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osf -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 4:35:21 PM)
My Domme is 5 years old but she is very grown up for her age

alatheia -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 4:40:15 PM)
My concern with him being that younger and you being the age you are is that he might eventually want a family. Maybe not now, maybe not for a few years but theres a big chance he might want that in the future. What then? While adoption is always an open option, age restricts many things. Now, if youre into this for the sexual of the deal, go for it... Hes 26, it'll be fun. ps: i did listen to the BSB, i even made it to a concert (im ashamed to admit that) but then again I am a girl and I was born in the 80's..

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 4:50:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poshlady he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old For me He would be, but i'm not you. Only you can answer that question. If it's mostly sexual, that's cool. If you want more than just sex, are you compatible in other ways? What about maturity levels? Can you "relate?" Do you have common interests? Whether He's too young or not, depends on all these things and what you want out of it. ~sweetsub~

WestBaySlave -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 4:57:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan How could you NOT listen to the Back Street Boys and still listen to the radio in 1998? Well, trapped in an elevator we have all suffered the perils of pumped-in pop. ( I seem to remember some obnoxious blonds following me everywhere one year. ) In that sense anyone alive through the past decades has been Back Streeted, Britnied, a more recently, Gagafied, but I'm not sure that's analogous to generational listening habits. I was thinking more of the CDs teens would actually go out and buy for themselves. I seem to remember boy-bands being distinctly aimed at the younger female demographic. Could be wrong...

sexyred1 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:06:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poshlady I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old No one is too young unless you are not compatible. Age has no bearing on whether someone can dominate you. Only feelings do. I think I have said this numerous times on the boards before; but my hottest Dom is much younger than me and had never been a Dom until he met me. It really annoys me when those who ask why a 26 year old would chase a 48 year old, why the fuck not? Please, since my divorce, I have dated only younger men and I can assure you, I have never had so much fun and intensity in my life. Don't listen to the haters; it is usually older men who ask that question anyway.

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:09:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WestBaySlave quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan How could you NOT listen to the Back Street Boys and still listen to the radio in 1998? Well, trapped in an elevator we have all suffered the perils of pumped-in pop. ( I seem to remember some obnoxious blonds following me everywhere one year. ) In that sense anyone alive through the past decades has been Back Streeted, Britnied, a more recently, Gagafied, but I'm not sure that's analogous to generational listening habits. I was thinking more of the CDs teens would actually go out and buy for themselves. I seem to remember boy-bands being distinctly aimed at the younger female demographic. Could be wrong... Actually Boy bands are marketed to EVERYONE. Girls and Boys are equally marketed the Look. Teen Bop and Tiger Beat were the magazines that made the girls in Junior High SWOON. So the Guys wanted to LOOK like them Joey Lawernce actually brought BACK tearing up your Jeans and Flanel shirts with the sleeves cut off... It was the Ramones before that... But the point is What is Marketed is the Fantasy. Girls wanna be with them, Boys wish they were them, if they can't be, looking like them is the next best thing. Parents have the money so making them as Wholesome as possible is very important the sound has to be lice but non threatening.... Which is why Baby is okay (Said 10 Kadrillion times in Boy band Songs) but Sexy wasn't (Still said a Lot but Marketers would fight for rewrites on songs to change out Sexy. Anyway... I bought whatever was popular... I owned it all from MC Hammer, Vanilla Ice, Aerosmith, Metallica, Genisis, Nirvana, and whatever was being played in the top 40... if it got air play chances are I liked it as a kid. As I grew up I got a More Diverse sound.... but if you were between the ages of 10 and 25 in 1990 you KNEW who Back Street Boys are... and know the words to at least one of their songs.... or at least if it came on you could sing along with it... or at least the chorous. QSM

domiguy -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:12:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan [ but if you were between the ages of 10 and 25 in 1990 you KNEW who Back Street Boys are... and know the words to at least one of their songs.... or at least if it came on you could sing along with it... or at least the chorous. QSM shopping for shams soon?

sexyred1 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:12:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys. Yours are Dynasty and how Jefferson Airplane became Jeffeson Starship and then Starship. There will be things to talk about but there will also be a LOT to explain. Where's the Beef will not be someting he will get. QSM I love how you paint everyone with the same brush. Your assumptions are incorrect. We are discussing individuals, not age groups. I have had some of the most intellectual and culturally aware exchanges with younger men. Some older men can hardly put a sentence together. Most younger men actually dial the phone to speak. Many older men ask for your IM and are afraid to call. I suppose it is beyond your scope of reasoning to imagine that sometimes people of differing ages and generations might actually like learning from the other? Ageism is not pretty and I maintain is fueled by jealousy.

domiguy -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:13:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I suppose it is beyond your scope of reasoning to imagine that sometimes people of differing ages and generations might actually like learning from the other? Ageism is not pretty and I maintain is fueled by jealousy. And it's fun to fuck the young!!

sexyred1 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:16:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I suppose it is beyond your scope of reasoning to imagine that sometimes people of differing ages and generations might actually like learning from the other? Ageism is not pretty and I maintain is fueled by jealousy. And it's fun to fuck the young!! Well that goes without saying!

porcelaine -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:23:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I have had some of the most intellectual and culturally aware exchanges with younger men. Some older men can hardly put a sentence together. Most younger men actually dial the phone to speak. Many older men ask for your IM and are afraid to call. sexyred1, It is sad when I encounter abysmal conversational skills from men older than myself. The omission of the checklist provides some dandy information I probably wouldn't glean as quickly without it. But I think some people are also gifted in that area and skilled writers. And that doesn't always translate to the telephone. In fact, I'm inclined to believe the better writers may actually be more shy. But I haven't tested that one enough to be certain. quote: I suppose it is beyond your scope of reasoning to imagine that sometimes people of differing ages and generations might actually like learning from the other? Ageism is not pretty and I maintain is fueled by jealousy. No 'ism is neat but they exist and that's a part of life. Now I disagree with your statements above. I couldn't care who dates whom or if their partner is a thumb sucking babe swaddled in diapers. What I care about is who approaches me and the men that get dumb ideas about my daughter. Luckily she's been well conditioned in that regard so it isn't an issue. I don't envy a woman that's dating a man much younger than herself. I just recognize that outside of sex we'd probably have very little in common. Heck it's a stretch with men my age. I'm just realistic. But if that floats her boat so be it. However, just because a man wants a girl his daughter's age doesn't mean I'm signing up to call him Daddy anytime soon. That doesn't mean I'm discriminating, but it might suggest that isn't my shtick and I'm entitled to that bias in my opinion. ~porcelaine

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:25:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys. Yours are Dynasty and how Jefferson Airplane became Jeffeson Starship and then Starship. There will be things to talk about but there will also be a LOT to explain. Where's the Beef will not be someting he will get. QSM I love how you paint everyone with the same brush. Your assumptions are incorrect. We are discussing individuals, not age groups. I have had some of the most intellectual and culturally aware exchanges with younger men. Some older men can hardly put a sentence together. Most younger men actually dial the phone to speak. Many older men ask for your IM and are afraid to call. I suppose it is beyond your scope of reasoning to imagine that sometimes people of differing ages and generations might actually like learning from the other? Ageism is not pretty and I maintain is fueled by jealousy. You're fucking Kidding me right? I mean you have read everything else I have said right? FFS, okay lets get this straight. Pop Culture is the Culture that was Popular while you were growing up. with a 20 year difference there will be a difference in POPULAR CULTURE. That being said, from someone who has been with MANY women and the majority of them were 15 to 25 years older than me my entire life I can tell you there comes a point where you are just in two different worlds. Politically is usually the most obvious even if you share the same views... Having experienced Nixon and Reading about him are two different views. I have been with women who we had so much in common but there would always come a time when they would bring up a cultural reference and I was completely lost on it. I think she should DO IT, but I also think she needs to be REALISTIC about it. Logistically there is a big difference she is 22 years older than him She will be 50 when he is 28. She will be a Senior when he is younger than she is now.... the point is that there is more than just connection to address. Older women are AWESOME in bed, they are wonderful in person, and they amaze me with how together they usually tend to be...... BUT. Time is everyones Master, and there will come a time in which her Young Master will have to address her Health and not just in a Kinky way, but in general, She is close to Menopause if she has not had it already. He is 26 and I am just pointing out the SMALL VERY SMALL ISSUE that comes with Pop Culture. This does not address that he still has some living he has yet to do, perhaps he has idea that she has already learned from, I doubt that anyone would be okay watching someone make the exact same mistakes they made and not trying to stop that. I LOVE older women... I think women in their late 40's mid 50's are the sexiest women there are... besides my own wife. But I know that there comes a time after the fun and exciting wears off and the amazing sex wears down and you have to address the facts of what a decision of commiting your life with someone else who 20 years your senior presents issue. I am also not saying it CAN'T work, just that if it is you need to address all that shit up front before you commit to something in my opinion as serious as taking them as a slave. QSM

Aileen1968 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:31:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poshlady I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old You're a cougar and he's a cougar hunter. Go for it and have fun.

sexyred1 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:35:43 PM)
No, I am not kidding you, QSM. I understand everything you said about age happening to us all. I never said someone should not be realistic; I reacted vehemently because whenever an older woman expresses asks if she should go with a younger guy, everyone flips out and says oh no, he is using you, what happens when you get too old, blah blah blah. The same story goes for older men/younger women. I can only speak from my own experience and those I know. The younger guy gets older, the older woman gets older. If they love each other, they realize that things change. I do not believe the aging issue needs to be "discussed" ad nauseum before getting involved. Intelligent people just know that will be a part of any relationship, aging happens. But life is too short to deny chemistry because of fear of the future. I have been with someone much younger for many years now. Have things changed with us? In some ways, but in other important ways, no. We are still as insanely attracted to each other as the first day we met. He has grown up and I have grown up. We have different issues, but with all the things that have happened I never would have given up being with him. I feel more alive with him than with anyone I have ever known. I maintain my opinion on this matter and will never change my mind on this. I asked him just the other day what would happen as I got older, would he not be into it anymore. He said, "I love you, so to me, you will never age". And that is good enough for me. If it changes, so be it. But I would have had many years with him and would never regret a thing.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:37:58 PM)
Thanks, Sexyred! I am trying to get over that hurdle personally (after a lifetime of Older men) and it's a toughie.

sexyred1 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:46:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Thanks, Sexyred! I am trying to get over that hurdle personally (after a lifetime of Older men) and it's a toughie. Hi LadyHibiscus. I understand that; I never engaged with younger men until after my divorce. Hubby was 1 year older than me. Post divorce, I thought, oh younger men, boy toys, ok that will work until the proper age appropriate guy comes along. It took a very tenacious younger man whose seduction was so thorough, so filled with finesse, so in love with me, so intense, so deviant, so open to trying things, so willing to explore my own and his fantasies, and so delicious to show me there was no hurdle. Do what feels right to YOU and don't worry about society.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:50:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Thanks, Sexyred! I am trying to get over that hurdle personally (after a lifetime of Older men) and it's a toughie. Hi LadyHibiscus. I understand that; I never engaged with younger men until after my divorce. Hubby was 1 year older than me. Post divorce, I thought, oh younger men, boy toys, ok that will work until the proper age appropriate guy comes along. It took a very tenacious younger man whose seduction was so thorough, so filled with finesse, so in love with me, so intense, so deviant, so open to trying things, so willing to explore my own and his fantasies, and so delicious to show me there was no hurdle. Do what feels right to YOU and don't worry about society. It really isn't "socitety", I worry about being unfair to the younger man. I am NOT a breeder, not interested in adopting, and have a future as caregiver to three older family members... that's a lot to put on someone twenty years younger than me. Yes, those same things would be in place for someone older, but I think to myself, wow, what if I had today's life twenty years ago? Thinking burns calories! I have a Winnie-the-Pooh button that says that!

aphotic -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:53:10 PM)
Everyone else on here seems to be a sycophant to being a little bit older speech--and no, I don't think it's wrong to appreciate your own age group. However, 26 and 48... it's just too much. The fact that you have the same question in your head as I do only proves the point. Yes, it may be great compatibility wise, but what about aesthetics and careers and such? When is a 26 year old likely to retire? Will his expectations be as kind when you are 68 and he is only 48? Jesus fucking Christ, use some common sense! I know you have it because you are pondering the question, but trying to justify it. Look, 1-15 years, and I'm there all day with you; but 20+, no!

sexyred1 -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 5:54:07 PM)
Jeez, if thinking burned calories, I would be thin! I hear what you are saying; and all those factor into things. I would just hate for you or anyone else to miss out on love/lust. As far as breeding; it is up to a younger man to know what he wants. I knew mine did not want kids. If I met someone younger who said he really wanted kids, I would be honest and say, not going to happen, if you still want to hang out, fine. In terms of not being "fair" to someone. HE is making a decision, right? As long as he has all the info you are sharing with him about your future, etc. then whatever decision he makes will be his; nothing for you to feel guilty about.

domiguy -> RE: Is he too young for me ? (7/13/2010 8:24:31 PM)
1-15 years is the mundane. 20+ is rockin'. I once dated a woman 20 years my senior. I remember commenting that her varicose veins reminded me of the mighty Mississip. Galena, Il. would be located right next to that chunk of cellulite. It was so hot.

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