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AspX -> Article: Tantric Breath and BDSM play (7/19/2010 3:27:22 PM)
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During a conversation with a domme friend of mine, the subject of tantric BDSM came up and she asked about it. So, I wrote some stuff about incorporating tantric breathing into BDSM (from a dom point of view) and I've decided to post it as an article for the message boards. Hope you enjoy it:
Tantra as an art is a way to deepen and prolong the sexual experience. BDSM play generally has nothing to do with that, but some parts of tantric techniques can actually be utilized to enhance the experience of BDSM. Tantric breathing is a very powerful force that can really strengthen the bond between a Dom and sub during a play session and ultimately drive the sub incredibly deep into subspace.
My personal tantric breathing technique is actually very similar to the way that some yoga instructors want you to breath during their practice. Keeping the mouth tightly closed and breathing through only the nose, each inhalation breath should be taken as deeply as possible and each exhalation should done with as much force as possible (when done properly, this will include a tightening of the stomach muscles).
To incorporate this into BDSM play as a dom, the best way to begin is actually to fully gag your sub. Forcing them to breathe through their nose because they can not through their mouth, rather than just ordering them, to seems to be more effective teaching technique for some reason *G*. I would recommend using a ball gag and a self-adhesive Ace bandage (1 1/2" - 2" variety), to fully cover the mouth. Once gagged, focus on getting the sub to breathe in and out as deeply as possible before moving forward with your play. Removing all thoughts outside of the breath at this time is the first step for the beginner tantric sub.
Non-stress bondage (the type where the sub is held in place, but is not painful in itself) is a good way to help with this because it removes positioning concerns from the sub's thoughts, however having a well trained sub stay in a standard non-stress position can also produce the same results. Blindfolds or having the sub close their eyes is also a good helper technique.
Regardless of whether there is sensory deprivation or bondage involved, you should begin by instructing the sub about the type of deep breaths you expect. Stressing the fact that each breath should be strong enough that the dom should very clearly hear the air flowing in and out of their nose. Place your hand on the subs stomach to feel the breath flow in during inhalation and the stomach fully tighten during proper exhalation while providing instruction and encouragement in a soft tone or even matching the breaths. Let this go on until you feel that the sub has the technique mastered and then move onto whatever play you wish, although I would suggest leaving the gag in place until the sub has been through a few sessions and has internalized the breathing technique enough to keep it up even while being "played with" *EG*.
As for what is the best way to play with a sub who is using tantric breathing, basically anything goes although the more service oriented and role play is less effective than play where you are actively doing something to the sub (other than receiving a massage, but that is much more like real tantric sex than BDSM). To start with, I would recommend using constant torture to drive the sub into subspace and then intermittent tortures to really mess with them while they are there (although... *EG* there is not a reason to let them out of the constant tortures just because you are now doing something intermittent).
Constant tortures such as CBT, clamping, bondage and forced positions works very well in conjunction with tantric breathing. In all of these techniques, the sub is forced to endure the torture which tends to grow over time. The breathing will help the sub endure these for longer than normal but they will probably achieve subspace in a much faster and deeper manner during tantric BDSM play than normal.
Intermittent tortures such as impact play, violet wands or prods, scratching with fingernails or vampire gloves, etc... are also great ways to play with a tantric sub. Striking, stroking or prodding as the exhalation begins will force the exhalation to be quicker and stronger. Doing the same at the beginning of inhalation will force the sub to fight through the torture to maintain their breath for you (which you should insist on). Playing with the subs different reactions to each strike, stroke or prod as they hit the sub at different points within their breaths is really exhilarating as a dom because they can become like a marionette for you.
Tease and denial is another way to play and it is either so much better or less effective to incorporate tantric breathing into this, depending upon your point of view. The fact is that tantric sex is basically all about tease and denial. It is about bringing yourself to the point of orgasm without actually going over by controlling it through your breath and PC muscles. So, if your enjoyment of tease and denial as a dom is the torture that you put your sub through as they dance on the edge begging to go over, then tantric BDSM play can be a less productive torture technique. However, if your enjoyment as a dom is in driving the sub along that pleasure edge then incorporating tantric techniques will allow you to keep them on that edge indefinitely.
Finally, of course, there are the sexual acts which can really be enhanced using tantric breathing... and there are all kinds of applications that can be useful for a sub who has been trained to breathe through their nose for a long time *EG*. All in all, there are so many different ways to incorporate this technique into play that it is hard to come up with a list of what to do and how it affects the sub or your enjoyment as a dom. So, the best advice I can give to you is to teach the basic breathing technique and then experiment... a lot...
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