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blueicing -> Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:02:11 PM)

Hi - I haven't started a post before, so if this has been asked a million times (I used the search feature, didn't see it), or is in the wrong place - I'm sorry in advance.

Ok - so for the purpose of my question, my personal definition of a Dominant bottom who switches is: a person who is dominant that likes activities that can be associated with bottoming such as fisting, cbt, electrical play...etc. but does not feel submissive at all while doing so.

My question is about dialogue during scenes or play. I identify as a submissive female, and there are lots of phrases that can be said to me during play that make everything more exciting because that gets into my head more than the physical stuff. But - I'm a submissive. If I were to top a male bottom who is dominant - What do I say while fisting him, for example? What's said during play is so important to my headspace that I'm having a hard time understanding what a bottom wants to hear. Maybe nothing, maybe they'll just give me directions on what to do - I'm not sure.

I will talk to this particular person about this also. I'm sure they know themselves more than people on the forums do. But, they're already really good at knowing what to say to me without my input - so I feel bad because I have no idea what to say and being silent might be really uncomfortable, or saying something that a submissive would like might be really awkward.

I hope that wasn't too long or confusing. Thanks for any input. :)



divi -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:27:00 PM)

bend over baby ..
( slap on some medical gloves and say this will hurt you more then me )



laurell3 -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:31:31 PM)

I know it may sound like a cliche, but say whatever you want to say. Yes you should talk to your partner, but you can't be something that you aren't. Trying to toss out something that isn't you may very well just look silly and ruin the momentum.



Icarys -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:32:19 PM)

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What do I say while fisting him, for example?

Do you know what time it is? It seems I've misplaced my watch........Oh never mind...I feel it.



Jeffff -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:38:58 PM)

I can't stop clenching.



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:42:15 PM)

I have small hands! :p



Jeffff -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:44:33 PM)

Yeah... sure you do.


Here is what I would like to hear under those circumstances.

" Oh Jeff. I am so sorry I tried to fist you!..." I don"t know what I was thinking" ..." You are not a bottom, I will pack my shit up and leave right now!"



laurell3 -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:45:27 PM)

LOL....shhh you're scaring him......



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:52:03 PM)

Sorry :) I definitely won't be trying to fist you Jefff. I'll be fisting some other guy, and he likes it - supposedly. I should read about it first. I just learned about the digestive and urinary systems in anatomy & physiology this week, but I didn't ask any questions about fisting.



Jeffff -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:53:00 PM)

Well then.........FIST AWAY!!!!!!!!!



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 1:58:48 PM)

Thanks :) I think it'll be really fun. I love learning new stuff! I get to try sounds too.



Icarys -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 2:07:06 PM)

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but I didn't ask any questions about fisting.


Please do and tell me how it goes?[:D] Could record it for me?



divi -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 2:09:44 PM)

Not sure I would want to fist a guy even if I used someone elses hands



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 2:18:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

but I didn't ask any questions about fisting.


Please do and tell me how it goes?[:D] Could record it for me?



No way! Not asking my professor that :) When we were learning about hormones, he said that the same hormone (prolactin) that produces breast milk, also produces ejaculate. Since drinking breast milk is good for us, I thought about asking if ejaculate was also good to drink for adults - but I didn't. I have to edit my questions I ask in class in my head before I ask them. I looked it up on the internet instead, and found several sites saying that semen is a good source of lowfat protein, similar to egg whites.



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 2:20:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: divi

Not sure I would want to fist a guy even if I used someone elses hands


I thought about getting some kind of very long, up to my elbow latex glove for the fisting. I'm going to try it - if I don't like it, I just won't do it again :)



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 2:28:15 PM)

We like to be asked for permission to do things. "May I do X, Ma'am?" The Ma'am always enforces the dynamic, if the Top is a submissive or slave... and isn't always necessary from an equal partner... but We like it.

Master Fire



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 2:30:34 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

We like to be asked for permission to do things. "May I do X, Ma'am?" The Ma'am always enforces the dynamic, if the Top is a submissive or slave... and isn't always necessary from an equal partner... but We like it.

Master Fire



Thank you so much. I hadn't thought of that - that's really good, and something that would stay in the line of thinking I'm usually in during play (since I'm a sub).



allthatjaz -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 4:41:06 PM)

I used to play with a masochistic guy that wasn't at all submissive. If he's not submissive then don't be tempted to talk to him in a dominant way or you will kill the moment.
I used to do things to him and just chat to him on the level. 'Hows that feeling?' 'are you ready for some more?' and that sort of stuff.
Because we often played in clubs, other dominant women would try talking down to him, thinking he was submissive. They got a shock in his response. A genuine masochist-non-submissive will get very agitated if you try being so much as firm.



blueicing -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 6:09:57 PM)

Yep - that's something I was worried about. I wanted to make sure I didn't say anything that could be construed as dominant to submissive dialogue, but didn't know how else people might interact in that dynamic during play.



TheHeretic -> RE: Dominant bottoms who switch - What kind of talk do you like? (7/12/2010 7:03:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: blueicing
I get to try sounds too.



Really not a thing it is best to "give it a try" with. Butts can take a lot more abuse and mistakes than a urethra can. Do your homework very well before going there. Maybe even turn off the filter and ask the question in an email to your professor.

Have fun!



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