Phone rants- do you like to hear it?

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Yes

18% (2)

Nope

63% (7)

unsure

18% (2)

Who is this?

0% (0)

Total Votes : 11

(last vote on : 7/13/2010 5:53:38 PM)
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pahunkboy -> Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 8:51:34 AM)
A friend just called to rant. I only heard the same rant- for 2 hours last night. And various versions of the same rant for the last umteen months. How do you say no, with out being an azz? The poll, do you like to hear phone rants.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 8:56:13 AM)
If it is an every now and then thing, sure. I don't mind. If it is a common rant, I'll usually tell my friend her record is skipping, and to get her ass over to me so I can hit her to see if that helps. WinD

LaTigresse -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 9:12:17 AM)
This is why I love voice mail. I miss out on all the emotional blah blah blah I really don't give a shit about. There are only about 5 people in the world I will listen to their problems... And they know me well enough to know that I will speak my mind and they may or may not like it.

laurell3 -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 9:16:21 AM)
My friends and I rant to each other about work all the time. It's the only appropriate outlet we have and it's actually pretty funny. They don't tend to be ruminating about their rants though, nor am I. I did have a rather unhappily married friend that constantly ranted to me about his wife. I finally one day told him look either get a divorce or stop bitching, I really just can't listen to it anymore. It may seem mean, but after I did it about five of our friends did as well. He got a divorce the following year and is very happy now. Sometimes being a friend does mean being honest.

pahunkboy -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 10:01:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse This is why I love voice mail. I miss out on all the emotional blah blah blah I really don't give a shit about. There are only about 5 people in the world I will listen to their problems... And they know me well enough to know that I will speak my mind and they may or may not like it. I had to take care of some business- so her timing was bad too. I think things blew over for now. Yay. -- I do have days- I just take the phone off the hook. Somehow- I forget to keep the answering machine on mute- and just when I am sleeping or not in the mood- the phone rings. I have to keep it on 5 rings or more- because it is a big house and I am not always near a phone. I could wire it up better- but to me as long as the computer works- the fridge-- the heat/AC- the lights- I am good. I do own 2 cordless phones but those batteries are useless. Lately- tho- I do not get many nuisance calls- so that is good.

DesFIP -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 1:31:40 PM)
If she's in a temporary period of stress such as her mother dying, then yes, bite your tongue and let her rant. If it's something that she could change; job hunt; take courses to change careers etc then tell her to do that instead.

Aylee -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 1:36:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If she's in a temporary period of stress such as her mother dying, then yes, bite your tongue and let her rant. If it's something that she could change; job hunt; take courses to change careers etc then tell her to do that instead. I am with this. I prefer to offer solutions instead of sympathy. Unfortunately that can really irritate people. However, I do have a solution for that as well. [:D]

Lockit -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 1:48:09 PM)
If you are modifying your behavior or life because of someone else who is stuck in life, you will continue to run without a solution. You will soon get the... why are you ignoring me or not taking my calls? You can't feel free and clear with that going on. You have to stand up and say... it's time to get unstuck. I've had to say this to people and while it isn't easy, it is better than to get frustrated and say something in a real harsh way and better than suffering through the drama forever. Whenever I have said it, no matter how I worded it, I was kind but firm and explained to a couple that this stuck place they were in was upsetting to me. I wouldn't stay stuck in my life, have offered solutions or options and simply can't take the constant rant/drama. It has never turned out badly. Good luck and be strong!

pahunkboy -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 1:57:29 PM)
I have already said, "I have 5 minutes for this conversation", "you already told me that, what else is new"

DarkSteven -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 2:39:50 PM)
I put the phone down and check it every five minutes or so.

pahunkboy -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 2:42:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I put the phone down and check it every five minutes or so. LMAO

girlygurl -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 3:47:06 PM)
I rarely do phone. I don't know what it is, but I don't like talking on the phone. Of course, if a friend is in need I will listen anytime.

Level -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 5:08:03 PM)
Same here, girly, I HATE chatting on the phone. It's right there with IMing, on my shit list.

PeanutTigerinBox -> RE: Phone rants- do you like to hear it? (7/13/2010 5:52:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If she's in a temporary period of stress such as her mother dying, then yes, bite your tongue and let her rant. If it's something that she could change; job hunt; take courses to change careers etc then tell her to do that instead. My view is similar....but also interestingly this year someone and I parted due to her attitude once I had a lil rant in return... she ranted for hours in the past what a bad bully her new boss was and once I dared to have a lil rant (from not even 5 minutes) about a colleague who missbehaved big time towards me last summer (as she well knows) she cut me down "I don't want to talk about that"...right...[&:] ok [8\|] ... that says everything now... after that we went to an event we had tickets for and since then we haven't been in touch anymore as quite frankly if I am not able to talk directly and blunt with someone who claims to be a friend at the occassions when we do meet...then we aren't friends in the first place...I don't do well with censorship when I do meet someone and we chat (and apart from her so far nobody felt the need to censor me anyway) because what is the point to meet to chat when you can't talk freely in the first place??? That was just the icing on other aspects which had pissed me off about her before and I am fine without her in my life [:)] But in general I do listen to rants, as we all can be distressed at some point in our life, however if someone goes on and on and on again and again (as a previous friend did) then I am also not afraid to put the phone away from my ear at times and only to put it back sometimes to say a yes or no where it just fits and then let her rumble again without my ear actually hearing it...I had one friend show rumbled 1-2 hours about her work, following (or before then) she bothered to give me 2 minutes to say how I am...well, that friendship didn't last that long either at the end as there is only so much office stories you want to hear [:'(][:'(][:'(] So if it is temporary genuine distress, I don't mind...but if it is a drama king or queen then bore someone else. the first one mentioned on here also rumbled a lot, saying that she would want a new job blablabla...I gave her plenty opportunities to apply for jobs in her area but she never got her ass up...once I realised that I stopped to bother about it and also told her "well, then stop moaning and apply, its not as if I wouldn't have given you opportunities to apply for in the past..."

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