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AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Collar Me, what is it to you? (7/21/2010 7:43:56 PM)
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I almost did not want to answer this post.
It is so hard to explain what CM has been to me over the years from what it was then to what it is now.
What it was Then? Input. I found CM when someone on the IRC Bondage.Com Server said I should check it out. I had been running chat rooms on that server for almost 6 years by then. So I came anc checked it out. I was a Riot. I Had been a Moderator on a Private Mentors Group, and was a member of a group with a Similar B-Board settup as CollarChat had. So I came here and started posting. I had very different views than many of the people on CM, I posted them and got shit for quite a few of them.
I remember one poster here who gave me one of the rudest replies I have ever received and thinking to myself, "Where the fuck did she come up with that?" so I sat back and started learning how things work on CollarChat.
CollarMe Lost Interest pretty quickly, I mean it's great to get mail, but using it as a dating site was quickly found less than effective. So I came basically for these boards.
Over the years CollarChat has been a Major Frustration and a Major Distraction.
I have a firm belief on what I think about Moderation and Censorship. I also accept that this is not MY site and that I have no say how things are handled..... but I feel that I should be allowed to have my opinion without worry of retribution from the Mods, and for the most part I have been given that as long as I play nice, there have been a handful of situations between Mod11 and maybe one or two with VAA but beyond that I have no issues with how I Personally have been treated, I do however think some other people have been victims of emotional Moderation where actions were taken before all the facts or an actual overview was taken.... one of those things where a blanket punishment should have been given right or wrong because to have done anything else would have generated what it generated and that is people who think they have been unfairly judged, and others who feel vindicated when they were equally as wrong.
All that being said... I come to CollarMe because I have fun doing it. I Joke, I laugh, I read silly things, I have made "Friends" some I know face to face, some I have seen naked in person, some I have met online only, some of them I have seen naked too, and a whole bunch of people who are friends just because I think they are cool people. They may be Cyber Friends but I like them none the less.
My Phone Number is in like 40 to 50 peoples phones on this site and I will give it to just about anyone if you get to know me. I'll talk to you about ANYTHING and I'll help if there is something I can help with even if that means you just need someone to bitch too.
CollarMe is a place that I don't want to lose. This is why when I feel that I am being Spanked or Corrected by those in charge, unless it is a Moral issue I will most likely do as I have been asked to rather than make a stink about it. I will state my side, be it in a return e-mail that may never be read, but I do try to reply with my point of view.
I think the thing I dislike most about CollarMe is how quickly threads get derailed and people start talking shit about someone else in a post. It Bothers be that someone makes a comment and the thread gets completely derailed so that a posters comment can be torn to shreads. I think Opinions are Opinions, rather than derail a thread send a C-Mail. or Start a new Thread. I myself have been guilty of this a time or two but I try really hard to answer the Op's Original Question before I address anything else in a thread. Part of Discussion is going back and forth on the issue, but when the issue being tossed back and forth has little or nothing to do with what the Op Asked it seems wrong to give it that much attention.
I also see a lot of threads starting up that are designed to be a place to complain. I would like to see them moved to a sub section like Humor or Polls and Random Stupity rather than giving them top billing in some other group.
CollarMe is a place I enjoy being at, I think it has some flaws, I think some people go too far, I think some people need to be talked to and if they don't change their attitude should be asked to leave, I think that the Moderators do a HARD and THANKLESS Job, I also believe they are not always right. I Believe that CollarMe is just as Disfunctional as any other site I think is just has more Users and less staff than others do.
It's a Place I would rather Have than walk away from.
QSM
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