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johnrambo24 -> extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 5:23:06 AM)
I' m a very devote and masochistic young man that has since a couple of years a very very sick fantasy in his mind...It is a well known topic, and I know that for a lot of mistresses it is not easy to handle: I often dream about 4-5 very cruel young women (mistresses) that punish me and humilate me and treat me like a animal and at the end, they castrate me like a stallion...I know about all the problems and consequences, and I not want to do it for real, thats clear for me...but my question is: what can I do to get me "satisfied"? what can I try, or what can help me to get that feeling without mutilate myself?

DarkSteven -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 5:31:44 AM)
Okay. You have a fantasy and you know it's not going to happen. I think what you really want is a roleplay. The question is, how close can you come to reality while keeping yourself safe and within budget. I suggest that you have a single Domme do this with you. Record female laughter and have yourself blindfolded for the session, so the recorded voices will sound more real. Use lots of CBT and have her hold a knife to your skin and then "cut" you with a plastic knife.

OttersSwim -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 5:59:16 AM)
Immerse yourself in your local scene - attend munches, conferences, play parties, clubs. Be charming, up front, totally honest and ready to serve..."Don't be a douchebag." Find a mistress that you can be the devoted submissive to and dedicate yourself to Her. Create with Her a D/s love relationship that is real, authentic, and wonderful. Serve her faithfully for several years. You will no longer have that fantasy. Either She will find a way to fulfill it for you, or your actual experiences will so outstrip the fantasy that it won't even hit your top ten.

LadyPact -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 8:14:36 AM)
How do you get satisfied? I'd say some hand lotion and some tissue should do it.

PeonForHer -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 8:20:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OttersSwim Either She will find a way to fulfill it for you, or your actual experiences will so outstrip the fantasy that it won't even hit your top ten. That goes to a maxim that I've heard which fits with my experience - but I'm wondering if others agree. This is 'An ounce of the real thing is worth a tonne of fantasies about it'. Discuss, in relation to D/s. (15 marks.) [Yep, I'm still marking exam papers.]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:17:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact How do you get satisfied? I'd say some hand lotion and some tissue should do it. This. And, I am reminded of the scene in Loving Dominant (John Warren) where he describes how he did a faux-branding scene for a gal who wanted the CONCEPT but not the permanent marking. It can all be done with the right setup. Why a bunch of strangers would do such a thing for free... well...

WestBaySlave -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:33:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: johnrambo24 I' m a very devote and masochistic young man that has since a couple of years a very very sick fantasy in his mind...It is a well known topic, and I know that for a lot of mistresses it is not easy to handle: I often dream about 4-5 very cruel young women (mistresses) that punish me and humilate me and treat me like a animal and at the end, they castrate me like a stallion...I know about all the problems and consequences, and I not want to do it for real, thats clear for me...but my question is: what can I do to get me "satisfied"? what can I try, or what can help me to get that feeling without mutilate myself? If you know in your mind that is is just a fantasy and not something you seek in real life, then the easiest way is to simply keep it as such. Many of us with BDSM sexual orientations have fantasies in our heads that we will never engage in in real life, yet manage to be completely satisfied by what we do get in real life. That being said, f you find yourself with a domme who has an interest in this variety of role-play, it might be possible to express some of it in a scene with her ( I think DarkSteven has some very good suggestions here ). quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer That goes to a maxim that I've heard which fits with my experience - but I'm wondering if others agree. This is 'An ounce of the real thing is worth a tonne of fantasies about it'. This has been my experience, too. In fact, some little, inconsequential real-time things have often had a sexual and emotional impact far beyond my most elaborate and beloved fantasies.

sexyred1 -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:42:12 AM)
It is quite possible to recreate a fantasy with a willing partner and not actually do it. OP you have gotten great advice and hopefully you can meet a woman who will be as into the fantasy fulfillment as you.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:49:42 AM)
Honestly, it's the kind of scene I would love to do, aside from the illegal surgery stuffs. Because It's Never A Good Day To Be Arrested. Bummer that I'm old, eh! [:D] Another caveat from Auntie, who has been places twice: OP, there are a lot of sadists out there who don't have a whit of concern for anyone's safety. Get to know your playmates, and be sure you are with trustworthy folks who can give you an experience without a hospital visit. Extreme play is serious fun, with an equal emphasis on both words.

LadyPact -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:52:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer That goes to a maxim that I've heard which fits with my experience - but I'm wondering if others agree. This is 'An ounce of the real thing is worth a tonne of fantasies about it'. Discuss, in relation to D/s. (15 marks.) [Yep, I'm still marking exam papers.] Much better than the original. I often say around here that I don't have fantasies - I have goals. This actually does spring from the fact that anything that I've ever fantasized about that I've brought to fruition in life has been sooooo much better than the way I conjured it up in My head. The mental aspect of wiitwd is very powerful, but when you add to it what is brought to you by the five senses from actually doing it, the resulting experience can be absolutely amazing. Plus there is the excitement of being wrapped up in the moment with the things you feel on an emotional level, there is just no comparison. Sure, some people fantasize about stuff that they don't ever want to bring to reality. That's something of a different subject to Me. When you do get a chance to bring those fantasies to the flesh and blood world, the reality can be mind blowing.

igor2003 -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:57:43 AM)
When a magician creates an illusion he does not tell how it was done since telling would ruin the illusion. There are ways your fantasy could be done, but to tell you how would ruin the illusion for you. What you need to do is to find a willing partner and/or partners and let the other participants find out or fiugure out how to create that illusion for you.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 9:59:35 AM)
I do have some fantasies that should never, ever happen. Ever. The other things are more often... memories! [:D]

LadyConstanze -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 10:22:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Okay. You have a fantasy and you know it's not going to happen. I think what you really want is a roleplay. The question is, how close can you come to reality while keeping yourself safe and within budget. I suggest that you have a single Domme do this with you. Record female laughter and have yourself blindfolded for the session, so the recorded voices will sound more real. Use lots of CBT and have her hold a knife to your skin and then "cut" you with a plastic knife. Uhhh, there is an electric tool that feels like a knife, very realistic, if he is healthy, it's far enough away from the heart, he could give this a try, or when it comes to staying within a budget also possibly ask if there are a few dommes in training, they don't have to be there all the time...

ElanSubdued -> RE: extreme fantasy (7/15/2010 11:39:24 AM)
johnrambo24, Kinky fantasies are great, but it's important to keep them in balance with vanilla life and with real life values and people. I've got some fantasies that are crazy-hot in my mind and that's where they will remain. Some fantasies are suitable to transfer to real life and others are better staying in the imaginary world of our minds. If a fantasy is strong enough, but unsuitable for the real world, you can do as Steven suggested and find a partner who will roleplay it with you in a safe, sane way. However, if the fantasy continues and you find yourself obsessing on it to the extent that it interrupts your enjoyment of life and negatively impacts your relationships, this is when I'd say some re-evaluation is required. On a forum like this, posts of the ilk "what Mistress finds activity X hot" or "I want someone to do X, Y, and Z to me; what do you think of this" are plentiful and usually not received well. They come across in a way that objectifies women - no need to get to know her, any domme will do. Typos, grammar errors, and missing punctuation don't make these posts (or any posts) particularly endearing either. Errors like this make it seem the author is so focused on their fantasy that they didn't bother to check the correctness of their writing. You've received polite replies, but you might want to read through your OP and consider how it comes across. Elan.

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