience...

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 8:53:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Julia makes a good point. When I am thinking constantly of someone, it does keep me in a kink mindset all the time which does make it difficult to get things done.

I think being controlled in someone's absence, for me at least, is really just missing them and what we do together in a D/s manner. There does not have to be anything specific; if he even texts me, I feel a rush of desire.

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 3:12:44 PM   
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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 4:29:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know if you could call it controlled. I know what is expected of me and i act in the way's i know he wold approve of. Just because i am not physically with him does not make me act out in a way that would displease him. That would be counter productive to our relationship.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 8:20:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't need to have tons of rules and such when we aren't together to feel his dominance over me. Just hearing his voice and talking to him is enough for me. However he does have some things that I must keep to but they aren't to feel his control necessarily but things he feels are good for me. For example he thinks I drink too much caffeine which affects my sleep and my health. I'm not allowed any after 5 and I have to send him an email before and after work. It's a great way for me to start out the day when I can't be with him just to start out my day and end it on a more positive outlook and helps to keep me a little calmer.

Other than that we keep it pretty simple...please, serve and obey.

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 9:00:02 PM   
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i just do what i know is expected of me, plus anything else He asks of me too. my desire to be pleasing to Him is what really controls me and my behavior. Nothing else is needed. i know every time i get a text message/e-mail/phone call, my heart goes pitter-patter and i'm totally "wow."

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 10:54:38 PM   
KsCpl


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thank you experiences is what I'm looking for just want to see what others are doing out there :)

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RE: Being controlled in His absense - 7/10/2010 10:55:49 PM   
KsCpl


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I know exactly what you mean when I get a text and I know it's Him it's just awesome!

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