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my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 4:58:17 PM   
southernsubboy


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Status: offline 		Okay, my best female friend who id put in my top friends regardless is a total control type, shes also my roomate, were both college kids. Also she is a total hottie, i mean HOT... a little backstory here...
we used to work together is how we met each other. and we became friends during that... everyone always think we are a couple i guess we have chemistry... but thing is im not really interested in dating her or anything romantic shes just a friend but me being the switch and into the lifestyle such as i am notice these little things in her behavior... like i think she is a domme but doesnt realize it... i mean she will straight up tell you "my boyfriend is whipped" or "im a bitch, so what"
so... the reasons i think she is domme
a. she is a master of manipulation especially with guys, and will sometime even flirt with girls to get her way...
  --- she often SUCCEEDS when shes out to get what she wants.
b. she has a domme attitude, she always has to be in charge and usually is because she sets shit up to be that way.
c. every boyfriend no matter how cocky or confident or whatever always breaks eventually i mean like... if they arent whipped at first they will be 100% whipped in no time at all, she acknowledges this fact and takes pride in it, saying things like "im always in charge" "I run shit" "he will do what i want him to do'
- okay, i know i said i wasnt interested in her romantically but now to what she does with me...
its wierd, i have been one of the few guys to resist her flirting, i decided we would be friends and flirting is as far as anything would EVER go, why idk it works like it is and i am not loosing a friend i have had for years and is dependable and always there when i need her, just because of some stupid moment of sex... sorry but no.
perhaps this is a reason we became such good friends i dont know...
but even with me shes always trying to be domme, its like she cant help it its in her nature or something is how i feel... most times i will just shut her down and be like hell no, sometime though she will be all bossy telling me to do something and shit and i will be a bit turned on... the submissive in me coming out i guess...
Well anyway, i think maybe she would have better relationships if she would acknowledge the fact that she is domme and likes to be in charge etc and embrace that.... seems like sometime it causes friction with her usually vanilla relationships... IDK , just lookin for feedback here i guess... judge if you want i dont give a care lol
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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 5:04:59 PM   
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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 5:14:27 PM   
southernsubboy


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Status: offline 		LOL , not quite teh response i was looking for but ....

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 5:15:39 PM   
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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 5:22:35 PM   
southernsubboy


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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 5:23:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		From what you've said, she knows she's dominant, and seems fine with that. It doesn't hafta be sexual, at all.


Hell- she might want to be submissive in the bedroom, for all you know. Or even vanilla. Really, how do you know she's not domming her BF's in the bedroom?


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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 5:28:02 PM   
southernsubboy


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Status: offline 		well yeah she kinda knows it, but i dont know if she makes the connection with your probably a fucking dominatrix.... but i mean hell i dont know if shes domming them, or what in the bedroom i was really just lookin for opinions and feedback

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 6:09:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		That's not being a domme, that's being manipulative. Lotsa hot vanilla chicks are like that, especially if frigid [don't enjoy sex that much, but love the power], as well as switches or subs.
However, if she loves sex and fucks guys in the ass, THEN she's at least part lifestyle domme :-)

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 6:35:34 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: southernsubboy

shes just a friend but me being the switch and into the lifestyle such as i am notice these little things in her behavior... like i think she is a domme but doesnt realize it... i mean she will straight up tell you "my boyfriend is whipped" or "im a bitch, so what"


Nothing like a friend wanting to label you, huh? 

quote:


so... the reasons i think she is domme
a. she is a master of manipulation especially with guys, and will sometime even flirt with girls to get her way...
--- she often SUCCEEDS when shes out to get what she wants.
b. she has a domme attitude, she always has to be in charge and usually is because she sets shit up to be that way.
c. every boyfriend no matter how cocky or confident or whatever always breaks eventually i mean like... if they arent whipped at first they will be 100% whipped in no time at all, she acknowledges this fact and takes pride in it, saying things like "im always in charge" "I run shit" "he will do what i want him to do'


So, a woman needs to be a manipulative bossy bitch who "breaks" her partners in order to be labeled a dominant woman in your book? 

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Well anyway, i think maybe she would have better relationships if she would acknowledge the fact that she is domme and likes to be in charge etc and embrace that.... seems like sometime it causes friction with her usually vanilla relationships... IDK , just lookin for feedback here i guess... judge if you want i dont give a care lol


Why does she need to acknowledge anything?  Is she interested in WIITWD or are you projecting?

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 7:34:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		o dont know, maybe im wrong, lookin for different perspectives, i dont think im projecting because i personally dont care i just notice how everytime she gets in a fight with a guy its over her being too bossy and controlling ... i dont 'want' her to be anything other than what she is... im not trying to make her something shes not just trying to get some insight from other peoples perceptions other than my own... just observed a situation, lookin for opinions is all.

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 7:42:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: southernsubboy

o dont know, maybe im wrong, lookin for different perspectives, i dont think im projecting because i personally dont care i just notice how everytime she gets in a fight with a guy its over her being too bossy and controlling ... i dont 'want' her to be anything other than what she is... im not trying to make her something shes not just trying to get some insight from other peoples perceptions other than my own... just observed a situation, lookin for opinions is all.


Did you see the movie 'The Hangover"? Know Melissa, the dentist's gf? 
Some women can be great at being a bitch. It doesn't mean they are a sensual femdom.  They are just - well, a bitch.
Sadly a lot of men hook up with these women hoping their manipulative, bossy, controlling personality traits are linked to a hidden femdom side, and they find out, later, the woman is just a bitch.

Akasha


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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 7:54:09 PM   
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< Message edited by southernsubboy -- 7/17/2010 8:45:27 PM >

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 7:58:36 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: southernsubboy

o dont know, maybe im wrong, lookin for different perspectives, i dont think im projecting because i personally dont care i just notice how everytime she gets in a fight with a guy its over her being too bossy and controlling ... i dont 'want' her to be anything other than what she is... im not trying to make her something shes not just trying to get some insight from other peoples perceptions other than my own... just observed a situation, lookin for opinions is all.


Did you see the movie 'The Hangover"? Know Melissa, the dentist's gf? 
Some women can be great at being a bitch. It doesn't mean they are a sensual femdom.  They are just - well, a bitch.
Sadly a lot of men hook up with these women hoping their manipulative, bossy, controlling personality traits are linked to a hidden femdom side, and they find out, later, the woman is just a bitch.

Akasha




This, pretty much.

I think it's safe to say that dominant women are strong minded and not afraid to share their opinions, but bitches? Mostly, no. It's hard to be a bitch all the time unless it comes naturally. Nasty does not equal dominant. Nasty just equals nasty.

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/17/2010 8:44:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		well seems like most people here agree so i guess i have my answer.... but hey, feel free

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/18/2010 9:26:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I only skimmed the replies, but I have two thoughts for you.

The first is, friend or not, this really isn't your business.  It sounds more like you're trying to put her into this nice little box that you think she fits into.

The second is, I'm going to agree with what other women have told you.  Bitchy, domineering, and manipulative isn't what makes someone Dominant.  It's the huge idea of the image of a Domme in porn, but it doesn't tend to go over as well from the lifestyle angle.


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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/18/2010 10:01:23 AM   
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quote:

AAkasha wrote:
Did you see the movie 'The Hangover"? Know Melissa, the dentist's gf?  Some women can be great at being a bitch.  It doesn't mean they are a sensual femdom.  They are just - well, a bitch.  Sadly a lot of men hook up with these women hoping their manipulative, bossy, controlling personality traits are linked to a hidden femdom side, and they find out, later, the woman is just a bitch.

LadyPact wrote:
The second is, I'm going to agree with what other women have told you.  Bitchy, domineering, and manipulative isn't what makes someone Dominant.  It's the huge idea of the image of a Domme in porn, but it doesn't tend to go over as well from the lifestyle angle.


+1

Been there.  Done that.  Stupidly, chose to live with her.  Found her utterly insufferable.  Ultimately, chose freedom/singlehood again.  'Twas the only sane solution. :-)

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/18/2010 5:05:23 PM   
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I'm in the middle of a busy day, but decided to come back, momentarily, to change my response to Akasha, LadyPact, and southernsubboy.  Unfortunately, Collar Me's edit timer has expired and thus no further editing is possible.  I'll have to live with my words, but I'll add the following:  each of us decides the aspects of their relationships that remain private.  In my opinion, what I posted is a misstep and is without grace.  I wish I'd simply agreed with Akasha and LadyPact and said nothing more.

E.

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/18/2010 5:25:39 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: southernsubboy

o dont know, maybe im wrong, lookin for different perspectives, i dont think im projecting because i personally dont care i just notice how everytime she gets in a fight with a guy its over her being too bossy and controlling ... i dont 'want' her to be anything other than what she is... im not trying to make her something shes not just trying to get some insight from other peoples perceptions other than my own... just observed a situation, lookin for opinions is all.


Did you see the movie 'The Hangover"? Know Melissa, the dentist's gf? 
Some women can be great at being a bitch. It doesn't mean they are a sensual femdom.  They are just - well, a bitch.
Sadly a lot of men hook up with these women hoping their manipulative, bossy, controlling personality traits are linked to a hidden femdom side, and they find out, later, the woman is just a bitch.

Akasha



Akasha is my new message board crush, but im going to have to disagree with her here. Not all domme's are bitches, and not all bitches are dommes, but there is significant overlap between the two groups. i composed a venn diagram in excel to visually demonstrate this, but unfortunately it would not upload.

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RE: my female roomie is domme but doesnt know it - 7/21/2010 12:59:02 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

Akasha, LadyPact, and southernsubboy;

quote:

AAkasha wrote:
Did you see the movie 'The Hangover"? Know Melissa, the dentist's gf?  Some women can be great at being a bitch.  It doesn't mean they are a sensual femdom.  They are just - well, a bitch.  Sadly a lot of men hook up with these women hoping their manipulative, bossy, controlling personality traits are linked to a hidden femdom side, and they find out, later, the woman is just a bitch.

LadyPact wrote:
The second is, I'm going to agree with what other women have told you.  Bitchy, domineering, and manipulative isn't what makes someone Dominant.  It's the huge idea of the image of a Domme in porn, but it doesn't tend to go over as well from the lifestyle angle.


+1

Been there.  Done that.  Stupidly, chose to live with her.  Found her utterly insufferable.  Ultimately, chose freedom/singlehood again.  'Twas the only sane solution. :-)


Is she still available? Feel free to pm me her contact info ;)

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