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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 1:40:59 PM   
Sensualips


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You are young and hot looking, DON'T DO WHAT I DID AND ABUSE IT.  You will have women throwing themselves at you as most Doms are not young and hot.  S&M like religion, can be a superficial pastime or you can look inward and make it something deeper and grow as a person in ways you cannot yet imagine.  Take that path. 


I have no idea if the OP is a kinky top or a Dominant, but either way I love this advice.

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 1:44:37 PM   
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other locations or situations the label could be rather different... maybe BOB

Looks at KOM in shock...wondering why even a newbie would be classified as a Battery Operated Boyfriend??


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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 2:03:17 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

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other locations or situations the label could be rather different... maybe BOB

Looks at KOM in shock...wondering why even a newbie would be classified as a Battery Operated Boyfriend??


but he is rechargable!  not the disposable kind

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 2:23:44 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

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other locations or situations the label could be rather different... maybe BOB

Looks at KOM in shock...wondering why even a newbie would be classified as a Battery Operated Boyfriend??


but he is rechargable!  not the disposable kind


So what is it that would be plugged into the wall? DOH NEVERMIND just got a visual of an electric scene gone bad...don't tell me I don't want to know what pointy rechargable boy part might be used to plug into an outlet.

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 2:44:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

So what is it that would be plugged into the wall? DOH NEVERMIND just got a visual of an electric scene gone bad...don't tell me I don't want to know what pointy rechargable boy part might be used to plug into an outlet.


your assuming that it is a "wall" outlet  *G*  um there other um things that have a place or two or three to plug into you know.  *G*

I know I always feel energizied!!! after a good charging  *G*

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 3:29:51 PM   
feastie


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Status: offline 		Well, you've told us all sorts of things regarding your expectations and desires, but what you haven't said is what you have to offer your partner.  What you do with her is as telling or moreso, than what you do to her.

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 4:14:37 PM   
domtimothy46176


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Status: offline 		Greetings and good luck on your journey,
I can understand the need to know where one fits into the masses as well as wanting to geet a feel for what type of reaction one's desires are likely to provoke amongst one's peers.  Truthfully, there is no baseline answer.  One need not peruse these boards long ere one discerns that there are no accepted baselines, only personal preferences.  Even vagueness fails to serve, as one submissive's "owner" is another's "service top" and each brings their own interpretation to "dominant" or, for the great unwashes, "dominates".
My personal approach, which I use solely for purposes of illustration, is to keep classifications broad and fill in the blanks with descriptions.  I utilize this approach in my overly lengthy profile, pointing out that I want  this but not that.  Those who find that your way is offensive to their sensibilities are free to avoid your company and those who find themselves in agreement will seek you out in their own time.
Timothy

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 8:23:40 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		lolz i'd call you a Dom

but not of my dreams

unless you ment generically "UR"

either way lolz i'd classify you as an arrogant Dom

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 9:33:55 PM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		I think all of it can be about sex, or not about sex at all....I'm just a sexual person by nature and it's a big part of my life. Anything other than a paid job can be about my next session with my partner. Even then, I can think about what I'd do to him when I got home. BD is Bondage, fun...SM is Sado/Maso..that can still be fun and all about sex as well. I see nothing in the words BD/SM that says 24/7 or that it is or is or isn't about the Big "O"..do what you want with it..everyone else does.... and really..it's not about anyone else, it's about what you and your partner/s have agreed upon.
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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 9:54:45 PM   
shivvy


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Status: offline 		hello. i hope nobody minds if i add a comment.
 
Some people have already said some of this, so i apologise if i'm just repeating it, but i think "bdsm" is woteva You want bdsm to be. i see bdsm as meaning Bondage, Discipline, Dominance/submission, Sadism/masochism. but i think everybody has their own interpretation, and i don't think that there is just one thing and everybody has to comply to it.
 
i would agree with everybody who says it's not about sex. i think sex does play an important part, coz submitting to my Master, and being able to please Him, includes being able to sexually gratify Him. And in doing as i'm told, i have often had to satisfy other others, not of my choosing, but i have done so enthusiastically, coz i know it pleases Master (and coz i want a good report to get back to Him).
 
bdsm, and being a submissive, is just a way of being. i know i'm submissive. i have always been submissive. discovering wot it means has been a journey i have enjoyed, but i still have a long way to go.
 
i would say You woz a Dom, coz You like being in control. Being in control scares me, but i think that is ultimately wot it is all about... Control.

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 9:59:39 PM   
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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 10:04:08 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		How to classify yourself? Who the hell cares?

I am a an old-school self-taught pervert...I like women way younger than me, I like them naked, I like to control them, I like to use them sexually, I like hurting them and I also find I enjoy humiliating them (something I didn't think I would). I also like all the same things in males as well (younger, naked, usable, whimpering).

What would you call me?
(Hint: Most folks on here call me an oppinionated ass)

I would strongly advise not getting all caught up in how you define yourself with regards to the common terms, because no matter how you do it, there will be some know-it-all (possibly even me) who will tell you that it is the wrong name for what you are or do. You are clearly a Dominant, and you have a good idea as to what you want, so just go with that.

< Message edited by Arpig -- 4/16/2006 10:06:33 PM >

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/16/2006 10:10:54 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: DOMofURdreams
how would you classify the following individual?

i am dominnant, in the sense that i love control and all aspects of asserting my will onto another.  i am into bondage, mild aspects of pain infliction (spanking, nipple torture, etc..), i do seef full blown sexual encounters (oral service, vagainal penetration, etc),  and i expect my sub to (eventually) serve and satisfy others of my chosing (male/female/boith)  in the same way
If I looked at only this information, and someone asked, I would say you are a dominant seeking a submissive or a slave.
As the more experienced folks have said however, worry less about the title, and more about discovering yourself, and what you enjoy by reading, and attending local events as others have said.

quote:

i have read and had it stated to me that BDSM is not about sex
For myself, this lifestyle is first about a relationship, but most definitely a sexual one (vanilla style and kinky sex).   M

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/17/2006 4:53:48 AM   
DOMofURdreams


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unless you ment generically "UR"


obviously i wasn't being specific

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either way lolz i'd classify you as an arrogant Dom


odd...i don't think i've displayed an ounce of arrogance

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RE: i need help classifying myself - 4/17/2006 4:57:59 AM   
DOMofURdreams


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What would you call me?
(Hint: Most folks on here call me an oppinionated ass)


no argument there Arpig---just kidding

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I would strongly advise not getting all caught up in how you define yourself with regards to the common terms, because no matter how you do it, there will be some know-it-all (possibly even me) who will tell you that it is the wrong name for what you are or do. You are clearly a Dominant, and you have a good idea as to what you want, so just go with that.


this is probably good advice...but again...i didn't want people to read too much into the question

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