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GinoVega -> RE: Aftercare (7/13/2010 12:52:20 PM)

One of my subs didn't really ask for it right away, but I gave her some aftercare and it really warmed the mood afterward and was very nice. It just depends on the situation.




CelticPrince -> RE: Aftercare (7/13/2010 1:33:26 PM)

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This is a topic I've been mulling over in my head for awhile after reading some long messages describing scenarios various people have proposed to me. In these messages there are usually very extreme acts of physical and mental torture involved, the methods are always different, but the messages all shared a common theme. There was absolutely no mention of aftercare.

When responding to these messages to inquire about aftercare I was either ignored, blocked, cussed out, or more disturbingly, asked what aftercare was.

I may be in the minority in my thinking, but I feel that aftercare can be every bit as sexy as the play that led to it's necessity. Is aftercare something that has fallen by the wayside?

As a dominant, top, or sadist, what are your thoughts on aftercare? What level of importance do you ascribe to it? Do you derive any pleasure from it?

-vaiyanen,

It is part of the whole senario and the degree is directly proportional to the level of use.

CP




bliss4us09 -> RE: Aftercare (7/24/2010 5:53:16 AM)

A Dom should be in touch with what a sub needs before, during, and after. But keep in mind that his/her need might not be what s/he wants.




Jadga -> RE: Aftercare (7/24/2010 11:50:40 PM)

The thought simply occurred to me that a lot of the messages detailed activities like using bladed whips, needles, knives and so forth, but none of them mentioned what would happen after the scene.
If unknown people are proposing the above you may want to ask how well they do staples or suture's ! Being a card carrying sadist I always ask about after care of all new girls--many have a blank look so we have a chat BEFORE--do I get pleasure from aftercare? good question! dont think it is unpleasent--and it is necessary simply put sub or slave when ya use em ya fix em! DAH?




porcelaine -> RE: Aftercare (7/25/2010 1:00:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: vaiyanen

I may be in the minority in my thinking, but I feel that aftercare can be every bit as sexy as the play that led to it's necessity. Is aftercare something that has fallen by the wayside?


The only problem with that is that you're not the one making that determination. If you've already told yourself that it is a must I expect you will encounter problems at some point. Where the issues on this subject generally arise is the submissive's interpretation of what aftercare entails versus the dominant's. I'm a proponent for natural responses and I don't want to dictate how he should treat me. And while he may allow me to share my opinion on the subject, that's the extent of it in my mind. Deference to another authority is truly how it sounds. I would encourage you to remain flexible and partner with someone that shares your opinion in some respects.

~porcelaine




mistoferin -> RE: Aftercare (7/25/2010 5:14:11 AM)

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a lot of the messages detailed activities like using bladed whips


Bladed whips...really? I was unaware that this is a growing trend.




dragon200070 -> RE: Aftercare (7/27/2010 3:46:05 PM)

Doms are action oriented. Yes, aftercare can be cool, but it's not so exciting. I figure anything that makes the sub want to stay is good. And aftercare does that. It also can be used to sensitize them to my touch. All in the approach.
Jeff




Shadow-tiger -> RE: Aftercare (7/27/2010 3:54:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dragon200070

Doms are action oriented. Yes, aftercare can be cool, but it's not so exciting.
Jeff
*snort*
I'm sorry to tell you this, but what rings true for you is not necessarily true for anyone else. Girl on her knees by my side, all quiet and just being. Yeah I'm pretty happy despite the lack of action.

Another Jeff




junecleaver -> RE: Aftercare (7/27/2010 4:18:45 PM)

What is aftercare to you?  It's something you should discuss with potential mates.  Don't play with people who cannot offer you what you need.

As far as aftercare versus playing...they serve different purposes and one is not better than the other IMHO.  I find both to be pleasant.




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