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hankyspanky2 -> Own you... (7/16/2010 5:57:50 AM)
I was having a conversation with a dom friend of mine, who said something to me which left me pondering. We were talking about our mutual love/like of bdsm and the types of relationships we've had over time. He happened to mention he'd had a very long, loving yet vanilla relationship, that sexually it wasn't all that great he then said this and I quote "For me to orgasm through sex, I need to know I own you." I don't quite know why suddenly I was alerted by this, and have since started pondering on it, it just seemed a very strong, possessive thing to say. So whilst one day I'd love to be owned, and understand some of its meaning. I was just wondering if any Dom men have/had a similar experience? Also if you could describe how owning someone feels? How the mere fact you own someone can/has/does increase the intensity in such a sexual way?

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:32:54 AM)
Okay bad analogy, but: picture yourself driving a Maserati. Awesome, right? Now, picture yourself driving YOUR Maserati. Awesome to a power of ten, right? Its not just better, its WAAAAY BETTER. So why settle for just joy, when you can have joy thats intensity and depth is exponentially greater? (spelling edit)

domiguy -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:35:15 AM)
Your friend is lying to you.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:40:52 AM)
I did say it was a bad analogy. Pay attention. Nyah! [8D] ETA: Ohhh, you meant the guy is lying to the OP. Well, yeah. I guess I thought that was obvious. (edit after re-reading the OP)

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:41:02 AM)
I wanna be a Maserati...

DarkSteven -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:44:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I wanna be a Maserati... I'd love for you to be MY Maserati!

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:48:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I wanna be a Maserati... I'd love for you to be MY Maserati! yay me! So when can I expect you over for a test drive? Gotta see how you handle....umm....me [:D]

domiguy -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 6:52:00 AM)
I always wondered how a maserati would handle a shit load of anal, some fisting and a big ol' butt plug.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:02:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy I always wondered how a maserati would handle a shit load of anal, some fisting and a big ol' butt plug. Proper tailpipe maintenance is required for a Maserati. It's in the owners manual!

domiguy -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:13:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hankyspanky2 then said this and I quote "For me to orgasm through sex, I need to know I own you." The mental aspect can play a part in a heightened sexual arousal. I "get off" when a tit or a nip is being pulled on or subsusie is gagging on the ol' Domidong or the gal is in some form of duress. It just makes things all the more romantic....lol. I think most guys can still bang one out through good ol' 'nilla fornication if things are hot enough. It sounds cool and uber Domly to say that we need ownership to bust a nut but that is probably not based upon reality.

mnottertail -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:21:32 AM)
My maserati does 185; I lost my license; so, now I don't drive........

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:25:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail My maserati does 185; I lost my license; so, now I don't drive........ Life's been good! OP, I doubt your friend was being literal...

DarlingSavage -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:36:06 AM)
Own me! Make me belong to you! Make me your property! Own me!

Jeffff -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:36:39 AM)
After having owned, I now prefer to lease.

sirsholly -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:37:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I wanna be a Maserati... I'd love for you to be MY Maserati! careful Win.....he'll give you gas

sexyred1 -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:41:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy quote: ORIGINAL: hankyspanky2 then said this and I quote "For me to orgasm through sex, I need to know I own you." The mental aspect can play a part in a heightened sexual arousal. I "get off" when a tit or a nip is being pulled on or subsusie is gagging on the ol' Domidong or the gal is in some form of duress. It just makes things all the more romantic....lol. I think most guys can still bang one out through good ol' 'nilla fornication if things are hot enough. It sounds cool and uber Domly to say that we need ownership to bust a nut but that is probably not based upon reality. This. Your friend is just being dramatic. Of course when involved in an intense relationship, everything is heightened, but please, I don't believe what he said. Unless he is just saying that to get out of having sex with someone and trying to let them down easily.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 7:45:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I wanna be a Maserati... I'd love for you to be MY Maserati! careful Win.....he'll give you gas [sm=rofl.gif] Just my luck. Everything else does, why not him too?

porcelaine -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 8:42:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hankyspanky2 I don't quite know why suddenly I was alerted by this, and have since started pondering on it, it just seemed a very strong, possessive thing to say. So whilst one day I'd love to be owned, and understand some of its meaning. I was just wondering if any Dom men have/had a similar experience? Also if you could describe how owning someone feels? How the mere fact you own someone can/has/does increase the intensity in such a sexual way? hankyspanky2, Why were you surprised? People have mental associations regarding sex and fetishes. That's why some things are acceptable and others are out of the question. I won't debate whether he's telling the truth or not, but will admit my orgasms are selfish. Which means I get off because I want to do so with that person. If that's absent in spite of other things it isn't happening. And that doesn't mean I won't be aroused but it just never builds beyond that point. Owned has different manifestations for me. It could mean a violent head banging session that leaves me content and well bruised. Or it might be much softer with lighter elements applied. It can be fast paced and edge clinging or slow and methodically applied. One thing that's always there is intensity and passion because that's how I relate in bed. I'm completely uninhibited because he owns me. I have no provocation to hold back or adhere to notions regarding respectability or how a woman should behave. I'm whatever he wants me to be at a given moment and I delight in being his receptacle because it's liberating and something I revel in exhibiting. A person that didn't own me isn't getting the same response. Not by a long shot. He uses the flesh but he doesn't possess it and that significantly impacts its reactions. The latter is controlled and the former consensually subjugated. ~porcelaine

dovie -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 8:42:47 AM)
ROFLMAO at the responses on this thread. You guys rock pino!! Um, has excellent Maserati polishing skills. Love the chrome.[:D] On the serious side, when I'm owned, sex takes on a whole 'nother dimension; green ladies with forked tongues not withstanding. dovie has left the building

jujubeeMB -> RE: Own you... (7/16/2010 9:35:30 AM)
Your Dom friend was greatly exaggerating, but I do totally know what he's talking about. My ex was very much like that: he had some experiences with subs who were owned by other people and he told me a lot about how it was just so vividly different when it was his sub. I think that definitely has to do with being close to someone, but I also think there's an aspect of power that really does enhance someone's ability to let go, which can make orgasms feel a lot better.

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