RE: Is it comparatively hard for you to terminate a d/s relationship?

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sexyred1 -> RE: Is it comparatively hard for you to terminate a d/s relationship? (7/20/2010 5:52:42 AM)
Since all my adult relationships involved some level of D/s I cannot say if they are harder to break away from. I can only say the ONE relationship, the last one, on again, off again, is the one that is proving the most difficult to walk away from ever. The fact that this one is most intense D/s relationship ever for me might possibly have something to do with it. I firmly believe that when you are in this kind of relationship, sometimes there is the element of obsession and addiction involved, which then makes it that much harder to break.

DesFIP -> RE: Is it comparatively hard for you to terminate a d/s relationship? (7/20/2010 8:17:24 AM)
Moreover what the op doesn't recognize is that nobody walks away the first time a snag is hit, if they're at all emotionally invested. They do however lose a little trust in the other person with each snag. By the time you tell them to hit the road, you have lost all trust and most emotional investment in the relationship. And at that point the authority is the same as a real jerk of a boss. The fact that you have to put up with him for the meantime doesn't mean you're unable to look for a new job and won't give your two weeks notice when you get it. And if he's been sufficiently stupid, he won't even get that.

juliaoceania -> RE: Is it comparatively hard for you to terminate a d/s relationship? (7/20/2010 10:06:26 AM)
I would also say that from what I have read and heard through my time here about many local communities (including the experiences that my last dominant had with lifestyle communities) people switch partners often, and many of these relationships are short lived. I could speculate why this would be so, unrealistic expectations was something I have seen mentioned in regard to the shortness of many lifestyle relationships, but my entire point is that if these relationships were innately difficult to end, why do they do so very often? Seems there would be more motivation to keep them going if they were harder to end

laurell3 -> RE: Is it comparatively hard for you to terminate a d/s relationship? (7/20/2010 2:04:39 PM)
I don't think they are comparitively harder to leave for me. All significant relationships are hard to end on either side. They should be. I can say they are comparitively harder to replace with another quality relationship and some of my downtime has been merely because I didn't feel like tackling the mess of sorting through people in the bdsm arena.

Andalusite -> RE: Is it comparatively hard for you to terminate a d/s relationship? (7/20/2010 9:05:54 PM)
I haven't been in any vanilla relationships in 16 years, but I have been in a couple of egalitarian kinky ones. The 3 relationships that involved power exchange (5 years as a Domme, 3 years as a submissive, and 1 year as a slave) were more difficult to decide that I needed to break up. It wasn't difficult in the sense of getting nasty or spiteful, though.

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