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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/16/2010 9:57:44 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		i know. That's why i hesitate to call it "love". i just don't know what else to call it.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/16/2010 9:58:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Love? That is almost impossible to quantify...


"in love" , well that is easy... that is infatuation in my mind... loss of appetite, obsessive thoughts of the object of my affection, etc etc etc..

Real love? It means feeling love even when you are mad. Wanting the best for that person even though they have hurt you. It means accepting someone flaws and all. Real love is not "feeling" based, but "loyalty" based. It doesn't diminish when the new wears off, it grows deeper

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/16/2010 10:01:37 PM   
juliaoceania


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Love is ...................... home


As Billy Joel said

When you look into my eyes
And you see the crazy gypsy in my soul
It always comes as a surprise
When I feel my withered roots begin to grow
Well, I never had a place that I could call my very own
But that's alright my love,
'Cause your my home

When you touch my weary head
And you tell me ev'rything will be alright
You say use my body for your bed
And my love will keep you warm throughout the night
Well, I'll never be a stranger
And I'll never be alone
Where ever we're together that's my home

Home can be the Pennsylvania Turnpike
Indiana early morning dew
High up in the hills of California
Home is just another word for you

If I traveled all my life
And I never get to stop and settle down
Long as I have you by my side
There's a roof above and good walls all around
You're my castle, you're my cabin and my instant pleasure dome
I need you in my house 'cause you're my home

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/16/2010 10:03:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ourmsbetty

The Christmas story is called The Gift of the Magi.




Yeppers, by O Henry/WS Porter, except our teacher pronounced 'Magi' like 'maggot' instead of like 'magic'. ;-)

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/17/2010 10:37:36 AM   
alatheia


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Status: offline 		Love, to me, is happiness. It's waking up with a smile only to have that feeling exponentially grow when I see/feel him. It's missing him when he's not around. It's doing the impossible to make him happy and looking forward to forever and a day together.

@juliaoceania : Completely agree with you

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/17/2010 3:30:36 PM   
Zevar


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Status: offline 		Love for me is when the I in only me transforms into the US that expresses WE.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/17/2010 7:29:37 PM   
lazarus1983


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Status: offline 		The best description of "love" I've ever heard was from Robert A. Heinlein:

Love is the condition where another person's happiness is essential to your own.

No terrible, overdramatic poetry describing a burning desire in your soul, none of that lame crap. Just a nice, neat, concise definition.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/17/2010 7:42:11 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: gungadin09

i envy you. For me, "love" (if that's even the right word for it) is much closer to pain then to pleasure.


Pain is love's complement. If you look closer hurt can be ecstatic, blissful, agonizing, gut wrenching, orgasmic, and so on. But none of that is negative. All things in nature carry a unique balance. It isn't that we love but how we love that determines if its manifestation is good or bad. I'd suggest you peruse the writings of Khalil Gibran. He covered the subject in great depth. If you want a more romanticized version explore Rumi's works.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/17/2010 7:44:49 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Love for me was best determined when  i didn't run for the hills when Sir was diagnosed with cancer. It was inconceivable for me to leave - even though i knew he was going to die, in a relatively short period of time.

I didn't want anyone else taking care of him, i wanted to be the last person he saw when he died, and have him buoyed up by my love and regard. Even though i knew if i left, i wouldn't have to experience the pain at the end of the trail, it wasn't even a consideration..

Before that decision, i thought i loved him, after it i knew i did.
And in spite of the subject matter of my post , our love was joyful and happy.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/18/2010 1:14:43 AM   
Termyn8or


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I wanted her to bear my children, I was around also but never got her. I could actually feel it when she was on the rag, and when she was happy I was elated. I would have died for her, in an instant.

Even as a friend I only bought here a couple of blouses (one of them see through), a pair of big speakers and  reel to reel tape recorder. She did not ask much.

She changed over to being a lesbian, and I hope it wasn't because of me because I could see that there was something there. Familial and other factors precluded our relationship, and believe me they were harsh. The only way we could be together was to move about twenty states away. Life would have been so different.

I wanted all of her, the hot body included of course, but that had nothing to do with my attraction to her.

This day I try to contact her from time to time, and have but can't seem to meet in person. Schedules and such.

Even though she doesn't go for guys now, I still will be friends. I want to see her and be around her even if I ain't gittin none. Even this is hard due to the familial and the friend[ological] situation. But I will try until the day I die.

Any other questions ?

T

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/18/2010 5:10:57 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		For me, love is very quiet.  My world is peaceful. 

I knew I was in love when I offered to convert to Catholicism for him. 

(and by the way... here is what I have found that speaks to me about love):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFas-cB9LG8&feature=related

I have used that song to teach parents what love is for loving their children, I have used it to remind myself what friendship is, and I have loved the one man I completely loved by using that song as a guide.

Love isn't something that we have, it's something that we do...

best,
sunshine

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/18/2010 7:05:45 AM   
BonesFromAsh


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Status: offline 		From the poem "The Vast Expanse" by Alex Grey....

"Share your presence with others, no boundaries-
Completely, lovingly, openly.
Love is what makes us alive,
That is why we feel so alive when we love.
Service is being available to love." 

Being "in love" is a feeling,
Love is simply being open to the possibility.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/18/2010 8:36:26 AM   
Termyn8or


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Status: offline 		"Love isn't something that we have, it's something that we do... "

I must disagree. True love is bigger than all of us, even me. As such I see it as a form of insanity. Essentially it really is.

How it intertwangles with lust varies by the individual.

T

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/18/2010 9:41:50 AM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Love is difficult to define, the feeling is also difficult to describe. I like Katy's definition, love is like coming home.

I don't think love is obsession, in fact, I think needy/obsessive behaviors are selfish and contrary to love. In my opinion, really truly loving someone means you are more willing and apt to let go of what you want for them, even when it's painful or difficult.

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RE: what does "love" feel like to you? - 7/18/2010 6:41:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: gungadin09

What does "love" feel like to you?

pam


I guess… it feels like weightlessness; not because it is always pleasant, but because it is balance.

It enhances the pleasant things, and can soften the unpleasant; like having to let go. It is acceptance of me for what I am, my relation to my surroundings, and those in it.

Kim


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