quote:

ORIGINAL: Mariasgoneagain

I apologize if this has been asked before but i couldnt find anything in the archives that really matched my concern..

I have been in a relationship for about 6 months with my master/daddy and he is absolutely wonderful and it makes me so happy to please him. I have known since the beginning of our relationship that he has always been really into anal, not even so much for the feel of it but b/c he says he feels like it would show him just how submissive and committed i am to him. I have never done anal in my life and he has also known from the beginning that it is something i am absolutely not interested in. He has tried to coax me several times to let him enter me there and every time i have gotten pretty upset.. not mad at him or anything but i start crying and/or completely freeze up, i can't help it really. He has told me that it's okay and he wont force me to do it and he really tries to not make me feel bad about it. Regardless, i still feel bad. I know its something he really wants from me and i feel terrible that i cant just let him. Lately i have been trying to think of ways to get myself over my fears and allow him to have me completely.

I guess my biggest problem with anal isnt that it is going to hurt (of course that doesnt help things..) but what i really don't like about it is that it simply grosses me out (please no offense to people that love anal!). It is a personal hang-up that i just cant seem to get over. It makes me feel completely un-sexy and icky and turned off. I mean its where you poop! i just cant seem to find the sexiness in that! I find it embarrassing and awkward and for some reason, it just really scares me. None of my partners before him were ever interested in anal sex so ive never had to deal with this. So i guess my question is.. have any of you had a similar problem? Did anyone else find anal to be a turn-off and/or frightening and how did you get over your insecurities/embarrassment/fear, etc? Anyone have any ideas on how i can get over this and find a way to stop thinking of it as such a turn-off?

Sorry for my rant!!! And i really appreciate any help i can get on this!

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut

OP I had the same hang ups for a long time both the pain aspect and well stuff goes out not in there. It just seemed icky to me. The idea of shit on someones dick just was an ultimate turn off. And yes I had someone tell me they wanted shit and blood on the their dick once.Lol

Then Daddy sat me down and talked to me, listened to my reasons behind it being a "fuck no" response. Then he intorduced it to me slowly. First we watched anal porn, not with porn stars but the home made kind. I saw how the women reacted, how the men reacted. Then he began to to do things like stimulating my anus with his finger during sex or other play, no penitration just teasing and feeling. Then slowly it moved to finger penetration then just the tip of his cock and then one day I found myself craving him to just take my ass. I would have NEVER thought that would me. Me the woman who has punched more than one guy for even attempting! I now find myself begging for it. Part of the reason for my lust for it now it because I honestly see how much it turns him on and that in itself turns me on.

I wont lie there are still things about anal that I am nervous about trying like butt plugs, ect but that is because its new to me.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut

QSM sometimes I think you are the white version of my Daddy in soooo many ways! Lol

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mariasgoneagain


thanks that really gave me something to think about.. i like your idea of watching anal porn to get a little more used to the idea.. and maybe if i told him im okay with him teasing me there a little bit i could slowly get more open to it. Lol i didnt want to just come out and say it in my opening post but yeah the whole idea of "shit on someones dick"  is a big part of why it grosses me out so much..and if that ever happened i'm afraid it would really gross him out too and make me feel unattractive..

quote:

ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

I would like to offer what I did with my partner when she has similar issues as you do, She felt that it was gross and dirty and something that had been tried before and really hurt her, so she just did not want it.

I told her that I did but that I respected her fear, we agreed that when I was going down on her I might put the tip of my finger in her but but that if it went to far that she could say "Too Much" and I would pull it out. For about 3 months I did this every time I went down on her starting with just the tip of my finger rimming her anus. I was waiting for it to relax and take my finger on it's own... it didn't take long.

After three months of every ORAL orgasm I gave her being connected with having the tip of my finger in her butt she started to really enjoy having my finger there while I was giving her cunnalingus.

I also watched Anal Sex in Porn with her. So she could see women having anal sex and enjoying it.... I made sure all the porn we watched showed women really enjoying it, to make sure she saw enjoyment while it was happening.

Then one day she asked me for it... I had a finger all the way in her butt and she looked down and said "Lets do it" She did NOT want to do it Doggy Style or on her side, So we put a pillow under her Lower Back and I entered her Anally in the Missionary Position. I lubed up the finger I already had in her butt and made sure she was very lubed inside and out and as I put my Penis to her ass I let my own body weight guide me in and I let her push up against me.

There comes a Point where the Penis goes Past the Sphinxter and that requires a LITTLE push, and it will hurt a little. You will need to BREATHE. What little pain there is should go away soon. Just as it starts to go away you can make it better by pushing into him and pulling him in close to you.

DO NOT START PUMPING... LET HIM KNOW THIS. Tell Him to just relax, once he is in and to the depth that you can relax to, there will be a depth if he is very big that will feel strange in your stomace that is where you "Bottom Out" even though he isn't at a Bottom of anything. He should then take it very SLOWLY... He may even want to wear a cock ring as it is easy to lose an erection having to go slowly in this.

Once you are comfortable with him being in you.... REAPPLY LUBE... and then start a SLOW and STEADY pumping pattern.

When he orgasms or ejaculates if it is inside you.... when you are done go potty.

In the end you may both want to take a shower and clean up.... This can be the reconnection you use after an encounter like this... considering you think it is dirty the Shower can help you to feel clean again.

If you like feel free to e-mail me I can give you all the tricks I have and all the information you may need, the truth of the matter is if you have an anal orgasm you will cum harder than you ever have and just like my wife in no time you will be a little Anal lovin girl cause let me tell you they are really awesome.

QSM

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mariasgoneagain

So i guess my question is.. have any of you had a similar problem? Did anyone else find anal to be a turn-off and/or frightening and how did you get over your insecurities/embarrassment/fear, etc? Anyone have any ideas on how i can get over this and find a way to stop thinking of it as such a turn-off?

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mariasgoneagain


thanks that really gave me something to think about.. i like your idea of watching anal porn to get a little more used to the idea.. and maybe if i told him im okay with him teasing me there a little bit i could slowly get more open to it. Lol i didnt want to just come out and say it in my opening post but yeah the whole idea of "shit on someones dick"  is a big part of why it grosses me out so much..and if that ever happened i'm afraid it would really gross him out too and make me feel unattractive..

Away to avoid the whole shit on the dick idea I have found is to give myself an enama before hand. Sounds silly but it totally clears my bowels so it isn't an issue.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mariasgoneagain

I find the idea of an enema really intimidating! lol is it difficult? uncomfortable? messy? do you do it every single time you have anal? do you think that most women who have anal sex use enemas? or are there other options? Sorry a million questions i know...