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Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 9:17:00 AM

littleone35

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I did somethng i was not supposed to do it was a (at least for us) minor issue i was late meeting Master it was only like 5 mins but i did not call him to let him know i was running a little late. Now i know i am not supposed to be late but i was running around then traffic. No excuse i know better.

I knew i was going to get displined for it. Master delayed my displine to let me think on it a bit. It was driving me crazy wondering what i was going to get and when i was going to get it. I finaly got it and the waiting was much worse then the displine itself. I actually think the waiting (for the other "sho"e to drop) was part of the displine. Let me think about what i did also.

My question: Did your Master/Daddy/Dom/me ever make you wait for displine/punishment to let you think about what you did to deserve it? Life for me was the waiting worse than the actual displine/punishment?

Once it is done it is over and behind us, but i know he decides when i get it not me.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 9:31:46 AM

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I have been disciplined once, but it was for something I deliberately did which was potentially dangerous to me. I left a party that we attended because I was pissed off, and I walked in a very dangerous gang infested area in a city of which I was not too familar. When he found me (some 15 miles up the road) he took me back to his place, stripped me naked and stuck me on the back porch to wait until we both cooled down. Since I was the one naked out on the porch it took me longer to get calm. Then he brought me in and we talked about how stupid it was for me to leave and walk in an area where anything might have happened to me. And he spanked me. The only waiting time was that which we took to think about what had happened and why. That was the first time I was ever spanked in a disciplinary manner and the last. Being late is sometimes unavoidable. Deliberately choosing to be late is something worth discussing in length.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 2:27:04 PM

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If I were driving through heavy traffic and might be 5 minutes late, he would not want me to phone him as it wouldn't have been safe. To him my safety is more important than the rules.

I have been disciplined once in 5 years. He took my books away from me and I wasn't permitted to read for 5 days. There was not waiting for the discipline. Since then when we have a problem, we discuss it. We talk about why something happened and how it should be handled in the future. Our relationship has changed and evolved over the 5 years and punishment is something we found we did not need.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 2:37:24 PM

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Let me make things more clear I knew ther was going to be traffic i should have left to meet him eariler. It was not the fact that i was late it is the fact i did not call to let him know i would be running late. I should have allowed time for the traffic. My safety is also the most important thing to my Master, i have to call him when i get home to let him know i made it safely. i love that.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 3:21:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

My question: Did your Master/Daddy/Dom/me ever make you wait for displine/punishment to let you think about what you did to deserve it? Life for me was the waiting worse than the actual displine/punishment?

No, they address the issue quickly. The time that follows is for reflection and articulation of his expectations regarding the infraction. Waiting doesn't stem the tide, it only delays the inevitable and it's better to get it over and done with.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 3:51:40 PM

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There are times it's delayed but not because he wants me to stew and think about it but because he just doesn't have the time or we're apart. Most times the punishment is swift and quick, I'm absolved and we move on with our lives.

I think he'd rather me be in a cheerful upbeat mood instead of sitting around being overly worried and concerned.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 5:57:37 PM

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I delay it if there's a good reason. If I need time to calm down, or if I don't have the time right away. I haven't used the delay itself as a tactic, but that's not to say I might not in the future.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 6:14:47 PM

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If you were driving were you supposed to break the law and call while driving or would he rather you were even later by first getting off the road? If you didn't have a solution, and you chose to try to not be even later then it was an accident and he needs to clarify it for next time. If you already knew that you should be even later by stopping to call, that's something else.

Of course if you thought you might make it on time, then you aren't at fault either. Unless you left half an hour too late at which point you should have called first. But really, what are you supposed to do? Me, I would call to tell him when I was leaving and state I had no idea how long it would take me to get there. But I wouldn't expect to be punished for traffic which is out of my control.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/20/2010 7:36:37 PM

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I'm not understanding the safety and lawbreaking comments. I have a bluetooth and talk hands-free from my car quite often. Or, yanno, I'd pull over and call once it was obvious I would be late. To me, it's common courtesy to let anyone (not just Mr. Owner-Man) know when I'm running late.

But that wasn't your question. No, discipline has not been intentionally delayed. It's been delayed because we live almost 90 minutes apart and can't always immediately get to each other. I actually only recall being disciplined twice. Both waited until we were together and his daughter wasn't home. In both cases, he let me know he'd address it when we were together, and in both cases I trusted he would address it fairly. I was grateful for the time to think about it beforehand, however.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/21/2010 7:47:36 AM

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The absolute worst thing for me is to be ignored. At least if Im being punished I matter, and he cares enough a out our future to inflict it.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/25/2010 7:06:36 AM

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Consequences are almost always immediate. Even if we are in public, I will at least tell her something like two lashes when we get home so she knows what is coming down the pike.
A few main exceptions
1-I am operating under time constraints (i.e. rushing out the door to a wedding) in which case I will deal with things when I get back.
2-I just feel like being cruel and making/watching her twist.
3-I actually want her to reflect on some aspect of what happened-when this happens, I let her know what I am doing.
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4-When I am emotionally upset. I never lay out consequences or inflict them when I am angry. It's just a bad idea for me.

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RE: Delay of Displine - 7/25/2010 7:29:54 AM

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if i am punished its usually because i did somthing stupid or forgot somthing he asked me to do. and one of them is if i ahve been late and forgot to tell him i would be if i am late its becuase i left late. as a rule i dont tend to do things that qarrent a punishment but if i feel i have done somthing wrong then he will often punishme as it gives me a close to it and i have usually asked for it. his method of choice is either oil of cloves as i want to cum so badly after but cant and makes me wait till the next day and i am driven crazy by desire till then. or he will say i cant cum for a few days it is often no longer than normal but jsut knowing i cant is th epoint. the resolution though clears the incident nad i can move on without it i will dwel on what has ahppend. but he wont delay punishment only maybe extend the period i have to wait. and when you are told you cant then even a day seems forever.

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