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yearning4You -> Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 7:51:51 PM)
Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him?

juliaoceania -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 7:53:56 PM)
It does not sound like it was messed up, that is my version of good clean fun

LadyPact -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 7:56:54 PM)
Another one with a problem with sadism and masochism?

littlewonder -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 7:57:24 PM)
If they both consented to it then imo...neither. If you find it wrong for you then simply don't do it.

laura2161 -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 8:06:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yearning4You Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him? Neither if that is what both enjoy.

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 8:14:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yearning4You Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him? The person who doesn't understand their specific dynamic in the first place. Spanking and Beating can be consentual, many of us here consent to doing it or having it done to us.... Is this something you don't understand? If you like I can explain it to you. When two adults come together and enjoy each others company enough they might come together one night and in a loveing and caring way, whip, spank, slap, or any other myriad of things to one another that bring about love and enjoyment. I leave bruises on my wife that last for weeks, and she thanks me for having done so. QSM

itsmeinLV -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 8:32:51 PM)
Both for consenting to the activities, haha. [:D]

gungadin09 -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 8:40:06 PM)
i agree with the other posters here: that two consenting adults have the right to engage in whatever play they want. I don't think it's screwed up at all. There are plenty of kinks that i wouldn't engage in myself (i happen to enjoy spankings and beatings, though), and yet wouldn't judge others for doing it. However, i have to ask: what about emotional masochism? humiliation? punishment? aftercare? It seems to me that people on this site, who are very openminded about kink in general, are much less openminded when it comes to these issues. Why doesn't the live and let live mentality apply there, too? Sorry if i'm derailing your thread... pam

DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 8:44:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yearning4You Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him? Neither if they are both conscenting adults. I have had bruises that have lasted weeks and they were made out of love and passion and everytime I looked at the bruises or felt them they reminded me of that moment, hell took me back to it.

sexyred1 -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 8:47:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yearning4You Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him? Hmmmm....let's see now. Why don't YOU answer your own question? Is your Dom messed up for spanking you so hard your ass is beet red or are YOU mesed up for letting him?

marie2 -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:10:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: yearning4You Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him? Hmmmm....let's see now. Why don't YOU answer your own question? Is your Dom messed up for spanking you so hard your ass is beet red or are YOU mesed up for letting him? Ha! And here I thought I was the only one who noticed that. The only thing I can think of is maybe the OP is struggling with her own desires. Despite the fact that it appears that she engages in the s & m, she could still be thinking that there is something inherently "wrong" with it, and maybe that is what she is trying to talk about. Not enough to really get a read on this one, assuming it's not a farce to begin with. BTW....Pretty new pic, sexyred.

sexyred1 -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:11:57 PM)
You may be right. She may be struggling, but I just could not resist pointing out the obvious. Thanks for the kind words on my new pic. :)

DarlingSavage -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:12:18 PM)
I would love to get a spanking! I just need to find Mr. Right to give it to me!

DarkSteven -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:15:47 PM)
After this, why don't you go to your local Democratic campaign HQ and start trashing Obama?

DarlingSavage -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:22:50 PM)
But I don't really feel that way. I like Obama, I voted for him. I can't be dishonest.

alatheia -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:22:52 PM)
As long as its consensual, its good in my book.

gungadin09 -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:30:12 PM)
From my own relationships, i think i'm usually the most messed up of the two. pam

LanceHughes -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:33:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alatheia As long as its consensual, its good in my book. It may be good in your book, but watch out for criminal (not civil) prosecution on 2nd degree assault which is a felony in most jurisdictions! 3rd degree = NO intent to harm. 2nd degree = intent to harm. Consent is not a defense. Criminal prosecution is when police say it's intent to harm, and off you go! Just be wary. <edited for gooder grammer and speling.>

LanceHughes -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 9:37:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yearning4You Who is the one that is messed up the worst? Him for spanking and beating her till she is black and blue, or her for letting him? I just noticed that this is your first post. WELCOME to the forums. With that said, define "messed up the worst," please. Kinda hard to talk about this when "we" here don't know what you are measuring.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/10/2010 11:16:51 PM)
If its what both of them want, then neither is in the wrong. If the two haven't communicated properly with one another beforehand, then the fault lies with both. If they're both consenting, then neither is "messed up". If they haven't been able to communicate properly so that they know what is needed, desired and expected to begin with, then they're both "messed up" in that regard.

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