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Spartacus25 -> Mommy? (7/18/2010 9:39:00 PM)
I've noticed that there exists a segment within the female sub population that addresses their partner as "daddy". For the most part I'm all for whatever secures happiness for someone, but the incestuous undertones make me a tad uneasy. I started a thread on the general board to inquire about this, and one domme replied that there is a significant number of male subs here who call their partner "mommy". Is this your experience? Is this an element of your relationship, and if so, what is the motivation for it?

LadyPact -> RE: Mommy? (7/18/2010 9:47:15 PM)
No, that isn't My experience with people I have known in the lifestyle. The only "Mommy Dommes" that I have met personally are those who are involved with those who have something related to the AB/DL fetish. Often, they will be active in the "littles" community, which is specific to age play. Aside from that, I haven't met any folks involved in a D/s or M/s dynamic where the term "Mommy" is used, unless it is done in the same context as any other vanilla couple who might exchange parenthood terms with each other in some connection with their offspring in their home. Granted, I am not the final word of experience on this matter. I tend to not associate much with the littles community. It's absolutely not My thing and I list it as a hard limit on My own profile.

LadyCimarron -> RE: Mommy? (7/18/2010 10:09:47 PM)
LP. I made the comment and I though I may not have stated it, I was indeed referring to the Mommy/little boy/AB/DL dynamic often found in the lifestyle.

LadyPact -> RE: Mommy? (7/18/2010 10:53:05 PM)
LadyC, I did see your comments on the other thread. In fact, I'm actually agreeing with your comments on it. There are two points that are of specific interest to Me. One of those is the fact that it is being looked at specifically as a kink, without proper attention being made that one might hear the same thing outside of a BDSM or D/s context. This is very much the same as sometimes, a foot rub is just a foot rub, and not a fetish. Not everything that kinky people do is based on kink. It's important to remember that just because some people use a term or an act in a kinky way, it doesn't mean that everybody is doing it for that purpose. Another is, I noticed on the other thread that you mentioned a number of people contacting you with this specific area in mind. It happens quite a bit. I would invite you and the OP to have a gander at some of the past threads in this particular section. AB's don't often get a good reception here because so few female Dominants are into this specific fetish. Yet, the AB/DL/littles aspect is not nearly found as often with those who participate in Daddy/little girl or boy dynamics. I've found that those are often just a different style of domination. Usually less rigid, less strict on protocol, or obedience. The expectations are often quite different, depending on the gender of the role.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Mommy? (7/18/2010 11:04:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Spartacus25 I've noticed that there exists a segment within the female sub population that addresses their partner as "daddy". For the most part I'm all for whatever secures happiness for someone, but the incestuous undertones make me a tad uneasy. I started a thread on the general board to inquire about this, and one domme replied that there is a significant number of male subs here who call their partner "mommy". Is this your experience? Is this an element of your relationship, and if so, what is the motivation for it? Just to point out, in this context mommy isn't necessarily the equivalent of daddy. I knew an American (non-kinky) guy for a while who referred to me mainly as 'hot mama' or 'little mama'. I didn't think anything of it [8\|].

LadyConstanze -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 2:44:52 AM)
FR Never really came much in contact with it, but it absolutely isn't my thing, to be honest anybody calling me "mommy" it would really turn me off. I'm not saying it isn't a valid fetish/kink, but it's simply something that doesn't float my boat.

thishereboi -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 3:09:38 AM)
It is nothing new. In Paper Moon, Trixie called Moses "daddy" and Judge Hardy refered to his wife at "mother". I have never thought about it in an incestuous way and I seriously doubt they did either.

Sylverdawn -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 5:06:38 AM)
it is a country tradition.in certain rural areas. for married people to call each other mother and father.. I dont think that has anything to do with kink.. Ive never been in the Littles community so I know nothing about it.. but I do know that in leather even females take the title of Daddy when they are involved in a relationships with that boy/girl energy.. it has little do with incest play and more about the kind of power exchange.. so I could see in that kind of situation being called Mommy ....to denote that engery is maternal and about guiding and growing the submissive.

youngsubgeoff -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 6:17:13 AM)
Personally, no, I dont do the whole "mommy" thing, as a little or as a D/s dynamic. I'm not knocking those that do, its just not my thing. I already have a mother, and yes, she is a saint. My mother can be very feminine, but she is a tomboy at heart (growing up with 5 brothers will do that to a gal). She's normally a very sweet, polite gal, but if you mess with her or her family, she will keeel you. Ironically, a number of my female friends call me "Poppa Bear". My friend Nicole says its because normally, I'm a big, cuddly oaf. However, if someone was to hurt someone I care about, I will tear their head off in an instant.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 8:08:16 AM)
I am no one's mama! I am pretty much everyone's Auntie, though... which started out as my first nic in the scene, Aunt Strict, but matches my protective but transgressive personality! I have never heard anyone use the "mommy" term towards a dominant that didn't have some kind of age play involved.

PeonForHer -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 9:13:29 AM)
FR, It has to be said that maledoms might get off on being called 'Daddy' because they're not bothered about the implication that they're older than their femsubs. Quite the opposite, in many cases, in fact. Women - femdoms included - on the other hand, tend to be a little vainer about their age. Or so I've heard, from no doubt silly people who should know better.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 9:22:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer FR, It has to be said that maledoms might get off on being called 'Daddy' because they're not bothered about the implication that they're older than their femsubs. Quite the opposite, in many cases, in fact. Women - femdoms included - on the other hand, tend to be a little vainer about their age. Or so I've heard, from no doubt silly people who should know better. It's less the age thing, but being called mommy is just such a turn off, never having given birth my ideas of being in labor are sketchy at best but if it is something like a really really bad and painful period, errr, no, not a turn on. I might call my 4 legged pets babies, but I really don't have any sexual attraction to them, it's such an instant buzz kill, even somebody older than me calling me mommy, it would be like a cold shower, it just doesn't do it for me, the connotation is just too much!

MadameMarque -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 10:13:29 AM)
As a relationship became more established, of someone being submissive to me, it's possible that they could sometimes call me by some term that is "Mother," more in the same sense that an adult in a more formal familial hierarchy might call the matriarch of a family - a term that is both intimate and deferentail. I haven't done that before, but it has a possible appeal. I think that in many parts of the U.S., at least, Daddy and Mama may be used more commonly than Daddy and Mommy, by all by small children, so Mommy tends to have a different connotation. Regarding a family/age difference sort of fantasy, it makes a big difference to most people, and to me, what age and relationship you're acting out. For myself, I'm only interested in the other adult playing out being of a sexually mature age - that is, someone old enough to be actively interested in sex, themselves. There was a time when the mother-post-adolescent or grown son fantasy idea piqued my interest, but I haven't really focused on it, in a long time.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Mommy? (7/19/2010 11:56:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer FR, It has to be said that maledoms might get off on being called 'Daddy' because they're not bothered about the implication that they're older than their femsubs. Quite the opposite, in many cases, in fact. Women - femdoms included - on the other hand, tend to be a little vainer about their age. Or so I've heard, from no doubt silly people who should know better. You are a very silly person. [:)] I don't think it's worry about age--it's the idea that we have a grown CHILD to mind! Blech!! Real life brings us stuff like that, not many go after that choice all on their own.

chamberqueen -> RE: Mommy? (7/21/2010 11:14:21 AM)
I was referred to as Mommy by some of my males subs. In some cases it was their way of showing deference to my wisdom (in their eyes), in others it was to fulfill a fantasy of being caught masturbating by their mother and having her both punish them and having her teach them how to do it correctly. I became "Mommy" to quite a few transvestites who needed help picking out their first garments and teaching them use more feminine mannerisms. It can take on many different meanings.

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